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This started off as a hesitant step, but the blog has grown and the journey has been enjoyable. These are just a collection of my ramblings and my views..a good reflection of what is running in my mind...

Updated: 2014-03-19T12:03:49.350+05:30


Wordpress beckons


I am finally moving to wordpress. I never did like the name of this blog and wanted to change it for a while. I kind of started experimenting with wordpress and finally have decided to make the change today.

So please update bookmarks and RSS feeds to

....dont know how long all of this will last. It is possible that I may just get bored and say 'enough of it all'.



Did the gods who created this beautiful world also create mankind and his disasters?

Did the gods who created innocence and children also create Nithari and Child Labour?

Did the gods who created Love, Chemistry and Magic also create Jealousy, Sadness and Heartbreaks?

Did the gods who created Motherhood also create the need for a 'Women's day'?

What kind of poetic justice is this?

Character of a City


What makes a person like a city or dislike one? Many a time I have used in my conversations with people, the term 'character' for a city. This thought comes from listening to the 'Dilli' song from 'Delhi Heights'. It is a pretty cool song and I thought it was a nice collage of Delhi.

Anyway, going on to the character thing. In every discussion, there have been enough defenders for each of the large cities.. the Delhi ones swear by Delhi...of course, the Mumbai-kar loyalists are the loudest and definitely Chennai has its bunch of lovers......a friend from Chandigarh claims nothing like her city...

But the thing about Bangalore...its a strange one...folks staying in other cities view Bangalore as this cool and fun place to be, which it is...but the number of detractors today that Bangalore has inside amazes me (for whatever reason) . Today most of the folks from Delhi or Chennai staying here dont like Bangalore.....given a chance, they would quickly shift out...

To me, its not so much about the traffic and infrastructure etc...its more about what can you associate with the city, what I call the character. Character is the essence or ethos of the city that needs to be felt. For me, when I travel or visit any city, if I can get a sense of that, then I consider my visit satisfying.

At some point, people have stopped making an effort to like Bangalore or understand the possible character of the city. When I started living here in Bangalore, it still had the 'small-town' nature, very laid back and it was just a clean beautiful city. Now I think Bangalore is in a confused awkward adolescence stage. Shes no longer a small kid nor is she an adult yet equipped to handle the growing up...yet the city is still an all-inclusive city which has accepted all into her folds (despite the politicians)

Like any city, there are the problems. But it's not all bad...
Well, maybe a Rabbi song for Bangalore is what is needed to prod folks into making an attempt to like the city ...

What's with stereotypes?


What is with stereotypes? For all the loud claims of our nation being such a diverse melting pot of cultures, I think we also probably have the largest number of stereotypes. Of course, there is absolutely no scientific thought to this claim…
But over time, we have built such strong stereotypes…

Of course the most I have encountered are about the Madrasis and the Sardars. While it is a guaranteed laugh for many a party, I actually there are quite a few people who do believe the stereotypes. The fact that a CNN-IBN can run a poll on North Indians and South Indians and perpetuate the stereotypes is probably a proof point. It’s almost a sort of urban legend….people have heard the same stories so many times in different contexts that it becomes a reality…

So therefore Delhi-ites are all showy….the Madrasis (of course that’s half the country) are the ones who don’t know to enjoy life…they just love their curd rice….etc etc…

Well, this post was a result of Ideasmith’s post on ‘Men from the Metros’. So women, pick your city and you know how the men are….Somebody create a guide for the women!! :)

At the least, it’s a great read!!



The moment has passed..
And the world is new..
Did not know that
New roads appear everyday

But then the question stays..
Do I wake up now?
Or wait for the demons to sleep?
Or will that never be?

I long for the moments of familiarity
But now I know that day is gone
So wake up to a new moment..
For the new demons and angels await

Wake up, oh child in you…
For the world is too beautiful
To not see it through
The eyes of the child….

