Published: Sun, 04 Dec 2016 08:26:30 -0600
Sun, 04 Dec 2016 08:11:14 -0600Without having been deprived of compassion we don't really understand compassion's importance. Its basis is the meaning of life, providing purpose which drives us along in our living the abundant life of loving others.
Fri, 02 Dec 2016 07:34:07 -0600That season of brokenness we endured, in the faith that something better was imminent, ultimately, even as endurance was tested dozens of times, proves the above truth right every time. As we reminisce we cry because God has made that cause of our brokenness the very catapult that has restored us.
Tue, 22 Nov 2016 09:50:06 -0600Grief has taught me my emotional range, but just as much it has taught me a paradox. Whilst words are inadequate, words are necessary, even as we attempt to make meaning of something that is unfathomable.
Mon, 21 Nov 2016 08:26:04 -0600When you are missing a loved one during this season of Thanksgiving, it is often difficult to feel thankful. Yes, you are grateful for eyes to see, ears to hear, limbs to move..
Wed, 16 Nov 2016 07:05:08 -0600The death of a loved one is the most obvious loss we can encounter, but, of course, there are many losses that blindside us. Somehow we could not anticipate how gutted we would feel. Such losses bring about unprecedented pain. The pain of brokenness.
Mon, 14 Nov 2016 15:11:18 -0600Arising from the bed of awful sorrow and nurturing new hope and joy required purpose, willpower and sustained resolve. It wasn't a casual walk in the park to acquire a better understanding of my grief and find sustained purpose and peace in my life. New roots of hope and fortitude had to be given room to develop. Learning to reconcile my grief and find new peace and joy required commitment and continued determination. I knew that coming out on the other side of my grief and loss to find my new normal was necessary for it was to become what my future life is. I knew what matters most is how I handle that challenge. Yet, initially I had to overcome the woe-is-me mindset by focusing on the positives and what I still had. Expressing one's inner turmoil outwardly can be a way of finding relief, and stop grieving and start healing. No matter the situation it is important to live life to its fullness.
Mon, 14 Nov 2016 09:44:37 -0600The scariest of places is reserved as a mix of the emotions of sadness, fear and surprise. Unparalleled in human experience is the moment when life renders to experience something very foreign.
Mon, 07 Nov 2016 08:36:34 -0600I write a lot on loss and the grief that comes out of it. I write about my responses, yet hopefully never in ways in which to say, "this-or-that is right and this-or-that is wrong." The truth of matters is that your response to your situation is best for you as it is discerned by you, and given the information you have at hand, anyone else would make the same response if they were in your situation.
Mon, 31 Oct 2016 07:57:17 -0500Ever noticed a friend in stress? How about soothing them a little? How do you do that? Look inside to find out.
Mon, 31 Oct 2016 07:46:17 -0500All Souls' Day coincides with an annual period of remembrance for our family - the time between October 30 and November 7, when we lost our son to stillbirth and were allowed 179 hallowed hours with him before we said our final goodbye. It's a time that will never be insignificant. Each year we get away to a quiet place to appropriately solemnify this precious period. And yet this is only the second time we've done it. His life, from conception to completion, took place within the year 2014.
Mon, 31 Oct 2016 07:46:06 -0500On an innocent enough Tuesday, July First, morning, eternity reached down and intervened in our lives in a remarkable way. At a worldly level, it was an unfathomable loss, but the very unfathomable nature of the loss was what connected us irrevocably with eternity's realm.
Wed, 26 Oct 2016 09:27:28 -0500Last week marked the fifth anniversary of the loss of my dad and husband just two weeks apart. My grief journey has been like a roller coaster ride with many ups and downs.
Tue, 18 Oct 2016 07:23:50 -0500Sorrow is a powerful word; it embraces grief, sadness, personal pain and regret; it also carries its cause which is hopelessness. Why is it powerful? Because it can control and even destroy a human life; it is frequently is found within the cause of those who give up. We don't invite it into our lives or ever hope to know it. Its arrival, while never announced is always profound and even varied. It may be the result of the unexpected and final loss of someone you love, the slow erosion of wishes, hopes and dreams or the desire to be loved or important to someone. Whatever its cause when it arrives in our life joy is swept away like the sand carried out with the tide. Hopelessness is profound; it contains the story of washed away dreams.
