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Comment on How Spanking Can Cause Sexual Arousal In Children And Affect Them In Adulthood by Wayne Corbett

Wed, 01 Nov 2017 01:21:01 +0000

I appreciate your well written article and clearly stated truths about a most important subject. As a child I was whipped wit a belt, switch, and sticks. I made to remove my clothes except my underwear. I felt overwhelming fear, embarrassment,, and humiliation. I didn't understand some of the intense feelings I had. I can now understand that genitals are near the buttocks and that pain and physical trauma in that area can cause intense physical sensations. I have also come to understand that there was clearly sexual undertones to my whippings. I had to go into bedroom and undress .During very impressionable times sex and physical hitting and pain and the psychological tendency to be submissive. became imprinted. I won't elaborate here and now. I just want to say that hitting children is primitive and violent. A number of country had made spanking illegal.



Comment on How Spanking Can Cause Sexual Arousal In Children And Affect Them In Adulthood by Lindsey

Sun, 04 Sep 2016 00:37:51 +0000

A wonderful Christian book that explores why as Christians we SHOULDN'T spank and uses the Bible to back up this point of view is Jesus The Gentle Parent by L.R. Knost.



Comment on Heads of Household Meetings (Wives Not Welcome) by The Free Speech Mockery | Culture, adventure, stillness

Mon, 02 Nov 2015 04:15:21 +0000

[…] blogs on Facebook. This isn’t the first time this has happened in the CREC — Emeth Hesed writes about how her pastor showed up at her house at 11:30 pm and stayed for three hours lecturing her because […]



Comment on Heads of Household Meetings (Wives Not Welcome) by mary kathryn

Mon, 09 Jun 2014 21:58:27 +0000

Ahh -- CREC. That's really all you need to say!



Comment on How Spanking Can Cause Sexual Arousal In Children And Affect Them In Adulthood by Rodney Calmes

Thu, 27 Feb 2014 06:30:20 +0000

I used to get spanked with a 3 foot stick on my bare butt. I hated it as a child. I got my last bare butt spanking with a stick at age 7 by my step dad. I started getting spanked with a stick at age 4 when I lived with my paternal grandparents. I was spanked for every little thing. That last spanking on my bare butt at age 7 is what I believe triggered my likings to get spanked. I started liking to get spanked at age 8. I self spanked at age 15. I do feel that I was sexually violated by having to expose myself to get spanked. I went through adolescence thinking about spankings and spankings becomes a stronger need for me than actual sexual activity itself. When I was younger, I could perform normal sexual activities with my wife, but as I got older, my sexuality started to slow down and I started to require spankings or whippings to be able to perform. When things got too far, it made my wife uncomfortable with spanking me and all sexual activity stopped because I was unable to perform otherwise. Many times when engaging in sexual activity, it has brough flashbacks of the bare butt spankings I got with a stick. I have had to work a lot of that out emotional because I would go into an emotional depression after sexual activity. After working my abuse issues out, I was able to engage in what I liked and not have too many problems after. I was very much ashamed of who I was and I was ashamed of being the person who got spanked on my bare butt. I struggled with that for many years. I always thought there was something wrong with me because of that. After studying about the sexual effects of spanking and the actual physical mechanics behind it, it has helped me to accept myself. I also interview others who like to get spanked and found that every one of them has been spanked with blunt objects or with a hand with blunt force at least once in their lives and a good majority of them desired to get spanked at a pre-adolescent age. Rodney Calmes



Comment on How Spanking Can Cause Sexual Arousal In Children And Affect Them In Adulthood by SpankingShouldBeBanned

Mon, 09 Dec 2013 05:11:22 +0000

How wonderful of you to write this! I was spanked as a child, not at all in an abusive or sexual way, but even so, it caused me a lot of confusion both emotionally and sexually. Children should absolutely never be spanked.



Comment on How Spanking Can Cause Sexual Arousal In Children And Affect Them In Adulthood by compasionate

Fri, 18 Oct 2013 02:21:37 +0000

I have a similar story, as a boy ritually had bottom clothing removed by my mother for a spanking. At the time I was ignorant that the pleasant feelings I was experiencing prior to the spanking was erotic arousal even though my body was too young to physically exhibit this arousal. Thus with the emotional trauma of my mothers ritual punishment I eroticized her body humiliation of me by her ritual undressing of pants and underwear and then total sexual exposure to her. I've suffered a strong desire to be humiliated and body shamed by a mother figure now since age 9, and I'm 54 yrs old! How could our good Lord ever wish this lifelong sexual addiction upon me for some childhood misbehavior? Jesus never recommended harming a child, EVER!



Comment on How Spanking Can Cause Sexual Arousal In Children And Affect Them In Adulthood by Stephanie

Tue, 23 Jul 2013 04:35:41 +0000

I found this article quite interesting because I always thought that what happened to me as a female child meant there was something wrong with me, but now I can see that other people had similar experiences. My father used to give me spankings when I was a child. As I grew older and older, the spankings became longer and harder. The humiliation of my father seeing my private parts and the feeling of his hand spanking me caused me to get involuntarily sexually aroused. When I was 16, I was getting spanked for flunking a test. Since my father made me spread my legs for the spankings, I knew that he could see my private parts while I was getting spanked. On that specific occasion, the arousal built quickly, and I tried not to let it happen, but I had an orgasm, and my father saw my anal contractions. We were both so embarrassed. That was the last ever spanking I got, thank God, but even today, as a 45 year old woman, I avoid relationships because any sex will painfully remind me of the humiliation I experienced that day. My father passed last year, and I miss him. He meant well, but he hurt me.