~ Me

Ode to the Wind


Bring with you the dawn,
Take away with you the night,
The night that has been too long,
Give me a brand new day

A day of sunshine,
A day that makes me want to fly
Set me free as you are
Make this day worth my while

If you did bring something,
Bring me the whiff of joy and love,
Hold my hand today,
For the way seems all unfamiliar

Bring me the wisdom
Bring me the good tidings,
Set me free as you are
Make this day worth my while

~ Me

Before Sunrise: The space between


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Time and again why this is such a beautiful movie....

I believe if there's any kind of God it wouldn't be in any of us, not you or me but just this little space in between. If there's any kind of magic in this world it must be in the attempt of understanding someone sharing something. I know, it's almost impossible to succeed but who cares really? The answer must be in the attempt.

Where are the Happies?


Is it me or is the world so sad in general? Every blog that I seem to read has melancholy, sadness, nostalgia, disappointment and wistful thinking all over it....if not that, it is just intellectual ignorance written in the best possible English....
Where is all the happiness or is it that the happy people are all enjoying too much to sit in front of a computer and pen their thoughts...hmm...point to ponder....

The Angels


The bard says “all the worlds a stage”
But pray tell me,
What act plays out here now?
What part do I fulfill?

He says, have patience
There is a reason for every act
Trust the director
And play the part

Friend, foe, angel……
I know not…
Trust the moment …
This too indeed shall pass….

Thank the angels
For they are here for you….
You may not know them….
But know that they are there for you…

~ Me

Where are the dots....


...Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life....

- Steve Jobs @ Stanford

I wonder how my dots will look a few years from now... :)

This speech is probably one of the oft forwarded email forwards...but for the inspiring words that it has...his delivery of the speech was quite a let-down. I happened to see that on youtube.

We see so much of this kind of writing all around the place...but somewhere the majority of folks(including me) still plough on with their mundane existence awakening ourselves to the 'practicality' of life and just holding on to the dream till they get so bogged in surviving each day that they cannot stop to think of their dreams....

Damn the rational mind!!!

Give me a show....


I want to become really famous. Does anyone know of a reality show that I can take part? Preferably someone where you can add a few racial slurs...oh..i can vow to give gaali..i dont mind it at all...

Its just crazy how the world is going gaga over a stupid TV show. Its amazing how hypocritical Indians are....we have probably one of the most complex societies that has a lot of foundations on casteist and completely racist lines. We are a society where we still fight against discrimination by gender...female infanticide...we have still dalits being persecuted...we have state-sponsored religious cleansing...

Yet we take the righteous route as if we were the symbol of equality...

Its turning out to be the biggest comedy event that I have seen in recent times. External Affairs Ministry making public statements and Tony Blair condemning the racial slur in the British parliament...
What is wrong with this world???? the way, I wonder how many of these righteous people actually saw the slur...Until yesterday, Shilpa Shetty was becoming a largely forgotten actress with no special talents to really speak she represents an entire nation...
Seriously, something wrong with the world....

Maybe we should request Shilpa Shetty to become the PM of UK...its time we took on the imperialists.... :-)

Another part of me....


I was thinking about multiple personalities and split personalities and how it impacts people. Is there a split personality in all of us which we may limit to certain settings and forums?

I think blogging in many cases could be a manifestation of this 'other side' of the person. I could be a very extroverted kind of person but my blog could be a reflection of the introverted side of me or vice versa. The side that I would want to keep away from the 'social image' that I carry amongst people.

In some ways, a lot of my blog posts have been in some sense, 'melancholic' which may not be the image I usually carry... (of course I could be completely wrong in how people perceive me..the Johari window, they say)

Maybe different people have different ways of harnessing and managing the other side of them. Is that why we hear about people who could be introverted in a social offline setting but are really the 'dude' when they take on an avatar online.... (Rediff Bol's shady TV commercial comes to mind...)