Mon, 17 Oct 2016 07:57:57 -0500Why does my heart feel so bad? Why does my soul feel so bad? Oh the pain... enough of this! It's okay. I can find comfort. I can find an escape... No. There's an opportunity cost in denying our rawest emotions, or bypassing them through cynicism
Sat, 15 Oct 2016 11:02:08 -0500As I pondered thoughts of time two years ago, in going through Nathanael's few possessions, including the cards of condolence we received at his funeral, the Lord indicated - THIS ONE. One particular card. Then, on opening it, out sprung some words from Psalm 31. Parts of the psalm speak of a time when God saw us in our pain, gave us room to breathe, and in our anguish, per the people's prayers, He showered us with kindness. Oh the depths of pain that we're called to endure - in cultivating healing, by tenuously avoiding denial and cynicism.
Wed, 12 Oct 2016 07:56:29 -0500It's sure that most people will feel massive pain after losing a loved ones. This article shows you how to get over the loss of loved ones and how to heal yourself with time.
Tue, 11 Oct 2016 08:01:30 -0500We often assume grief as losing someone we love. While that's true, grief comprises a much more broader area. This article reveals other forms of grief you may not even notice.
Tue, 11 Oct 2016 08:00:52 -0500While it may be difficult to think about the practical implications right after a loved one dies, this is something we all need to eventually do. This article shows you what practical things you must do after losing someone.
Tue, 11 Oct 2016 08:00:04 -0500Sometimes people think others over-react when they lose someone. While it may seem true to a third party, it's not what's going on with the person being directly affected. This article explains why you should never compare grief with others and judge people as a result.
Mon, 10 Oct 2016 09:02:31 -0500Therapy and counselling can be useful when it comes to dealing with grief. This article explains how you can use psychotherapy and other methods to approach the loss of loved ones.
Mon, 10 Oct 2016 09:02:21 -0500Most people go through similar stages when they experience grief. This article explains the 5 common stages of grief based on some psychodynamic research and how you can use them as reference for the future potential use.
Thu, 22 Sep 2016 10:17:26 -0500Stories were the theme of my day recently. Narratives of life... of family, distant and imminent, of the weariness of time, of pain and loss, through death and separation... but also of reconnection, of hope for a future beyond loss, of achievement underpinned by purpose.
Mon, 19 Sep 2016 07:29:32 -0500After loosing a loved one so many people suffer tremendously with a horrible sense of loss and grief. I feel absolutely compelled to tell the story of a profound experience shared while conducting a session in psychic mediumship with new clients who'd just unexpectedly lost a loved one weeks before. It always brings such joy to my heart and soul to have the opportunity to observe or be a part of reconnecting loved ones existing in separate planes of existence. Although it is a work gaining more and more understanding, our society, and science are just scratching the surface of understanding communication between the world of the living and those who have transitioned in death. It can be such powerful work, bringing healing, love, and peace to those who research, prepare, and approach it with an open heart and mind.
Sun, 11 Sep 2016 10:14:20 -0500Grief is one of the most profound and painful human emotions. Your dreadful sadness and subsequent mourning may be a consequence of one of innumerable circumstances. You feel torn apart inside and sorrow has settled in your heart and mind like a dark heavy fog. You have cause to mourn. Only when you understand what grief is, and how powerfully it can imprison your thoughts, emotions, and even your whole persona, can you begin to work through your grief. Understanding your grief and what you can do about healing helps you begin your healing journey to a healthier happier place.
Fri, 09 Sep 2016 08:46:15 -0500This is the story behind my 9/11 parable entitled; "In The Blink Of An Eye" that I wrote on behalf of the families who lost loved ones on September 11th 2001. In a world that's increasingly plagued by so many random acts of senseless violence, there seems to be nothing left to say that can rationalize its cowardly actions, but on this the fifteenth anniversary of 9/11 and the loss of so many mothers, fathers, husbands, wives, daughters & sons, I pray that the following parable brings some small measure of solace. Unfortunately like...
Fri, 09 Sep 2016 07:28:21 -0500Dead... the finality of this word is profound. Mind numbing shock accompanies gut-wrenching pain. No more chances, no second guesses, nothing at all, just gone. 'It can't be true' is all we can muster as we absorb this life altering change. Surely it can't be true. Yesterday now becomes our last normal day, there are no tomorrows for our child. Our children are the future we knew we could count on, no matter what else may change. They represent tomorrows; they're not supposed to leave before we do.