Comment on The Head of Household in the Bible by kingschapelbrooklyn

Thu, 20 Jun 2013 06:27:45 +0000

This was linked on facebook. Glad I saw it. Excellent post, Emeth. Very helpful. Well worded. A much needed post considering this common unbiblical practice of HOH meetings. Thank you. Peace, Pastor Troy The King's Chapel Brooklyn, New York



Comment on The Head of Household in the Bible by Tim

Thu, 20 Jun 2013 02:30:36 +0000

Thanks, Emeth. While I wouldn't quite grant the argument about God's femaleness, as I believe the female metaphors for God or of a different character than the male ones, I think almost everything else here is spot on. We are saved into the Patriarchy of God, not of men; and in the Messiah, we are all equally heirs and clothed with Him as our robe of authority and inheritance.



Comment on The Head of Household in the Bible by Heads of Household Meetings (Wives Not Welcome) « Nakking Notes

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 19:04:01 +0000

[...] This post has generated a lot of discussion, with hundreds of shares on Facebook and over 1,200 readers. Follow the discussion on my Facebook post and my husband’s Facebook post. Are Heads of Household Meetings biblical? Read this. [...]



Comment on Heads of Household Meetings (Wives Not Welcome) by The Head of Household in the Bible « Nakking Notes

Wed, 19 Jun 2013 19:02:26 +0000

[...] with some friends in July, 2011, because we were attending a church where the pastor instituted Heads of Household meetings which excluded women. The pastor of that church told me I was not allowed to write anything more on the topic on my blog [...]



Comment on Heads of Household Meetings (Wives Not Welcome) by The Whole Cherry Tree | Bully's Blog

Thu, 13 Jun 2013 08:51:43 +0000

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Comment on Heads of Household Meetings (Wives Not Welcome) by Rev Carl Wegner

Wed, 12 Jun 2013 21:31:38 +0000

I have meet a graduate of the Greyfriars Hall pastoral training program in Moscow, Idaho. I found him much like this pastor. But other's I see who go into the CREC as Seminary Graduates are not like this guy. Sorry about your bad experience. Rev. Carl Wegner Reformed Episcopal Church



Comment on Heads of Household Meetings (Wives Not Welcome) by Aaron Burt+

Tue, 11 Jun 2013 23:27:38 +0000

These issues are dicey, and stirring the pot can cause things to spill and make a mess.... but so be it! I believe the Church has an obligation to grapple with difficult issues and to dialogue graciously about them. We do equal parts harm when, in the name of gentleness we fail to converse, and when, in the name of truth, we fail to be kind. I applaud your attempt to broach the topic, Emeth, and I hear your heart in the issue. As a priest--charged with representing Christ in the Chruch (a sobering responsibility!)--I am sorry that you have felt (and been) belittled in the Church. On behalf of Christ's ministers, I'm sorry. I pray God's mercy for the ways in which we fail as pastors. May God plant fruitful trees in the stinky fertilizer of that past experience. Aaron+ (And three cheers for Rebekah heralding Anglicanism. I'm glad to have found an expression of the Church known for its "sweet reasonableness"!)



Comment on How Spanking Can Cause Sexual Arousal In Children And Affect Them In Adulthood by Angela

Wed, 10 Apr 2013 00:03:53 +0000

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Pro-Active-Parenting-WA/571624966201954 You guys can go to this site to fight against the use of Corporal Punishment. While we are situated in WA we seek to educate everyone and fight against it nationwide. We are young as a group, but many are talking about us. Someone told me that you can not get sexually aroused by a spanking because you must consent to the sexual implications. I told them they insulted every rape victim who was aroused by their non consenting confrontation. When you touch private parts, you run the risk of sexually arousing someone. People need to understand this is not okay, especially when used against children. It is old and barbaric, and people need to evolve.



Comment on Like Children by Rick Capezza

Sun, 24 Mar 2013 22:15:52 +0000

"Among some people who believe in the doctrines of original sin and total depravity, there is an overwhelmingly heavy emphasis on sin in children, constantly pounding that point, telling them how horribly sinful they are, that it seems it is easy for parents to lose sight of the fact that their children are made in God’s image, beautiful, loving, forgiving." I don't really think it's about the doctrine of original sin or even total depravity. You can easily turn that around and say, "Among people who believe we need works added to grace," or "Among theonomists with a high view of the law" or any number of things. The truth is that parents are sinners, and we're all just doing the best we can, just as our parents did.



Comment on How Spanking Can Cause Sexual Arousal In Children And Affect Them In Adulthood by Not okay

Sun, 24 Feb 2013 08:31:06 +0000

This article was written about me just about. In my marriage I have had strong surges of feeling like I need to be "punished" or hurt, and it does sexually arouse me. But it also isn't healthy and I know that too. I wish I had the guts to come clean about just how deeply this has affected me. I have mentioned it a few times, and even labeled it sexual abuse, and I just get people telling me that what I am talking about are "liberal lies". But they aren't. I have and am living them, though recovering more all the time, thanks to the grace of a great and merciful savior. <3 I don't even know if I have the guts to share this on FB, but I thank you so much for writing, and for validating all the people like me, who were spanked, but are not okay. <3



Comment on Killer Deals, Prices To Die For by Links to Think: 13.02.04 | Keren Threlfall

Mon, 04 Feb 2013 10:04:23 +0000

[...] Killer Deals, Prices To Die For - The cost of our love for “cheap” is higher than we think, and it’s often paid for in human costs. My online friend Emeth Hesed has some helpful writing in thinking more about this topic, and how we need to consider stewardship over convenience. [...]