Last Build Date: Tue, 02 Nov 2005 22:24:00 GMTCopyright: Copyright 2005 Don W Strickland
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Mon, 25 Apr 2005 02:13:10 GMTFollow Up From Yesterday.
Follow-Up From Yesterday
I've received a lot of emails after my posting yesterday about Shelby. I feel that I want to follow that up with a word or two.
First, last year was the nightmare year for us. Shelby was selected by the girls in her class as a kind of sacrificial lamb. The acts of aggression and cruelty were terrible. We had to intervene, and it helped somewhat, but only in stemming the overt acts of aggression. There is nothing the grownups can do to stop the looks, passive aggression, manipulation, and teasing.
This year is not as difficult. She is in middle school now, so she is moving from class to class. She isn't trapped in a class with a group of girls who have decided to hate her. This latest bump in the road isn't much when compared to last year. She has learned to stand up for herself in appropriate ways, which also helps.
I also want to say that our small community of faith has been an incredible source of power and strength for us. Shelby is known and loved by many adults and friends in our faith community. The power of the tormenters at school withers before the greater and deeper power of love. It doesn't make the days easier, but she has the ego strength to cope. She knows she is loved and not just by her parents.
I want to skirt the edge of gender insensitivity and suggest that the social issues girls deal with at school are very different from those commonly experienced by boys. Girls have different ways of being aggressive and different kinds of pressures.
Jeanene and I found a book that really helped us understand the dynamics behind last year's nightmare. This book opened our eyes. What I have seen affirms this woman's basic premise. Adolescent girls can be VERY aggressive, and their aggression is often hidden and carefully planned. Also, the schools are often completely unaware of the situation, at least institutionally unaware. The institution does not want to be aware because it takes so much work to set it right.
Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls
by Rachel Simmons
Finally, thank you for your kind love and concern. This is not a sickness unto death, and Shelby will be fine.
rlp[Real Live Preacher]
saved this for future reference and so I could offer it to friends. ~ dws.
Mon, 25 Apr 2005 02:08:47 GMTVisitors.
I remember when I first told everyone my name, I was worried that people might show up at our church because of Real Live Preacher. I don't know why I was worried about that, but I was. Actually, I have an idea of what made me nervous, but it's the kind of stuff you talk to a therapist about. Something about meeting your alter-ego, something about worlds colliding, as George said on Seinfeld.
Well, no one showed up for a long time. Then some college people came one Sunday. Then a few other people. Then Matt from Correction. There were a few people from a church in Austin, and a young couple from San Marcos came a few Sundays. Then a guy and his wife from Austin. Then some people from Christian Century. And finally, the woman who wrote this and a friend visited a few weeks ago. She's a very funny writer. I told her I knew a good mechanic in town.
Not really that many people, if you think about it. I mean, that's all of them. And you know what? It's not a big deal at all. People come to church for all sorts of reasons. I don't talk about Real Live Preacher at church unless someone asks, and it really doesn't come up that much, which is nice.
It's been almost a year since I came out of the closet, so to speak. I do not regret the decision at all.
[Real Live Preacher]
Mon, 25 Apr 2005 01:58:14 GMTWorld Wide Wood: Self-Run DNS. Very simple instructions for enabling the built in DNS services in Mac OS X. Important for those days when Comcast[base ']s DNS servers flake out for hours on end. (Though, I confess, it was nice to have an enforced hiatus from being on line.) [Jarrett House North]
Wed, 24 Nov 2004 01:05:54 GMTPlease BUY these Big 12 Championship Tickets !!! Big XII Championship, Sat, Dec 04, 2004 at 07:00 PM (CST)
Mon, 25 Oct 2004 02:40:57 GMTA speed trick for playing older PC games with Virtual PC. I haven't seen this anywhere else, so this may help someone. I really enjoyed playing Monkey Island years ago, and I came across a Windows PC version of Monkey Island 3, which I had not played before. I know Virtual PC isn't ... [macosxhints]
Mon, 25 Oct 2004 02:36:20 GMTa crash for all the world to see.
I live in Las Vegas, the city of lights. There are big billboards up and down the strip all lit up, well recently one of the biggest casinos had a windows error and I thought the mac fans around the world would enjoy it. I posted it to my blog. www.brianstucki.com
(note: to preserve his bandwidth, I've saved a copy here -- mike)[MacMegasite - Macintosh news from a developer's point of view]