While I was discussing this with a friend about how a blog could reflect the anti-thesis of what you are normally....she brought the idea of this being like a personal diary....possibly...but a blog is in some ways a little different still do want a few people to read and understand what's going on in your mind and respect you for that...whatever said and done, it does sometimes help build perspective within yourself...

We are the Game...


This post is totally disoriented and will probably have no semblance of sanity but then it is a Friday.

What if all of life was one massive computer game with its multiple storylines and plots. Then, for every decision there would be at least 2 paths. There would be a parallel universe where the same characters exist but with a different story and plot. Of course that has to be true given that we are all part of the 'Matrix'. No program exists without an alternative subroutine.

In some philosophical way, this is probably true. At every point in time, we are always confronted with decisions which may or may not have a deep impact on how your life's paths turn. There is always a Sliding Door in front of you. What you do going forward is just a function of whether you took the door or not.

I have no idea or recollection why I started thinking of this. The only thing that came to my mind was 'deja vu'. In this computer game of life, maybe deja vu would be the cheat code which would allow you to make the decision of whether to take the door or not....some sort of a time travel thing so you know what the door leads to...

Too many things in my head, I guess...I am not making sense to myself...
Let it just be known that 'We are the Game'.....and next time, do take the door...

Jagjit Singh - Na Mohabbat Na Dosti


ना मोहब्बत ना दोस्ती केलिये
वकत्त रुक्ता नही किसी केलिये

दिल को अप्ना सज़ा न दे युऩ ही
इस ज़माने की बेरुखी केलिये

कल़ जवानी का क्या हशर क्या होगा
सोच ले आज दो घडी केलिये

हर कोइ प्यार डुण्ड्ता है यहा
अप्नी तन्हा सी ज़िन्दगी केलिये

वकत्त के साथ साथ चल्ता रहे
यही बहत्तर है आदमी केलिये

ना मोहब्बत ना दोस्ती केलिये
वकत्त रुक्ता नही किसी केलिये

- Jagjit Singh

(Its difficult to type it right in Hindi. So for any purists,take a hike!)
Update:I also realized that depending on what Unicode font is installed, the font may show some mistakes....

No..not a retrospect on 2006


IBNLive Sagarika Ghose's Blog calls it a new baby....Count on her to hyperbole it by a notch. While it is indeed good to see a lot of citizen activism, I think this lady takes too much credit for doing it. I think we did have some good things going on the last year. The most important of them, to me, would be the Right To Information act being actually used by quite a few folks....a lot of factors, not just CNN-IBN... (but to their credit, they have managed to create a mark in their short lifespan....)

While this all augurs well and it is great to be all happy and gay, I just hope the Indian media does not become the trash that American media has become...(and I am afraid that's where we are heading).

As I have observed in many of my previous posts, we are all happy about all the good things happening and are generally optimistic....and I know it is inevitable but it would be sad to see us all aping the American way of doing things and 50-60 years down the line, the next generation starts thinking about the 'good old days'.....

On a completely different note, her imagery of a new baby brings to my mind Rushdie's 'Midnight Children'. The first time, it happened when India was being born....Now are we looking at the next generation of Midnight Children? I have no idea when they were born or whether they are yet to arrive....but definitely something significant is happening around us......and it is indeed a fortunate yet challenging time for us to be in India when this transformation is happening around us....

Do Nothing...


If there needs to be a wikihow to tell you 'how to do nothing', then there is something wrong with the world. Why is it so difficult to set time for yourself as a person.

People blame everything else but themselves for not finding time to 'do nothing'. I think the world just takes itself too seriously...

Well anyway, if you still need the instructions book on doing nothing, here goes

People and Life...


I had written this sometime ago...but never came to posting it. I guess in some way this time of the year is appropriate for such a post, for 2006 has indeed been such a year for me...may put another post on what the year has meant for me...

'..People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person....

When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically,emotionally, or spiritually....

What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life....'

~ Anonymous (courtesy Shiju)

Just set me thinking about the countless number of people one would have met along the way...Isnt life all about this?