Thu, 08 Sep 2016 07:33:26 -0500If you can't find reasons to be joyful, your perspective needs changed. Peace and joy go together. Grief doesn't only present aching of the heart and mind but also new possibilities and new roots for growth. Finding Healing, peace and joy after grief involves a specific conditioning of the mind and a positioning of the heart. A steady satisfaction of contentment, confidence and hope are required. Joy is something that is deep within and doesn't leave hurriedly. It is more than a fleeting happiness. The circumstances leading to your grief may even result in your inability to fully recover, but seizing every opportunity to reclaim your life should be your prime objective.
Wed, 07 Sep 2016 09:52:40 -0500In the age of computers, still nearly fifteen years ago now, I had a typewriter. It's okay. I didn't want the garish IBM laptop that my previous employer had supplied me, with phone and car (so they could have access to my entire life). The typewriter did not come with obligations; it did what I wanted it to do. With diligent obedience it struck ink onto a sheet of paper with the precise purpose that my emotional fingers conveyed. So many times that typewriter subserviently acted as the mediator in my grief.
Wed, 31 Aug 2016 13:41:50 -0500What takes us to that soul stillness of poise amid the grief in loss where we grapple seismic moments? There is the need of hope. And the Lord's provision is found in the birth of change in and through us; change, albeit, we'd never wish ever to be forced to encounter and experience.
Mon, 29 Aug 2016 07:54:17 -0500Join a business etiquette and modern manners expert as she discusses the etiquette of sympathy. Learn how to handle a situation when a colleague, co-worker or a business associate suffers a loss.
Tue, 23 Aug 2016 07:54:15 -0500Grief is one of the most profound and painful human emotions. Your dreadful sadness and subsequent mourning may be a consequence of one of innumerable circumstances. Some examples might include a severe cancer diagnosis, becoming permanently disabled, or an amputation. Perhaps you are a wounded warrior struggling with visible or invisible wounds. You may be reeling with pain from the loss of a loved one. Whatever the cause you now have a necessary opportunity to decide how you will deal with your personal circumstance. Deal with it you must.
Thu, 11 Aug 2016 07:37:49 -0500Life is difficult. Pain is a very intrinsic part of life. We encounter pain but how do we react to it?
Mon, 08 Aug 2016 08:05:32 -0500Like an unwelcome guest who lingers too long, pain, in one form or other, is likely to drop into our lives at some point. It may come in the form of judgement, where others seem to reject us or refuse us the very love we crave the most Pain may come dressed in loss, carrying grief or loneliness. It may come in the form of poverty, physical suffering, constant struggle, illness, injury, achingly unmet emotional needs, or even a hollow suffering that we cannot name or articulate.
Fri, 05 Aug 2016 07:03:13 -0500Faith Over Adversity is a journey of loss and building faith in God. Events occur everyday that will test our strength and resolve: the death of a loved one, loss of job, moving across the country, dealing with depression or discovering new ways to strengthen faith in God. Encouragement and faith are key to overcoming insurmountable obstacles.
Tue, 26 Jul 2016 09:36:55 -0500After her death, something deep inside that I didn't even know existed wouldn't let me die. It pulled me off the ground, picked up all the cracked and busted pieces, and said: You will not run from the fire-you will run straight into it. The crazy fighter gene in me rose up to defy that confused and humiliated voice of shame.
Mon, 25 Jul 2016 08:16:47 -0500As you have carried your cross of affliction and pondered these algorithm ideas my hope is that something within you has changed; that there is a new and lasting commitment for a better life. In your transformation of hope you have developed a spark of strength strong enough that troubles encountered cannot douse it with disbelief. Life is worth living! It is found during long personal battlefields that test our wits, and our courage. No matter the fiery serpents that fling arrows at our backs and our self-image, and create barriers before us, we reach within ourselves and find precious nuggets of virtue, fortitude, character, and strength to carry on, lifting our personal crosses. It is facing these personal demons that cause us to come face to face with our best in ourselves, and push ourselves, and realize ourselves.
Mon, 25 Jul 2016 08:15:28 -0500Grief is a time of exile. What we never asked for, and never would - the loss, which is, in reality, a plethora of tangible and intangible losses - we find is such an irrepressible and irreversible lament. We sit at the banks of that foreign place and weep.
Tue, 19 Jul 2016 08:41:43 -0500SOONER or later we all have one of these: what qualifies as the worst day of our life. You've already had one, perhaps several, but, and I hate to be the bearer of such a fact, there is another one coming. If I could be allowed to extend the truth further, I could say there will be more than one.
Wed, 13 Jul 2016 06:48:22 -0500When life presents us with sudden changes or disappointments, we are pushed to grow beyond our known limits and cope with the unexpected. Discover how turning points in our lives can transform our lowest points into opportunities for growth.
Tue, 12 Jul 2016 15:54:12 -0500As a living being, we humans have to deal with problems daily. But there comes a time when we experience a life changing event, a negative one. It's normal to feel saddened, helpless and even hopeless when something like that happens. Losing a family member/friend, a break up, losing a job and even defamation. Everyone has to see such things in his life, unless of course the person dies young. How can one persevere through such calamities? The answer can be very simple yet very hard. This is the cycle of life.
Mon, 11 Jul 2016 11:11:38 -0500After losing my father to Pancreatic Cancer I struggled to be whole. In the midst of the grieving process I realized that he is still with me, though not physically. My experience with a specific song was proof that he was helping me to move forward and live a happy life.
Thu, 07 Jul 2016 10:15:57 -0500Grief is a complex matter bringing us deep sorrow; above all, when caused by the death of someone we know and love. It comes to us suddenly, accidentally, traumatically, tragically and sometimes expectantly or prematurely.
Tue, 05 Jul 2016 11:45:44 -0500We are easily disassembled, and not easily mended. Yet the strongest heart demonstrates a willingness to be torn so that it might be healed. A heart that demonstrates its willingness to suffer the red hot poker sorting through its ashes is the same heart that has unknowingly called angels who will scatter the demons. Looking at our mistakes is hard; embracing them takes such immense honesty.
Tue, 05 Jul 2016 07:09:43 -0500Recently I heard about a woman had been abused by a Facebook friend for apparently posting too much about her loss. A lady I'm acquainted with posted a photograph of the text message, worried that someone might do the same to her. She and her partner had lost their baby at 59-days-old. Shattered by her loss, her grief found safe harbour within a special group to which I belong - because of our loss. Only six months have passed. The baby she had long prayed for, the baby that was hers, hers to enjoy, had Pallister-Killian Syndrome (PKS) - the syndrome our deceased son had. Nobody can comprehend the journey she's been on, least of all herself or her partner and their family. Nobody.
Wed, 29 Jun 2016 08:49:56 -0500The purpose of life is not learned at the pinnacle, more so at the precipice. The purpose of life is learned in the abyss; in clawing our way out through a hope that vanished long ago, that is clung to anyway. The purpose of life becomes apparent when an old life is discontinued for a new one that hasn't arrived yet. Yes, in the now-but-not-yet reality, in the land-between-land.
Mon, 27 Jun 2016 07:20:05 -050010PM in the evening, and I sidle up to my pretty wife and say, "Guess what anniversary we've got coming up... ?" [blank look from her] "July 1st?" "Oh yeah," she said. That day will ever be etched in our hearts; those minutes of late morning, and the seconds that ticked with temerity onward.
Mon, 27 Jun 2016 07:15:49 -0500Sometimes in the human experience, our pain and loss seems too much to bear. After we acknowledge and feel all our emotions, we may take comfort in knowing that Love is always there.
Fri, 24 Jun 2016 09:30:14 -0500The journey from adversity to redemption occurs via endurance, and, in that we know God is good, because, as we're obedient, He is faithful. He never fails to complete what only He could accomplish - our redemption that for months or years we hoped for, endured for, and never gave up for.
Mon, 20 Jun 2016 08:06:07 -0500Here's the typical thing. We ignore the hurts of others, most especially so when our own needs are taken care of. But when we've suffered some horrible injustices we can develop an enhanced empathic capacity; the blessing outbound of brokenness, if we can transcend the temptation to bitterness that leads to cynicism. Especially if there is some source of love we can draw hope from.