The person who guided us, a bunch of lost kids back to safety in Sabarimala amongst the millions of devotees and disappeared by the time we felt calmer and safe....
the people who we meet on our train journeys, flight exchanged but never followed up...we sit and chat and then go our separate ways never to be remembered again...

Then there will be those rare folks with whom you connect like you have always known you were meant to meet and then try to savor them for a lifetime...the ones who you can take off from where you left it the last time you talked... some sense Orkut and technology have removed some of the thrill of nurturing a relationship...

AFTERTHOUGHT: Maybe Orkut & technology are actually necessary to reach out to a larger world of connected people...

The Favor Bank



Photo courtesy:Howies

I read about this the first time in Paulo Coelho's 'The Zahir' (in fact I liked this much more than the completely hyped Alchemist) and I thought it was neat.
It works like do a favor to someone without hope that it will ever get repayed. However it does get deposited into this Favor Bank and you could be making deposits for a long time..but there will come a time when you need to make a withdrawal and for sure, you will find someone to make that deposit...

While today the world has become a much more cynical place and the fact that 'nice guys' are probably still making those deposits only, I still believe there is hope and think that there is quite a lot of goodness in the world, that which clearly comes out in times of crisis (think Mumbai for its multiple crises). Yet we have become so cynical that we do not think anyone deserves a deposit because we believe that there is no one there to help us make a withdrawal when needed.

Now that I think of it, I can relate this concept to what Kamalahassan had so beautifully portrayed in a movie that was not a commercial success 'Anbe Sivam'. In the movie, the simple point that he makes is that there is a 'God' in everyone...(not from a religion point of view) but the fact that most people are by nature mostly good and they would have made a deposit at some point or other into the favor bank. When they make that deposit, they become God for the recipient...and of course he does not do it expect a return favor...

It is indeed sad that this cynicism pervades everything in life today.... can they do this...


Since I have been brilliantly been busy doing nothing, the blog seems all desolate and lonely where there has been nothing new growing....

But then the world is the same, so why should I not have the same post again? Well now that I know Aishwarya and Baby B (as NDTV calls Abhishek) went to Banaras together ( can they go to a holy town together...chee..chee..) Well..too lazy to write here goes...

An Appeal to a Cable Operator (written in July)

Seriously, cant we have a holiday for one news channel a day? Maybe Monday, CNN-IBN, Tuesday:TimesNow, Wednesday: NDTV... you get the drift...its disgusting how unimaginative television has become...

These guys are spoiling the one enjoyable thing of surfing....I mean, an orgy over a 5-yr old boy falling into a well and now everyone has Mumbai, one year later...

If there is one thing where the cable operator should exercise his right of autocratic customer service,it should be in not screening one news channel a day...

Thank God for Seinfeld...



Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish

~ From Steve Job's Convocation Speech at Stanford....

It's 'I' all the way....


There are different viewpoints on advertising. Supposedly the biggest challenge to advertisers is that with the latest technology (TiVo) and pay-per-view etc, consumers are now being given more and more the choice to NOT see ads. That creates a huge problem since the number of consumable items demanding the attention of the consumer is infinite while the 'attention pie' is just going on shrinking. So what does that translate into? How do advertisers hold attention...but this post is not about the challenges there..

The most recent ad that made me sit up was this one from Sony Ericsson for their Walkman series of phones (Low Bandwidth link). I think this was brilliantly executed and really would touch a chord with those groups of people for whom music is an integral part of life. But what struck me more was the images that they convey. All of the images in the ad are of individuals who are just enjoying the moment, their private moment with their own music even if they are surrounded by a huge sea of people. These people could be having huge problems but here they are at this moment, just immersed in the music and the only important thing being 'I'. Do we all not go through these moments or at least crave for these moments when we just can be what we want to be not thinking about what the next moment will bring?

I am quite sure, when they put the storyboard they probably did not think of it in so much detail. But I guess that is what makes a good ad. It should connect to people in different ways.

So if I look at it, what works for me in this ad is:
1. The images of 'ordinary' people in their daily setting
2. The music score for the ad, unobtrusive but still very much the soul
3. Most importantly, the concept of the music being their liberator...

I think Sony Ericsson is really getting this piece right.....

(Well, I guess I must also add that I am a die-hard Sony Ericsson fan all my mobile phones having been from this stable)

The other ad I do like from the recent ones on TV is the Ponds one showing these women all in a introspective kind of mood..have been trying to get a link to it online...even there it works because there are no gimmicks..its just ordinary people.I like all of these ads for displaying the importance of 'I'...People just tend to forget the 'I' in their daily dose of existing....

Kudos to the ad agencies...

Send me an angel...


The wise man said just walk this way
To the dawn of the light
The wind will blow into your face
As the years pass you by
Hear this voice from deep inside
It's the call of your heart
Close your eyes and you will find
The passage out of the dark

Here I am
Will you send me an angel
Here I am
In the land of the morning star

The wise man said just find your place
In the eye of the storm
Seek the roses along the way
Just beware of the thorns

Here I am
Will you send me an angel
Here I am
In the land of the morning star

The wise man said just raise your hand
And reach out for the spell
Find the door to the promised land
Just believe in yourself
Hear this voice from deep inside
It's the call of your heart
Close your eyes and you will find
The passage out of the dark

Here I am
Will you send me an angel
Here I am
In the land of the morning star
Here I am
Will you send me an angel
Here I am
In the land of the morning star

~ The Scorpions

The Science of Employee Motivation....


Employee motivation is a big challenge for any HR professional especially in the Indian IT sector where expectations management is a big issue..

This piece is a cool satire on the whole thing of employee motivation...would love to see managers using this....

The conclusion is pretty simple:
¤ When your company says "Great companies are made by great employees," they aren't talking about you.

¤ When your company insists that "Each employee makes a special contribution," that's not you either....

¤ When your company discusses its relatively low turnover rate, it wouldn't mind if it went up another point, if you catch our empirical drift.

¤ Your deep-seated fear of being revealed as a fraud who doesn't really deserve the job you have is unfounded. Everybody knows.

One Life to Live and Love....


It is fascinating to think how the whole algorithm of life and mannerisms are programmed to change with age.

I happened to observe closely some of the mannerisms of my niece during these holidays. It is indeed an enriching experience. Maybe this was what was meant when they said 'the child is the father of man'.

I am not sure if all adults are like this but I think we all do lose out a lot of the 'child' in us. Anyone who can retain the persona of his/her childhood while gaining the wisdom from experiences will be a happier person.

If you observe a child closely, you will see that they do not think when it comes to articulating affection. There is no holding back...It may be a special hug or just an attempted conversation when they feel affectionate...

What changes as a person grows up? Why do we as adults become hesitant to show affection? What changes in the algorithm and when does this change happen? It could be love for a partner, respect for a parent, affection for a friend. Maybe the articulation is more subtle once you grow up...but i guess it might just help enrich the relationship if you do say it once in a while....

I am not saying all adults stop doing this but it may be worthwhile searching out the child in us…..

Home No More....


I stumbled on this from a blog (via Ash) but I thought it was so perfect for all those people who have been living away from their homes...

"Andrew Largeman: You know that point in your life when you realize that the house that you grew up in isn't really your home anymore? All of a sudden even though you have some place where you can put your stuff that idea of home is gone.

I still feel at home in my house.

Andrew Largeman: You'll see when you move out it just sort of happens one day and it's just gone. And you can never get it back. It's like you get homesick for a place that doesn't exist. I mean it's like this rite of passage, you know. You won't have this feeling again until you create a new idea of home for yourself, you know, for your kids, for the family you start, it's like a cycle or something. I miss the idea of it. Maybe that's all family really is. A group of people who miss the same imaginary place."

~ From Garden State

A little cynical about family but some of the things said is true.....i guess..