Mon, 20 Jun 2016 07:08:52 -0500That there is a great deal of pain in the world hardly needs to be stated. The reason you're probably interested enough in the title of this article to click on it indicates there's pain in your life or in the lives of those you love; probably both; pain that cannot be assuaged through any action on your part or the others'.
Wed, 15 Jun 2016 14:56:57 -0500I remember you, the first time ever I saw your face, the special magic that was you, the eyes I always loved, the you I grew to cherish. I remember your smile and all the expressions reflected in your mouth. The kind and gentle words you shared, the laughter and giggles I grew to love, the songs you loved to sing along with, your passion for things you believed in that refused to be suppressed, the anger at injustice you felt compelled to voice; most of all, I remember the last words I heard from you. These are cherished memories I will never forget.
Mon, 13 Jun 2016 06:50:22 -0500C.S. Lewis once said that he was astounded how close grief was to the feeling of fear. There are many things that implicate us in fear. Certainly the grief of uncertainty, where the floor has fallen out of the security we had in life. When life is irreparably changed. There are situations we find implicitly fearful, where vulnerability takes the place of safety. And then there's our own minds, which cause us to fear things known and unknown, real and unreal.
Mon, 13 Jun 2016 06:49:53 -0500Would you describe yourself as an analytical thinker; someone who keeps thinking endlessly about problems you have? I am. And if the problem is stressful it can cause both the head and heart to hurt so much as to create anxiety and depression. For some several years now I've been able to regulate those thoughts so they don't hurt so much when I continually ruminate over an issue.
Wed, 08 Jun 2016 13:36:27 -0500Heroin usage and heroin overdoses have become an epidemic on Long Island. Long Island has even been called the "Heroin Highway". In Nassau County alone there were more than 821 non-fatal heroin and opiate overdoses in 2013, according to the Long Island Herald, of which 119 were fatal.
Tue, 07 Jun 2016 06:42:03 -0500Blessed is that season of life that takes us from notorious to forgotten; to know that it takes time for people to forget our sins against them. But blessed also is that time in our lives when we experience such a loss as to be continually forgotten, so we may find that, as broken pottery, or as a dead person, we can survive without the accolades of men as we recognise we already have the accolades of God, by His gracious Presence.
Mon, 06 Jun 2016 08:40:16 -0500Losing someone is never an easy process. The memories you have with that person will forever linger and the pain knowing they will no longer be there makes it so much harder.
Mon, 06 Jun 2016 06:47:39 -0500Something's missing when tragedy touches our life, something is forever lost. Beyond the loss that we openly mourn lay those that no one sees. A lifelong search begins; one we imagine may never end. Tragedy is a heartbreaking loss. It is akin to a search and rescue that becomes a search and recovery operation. All hope is gone for a return to a normality that we knew. What are we searching for, what's missing?
Thu, 02 Jun 2016 14:48:45 -0500When a loved one has died we feel overwhelmed and don't know how to handle our own emotions. Often as a parent we are at a loss how to help our children who might need us more than ever before.
Thu, 02 Jun 2016 06:39:22 -0500Amazing. We're promised suffering in our Bibles, but until we do actually suffer we never see those words. They're written in invisible ink, until sorrow befalls us one innocent moment.
Thu, 02 Jun 2016 06:38:48 -0500Amidst the prevalence of grief, Lewis asks, "Where are You, God?" No sign! He makes those of the faith a laughingstock, yet only those with faith get through grief unscathed by cynicism. We're not alone, he says. Even Christ said, from Psalm 22, "Why have You forsaken me?" Feeling forsaken, yet knowing the opposite, makes faith possible, but it doesn't make faith any easier to understand.
Tue, 31 May 2016 10:59:46 -0500Sorrow, melancholy, sadness are all around; tears dwelling in the eyes of those who have lost their loved ones, those who once had the ones they loved close to their hearts. Their world seem to have ended, their joy vanished, their hopes lost, their happiness killed. Who will bring back the relative of the one who first asked and inquired about them and when saw the name of his relative; lost his senses and yelled?
Tue, 31 May 2016 07:04:43 -0500There is always something to see in the dilemma at hand, if only we're curious enough to seek God for the knowledge of it. The trouble is we often respond very emotionally when we're blindsided by situations and thoughts we didn't anticipate. We panic. But, if we hold that moment, asking God to show us something new, He will.
Tue, 31 May 2016 07:04:25 -0500Not everyone, sure, but some have such brokenness, there are massive pieces strewn over the campus of their lives that, if picked up, contribute to a miracle of God's grace to resurrect. For one it's their own personal problems. For another it's a dysfunctional family to recover from. From a third, it's the pivotal betrayal of a spouse.
Tue, 31 May 2016 06:50:10 -0500Joseph spent a full thirteen years developing in character. From age 17 to about 30 he faced hardship after temptation after persecution after tumult. Like Job after him, by the time God used his life with great power, he had learned the humility that believes: "God is with me no matter what I face, and, that facing what I face like I can proves God is with me, and actually, nothing else matters."
Mon, 23 May 2016 11:19:41 -0500ALONG the road toward a goal, its realisation some time off, and it's not just any old goal - our whole being might necessarily revolve around it - we sit and wait. It's not so much that God is teaching us to wait, but it is necessary to wait, and, in that, He's teaching us to sit patiently in the dark, before all can be revealed... in His time and way.
Mon, 23 May 2016 07:01:57 -0500There are two godly purposes in suffering. To learn ours so we may help others in theirs.
Mon, 16 May 2016 08:13:19 -0500As I browsed photos I'd posted on social media over the past two years I noticed something. Not only was life no longer plagued by the problems of then, now I have new problems to deal with. Even though I could track some problems of past, including the fatal diagnosis and imminent stillbirth of our son, Nathanael, today's problems outweighed everything of past, because, and this is the important point, I have God's faithfulness to reflect on for those experiences of past where He upheld me in those difficulties. Life is okay no matter how bad things are, presently, for these four reasons
Mon, 16 May 2016 06:38:01 -0500Accepting and letting go of someone you love is the difficult challenge that lies in the death of a loved one. How is it possible that one who is so alive with so much to share could so suddenly leave, forever? Where did you go, we wonder; are you afraid, are you lonely or hurting? We feel so helpless, believing there is no way to reach out and hold their hand or comfort them on this solo journey. Do they wish they were here, do they miss us; do they know our heart is broken or how much we loved them?
Mon, 16 May 2016 06:15:22 -0500As I read about a pastor's response to assist a family come to terms with the loss of their eight-year-old son, accidentally hanged in their backyard, I choked back tears for their loss. I know something of their pain, but any parent, whether they've lost a child or not, knows the irredeemable sting of death in this life. (Sure, death has lost its sting for all eternity, but a parent must still work out their salvation, here, without their dead child.)
Wed, 11 May 2016 14:32:39 -0500Our society desires health, vitality, and longevity. However, most continue along blindly, assuming that illness will not catch up with them. I will address the integrative approach to sustaining health and wellness, prevention of disease, and I will share with you my journey back to optimum health after so many years of aiding and abetting internal toxins as well as the death of a loved one.
Tue, 10 May 2016 07:04:12 -0500We as humans will experience this many times over in a full life in various forms. As children we start learning often by the loss of an animal friend which starts the learning process for what is to come later on. Sometimes the process of learning when young with the loss of a young school friend or a parents divorce can create a very hard and damaging experience which for some, they never get over or fully recover.
Mon, 09 May 2016 12:54:23 -0500Understanding the stumbling-blocks, that accompany dreadful grief happenings in your life, is essential for you to find happiness again. The wonderful thing about the world we live in is the availability of nuggets of hope and peace for you. You can disallow the stumbling-blocks of grief from defeating you! If your grief happening has resulted in permanent disability vitally important are healing solution stepping-stones. Learning to strategically cope and heal from the effects of grief requires engaging in personal empowerment efforts. Research your possibilities. Your personal grief journey will take you through a sometimes painful, yet necessary process, on your path back to hope. While you are on a uniquely personal journey toward healing there are many resources to help support you along the way. Value possibility for as long as possibilities exist. Believe that possibilities are like diamonds, often hidden, but valuable when discovered. Believe you can find possibilities, then continue to search for them. Embrace every possibility. Finding healing in the aching body, heart and mind-and happiness and peace on the other side of your misery-should be your dominant goal. Never give up!
Fri, 06 May 2016 10:09:32 -0500When someone has got something to do, they can get it done straight away or they can put it to one side and do something else. And when it comes to what is the best approach to take, it can all depend on what it is that needs to be done.
Fri, 06 May 2016 08:07:51 -0500We can only know what we know. It's impossible to hold ourselves or anyone else to a standard of knowledge that we do not yet know. It's one reason why grace is wisdom. We cannot know a particular level of pain is possible until we've actually been perplexed by it. Put another way, we lived as if there was no pain in the world, until that is, we were cast into an oblivion of pain. That, for us, and for others who've experienced it, was an education brimming with life after the death of pain we suffered.
Tue, 03 May 2016 15:02:34 -0500Our world is a strange place. Life is absurd. The very fact that we exist is absurd if one really thinks about it.
Fri, 29 Apr 2016 08:20:34 -0500On May 1st, one week before Mother's Day, there is a very special annual International Bereaved Mother's Day. This is a prayer for those women, and for other women who struggle with Mother's Day. For those who love Mother's Day, like me, May 1st is a good opportunity to take a moment to think of and pray for those for which being a mother causes pain because of loss.
Wed, 27 Apr 2016 09:32:48 -0500Brokenness has changed and transformed you. Brokenness was a necessary input to wholeness.
Wed, 27 Apr 2016 06:14:39 -0500THERE are times when grief makes siege and loss drives hope away in storm. Such times we realise there is a depth to suffering we had no idea about. We're taken captive against our will and we enter into an abyss that is too cruel to describe. Such times beckon us into an unimaginable despair where the days are perilous and the nights are only relieved by unconsciousness.
Wed, 27 Apr 2016 06:09:18 -0500Life's most challenging conditions require digging deep into your soul like never before considered. You are at the threshold of deciding what you will do with your permanent grief circumstance. Reality is present, you cannot have your old life back. Your grief condition can't be fully healed. The healing you receive is in the reconciling of your sorrow. Life's happening has chomped into your grief heart emotions permanently and intensely. Often when grievous happenings take place in one's life both physical and emotional conditions are present. The following is counsel for those who experience inextricable grief healing questions.
Mon, 25 Apr 2016 14:24:47 -0500Death is often seen as a taboo subject. Something which many of us are reluctant to talk about. But it's a sad fact of life.
Mon, 25 Apr 2016 13:35:39 -0500This is a letter written to my son on the 10th anniversary since he died. The intent is for those who may think about suicide and an honest reflection on why you should not do this. It is an awareness attempt to let those considering suicide on how they may affect others for a long time.
Mon, 25 Apr 2016 08:21:39 -0500We all need time to mourn the loss of a loved one. It is during this time that we learn the true lesson of love and strength.
Mon, 25 Apr 2016 06:53:47 -0500If someone was to lose a family member or a close friend, it can be seen as something that will have a bigger impact on them than if they were to lose a pet. Based on this, if they were to experience life differently it could be said that something isn't right.
Fri, 22 Apr 2016 16:02:20 -0500One of the sad realities you will discover is that you can't have your old life back. Your life has taken a permanent turn in the road. Your life is changed forever. Honoring your new you will be a journey full of new and different opportunities. Search for them from within. Look for all new possibilities for peace, happiness and healing. This will bring clearness to how you might best honor your needs and grief. I believed in possibilities and then I looked within for new and undiscovered empowerment. I had to explore all possibilities of a new happiness inside of me. I had to do an attitude adjustment several times and even though I have limited disability there are so many happy useful things I can do. My fifteen years after amputation have been rewarding and full. I learned to honor my needs and grief and look for peace, hope and happiness again. I did. So can you.
Fri, 15 Apr 2016 05:50:56 -0500Even when grief circumstances turn your life asunder and you feel torn apart, success, happiness and hope should be your goal. They are greater than failure, grief and sorrow. It is my humble prayer and desire that a happy success may follow you in your grief relief journey. So to answer the question at hand: success can be defined in so many ways but when you come to clearly know who you are and like your new you - to feel free in your own personal quiet way and accept what and how you are - then you have straightforwardly arrived at your own SUCCESS.
Thu, 14 Apr 2016 10:51:23 -0500THERE is a gospel ethic that I and so many others write about all the time. It runs like this: don't be distressed if you find yourself broken... it's not the end by any means, though it may be just the start of a beautiful beginning, when you surrender to God within healing community.
Wed, 13 Apr 2016 09:37:46 -0500LOSS, whilst it's always unfair, is also a catapult to faith, provided it doesn't crush us beyond care or make us cynical in the process. Loss is supposed to be a catapult to faith, but that requires openness to God and to learning.
Wed, 13 Apr 2016 07:58:25 -0500Pain brings us to learning or despair. One springs from openness to truth and the forbearance of hope. The other leads to cynicism. It comes down to choice.
Mon, 11 Apr 2016 06:55:39 -0500Experiencing loss can mean different things to different people. Many of us have experienced loss other than death and have not bothered to go through the grieving process. What loss have you experienced that you have not grieved?
Mon, 11 Apr 2016 06:22:51 -0500A successful healing journey road is paved with bumps and unwanted detours. In your desire to find more happiness and a fuller life you'll be challenged... you'll be tested... success is a very much a roll-up-your-sleeves, get-down-to-business effort. Completely immersing in the world of healing is essential. Overcoming serious grief is not a casual walk in the park.
Thu, 07 Apr 2016 09:31:59 -0500LATE at night, well past tiredness, and wired in the reality of experience, I held him, bathed him, and shared him with family, before we all had to rest. He was already at peace.
Wed, 30 Mar 2016 13:34:50 -0500Creativity is a gift - and one that we'd be wise to use, especially when it comes to dealing with difficult experiences such as the loss of a loved one. Contrary to popular belief, the creative life is not just for a special chosen few. Rather, it is available to anyone who has the courage to trust in its capacity to transform.
Tue, 29 Mar 2016 06:25:46 -0500Isn't it strange how silence can speak so loudly after you lose someone you love? It's glaring from the cell phone that doesn't ring, the missing notice of a text that doesn't arrive, the absence of the tone announcing email messages; even the missing familiar sounds of footsteps that were so endearing and familiar. These are the sounds of silence as we adjust to a profound loss in our lives.
Thu, 17 Mar 2016 13:17:20 -0500Your focus, creativity, and level of energy determine your potential to capitalize on each moment. Therefore, it is necessary you ask yourself what you are going to do? Then do it. It is important for you to exam how your habits compare with the wisdom long known to help you maintain good health. Take time with each good health wisdom tip and measure where you are. As an example are you drinking enough water? Ask a like evaluation question for exercise, food and so forth. Then begin a better health focus for you today.
Tue, 15 Mar 2016 10:41:22 -0500Becoming a widow at a young age is extremely difficult; dealing with all the not-so-sage advice that comes your way makes a tough time even more frustrating. I was widowed suddenly at the age of 32 and a year later, I wrote a letter to another young widow that summed up what I'd learned. 15 years later, I still stand by that advice.
Thu, 10 Mar 2016 06:56:51 -0600Unexpected twists and turns in our lives can turn our world upside down with complicated form of grief. Complicated grief can be a part of our lives without us even knowing it.
Thu, 03 Mar 2016 06:52:08 -0600Suffering through the trauma of a miscarriage can be extremely heart-wrenching. It will take you on a plethora of emotions. Sometimes those emotions will carry you as high as Mount Everest or as low as hell. Those emotions usually comes back to back carrying you on waves. You will feel as if you are going crazy and sometimes you will feel as if you have completely lost it. The best I can tell you is to ride it out.
Fri, 26 Feb 2016 15:14:11 -0600What lies beyond the big blue sky? This is probably the greatest mystery of mankind; and maybe the most controversial. What is this biggest mystery all about; what lies behind that veil we have been told we see through darkly? There are many interpretations of death. There are also many religions with different bibles. Perhaps the one thing that remains uncontested is that we are born, we live and our physical body dies at some point in time.
Mon, 22 Feb 2016 08:10:15 -0600Once we know this truth, we're finally free. Nothing that could otherwise encumber us can any longer. The purpose in grief and sadness is to get us to this place - the place of accepting everything that comes, come what may.
Thu, 18 Feb 2016 07:38:22 -0600BEST hallelujahs are mottled through with the sting of a suffering of regret, a most truth-filled acceptance, for having fallen short of the Lord. That is the best hallelujah ('praise the Lord').