Published: Wed, 26 Apr 2017 22:24:26 -0500
Wed, 26 Apr 2017 09:40:59 -0500Past life regression and remembering your past lives can help you deal with grief and loss. By remembering that you have lived before, you can see that you and your loved ones will live again. You can also discover that love and connection don't ever die.
Wed, 19 Apr 2017 12:45:07 -0500EVERYONE experiences grief of one kind or another consistently throughout life, and never more so than when we're beset by conflict. But there is a kind of grief that blindsides us; the genus of which rips the heart out of our resolve, fear chiselling us down to our core, leaving us all alone, a fractured, wafer shell; the sort that forces such change that the old must go where a new man or woman emerges, delivered in writhes of death, paradoxically into life. Blessed abundance; an enigma.
Mon, 17 Apr 2017 20:40:26 -0500Is this really happening... it has to be a dream; these are words born in the state of confusion that ensues when suddenly we wake up and realize they are gone. Gone is a lonely, desolate word delivering a cold harsh reality with awful finality. Gone carries the sound of the human heart breaking into pieces. It invites us to cover our heads and go back to sleep, back to yesterday when nothing was changed. Regardless of how strong and competent you may be the loss of someone you love is accompanied by a host of fears.
Sat, 15 Apr 2017 10:33:49 -0500According to Webster, the word journey is defined as "an act or instance of traveling from one place to another." Is this definition applicable to the grief journey? If so, can we prepare just as we would for maybe a cross-country journey by train?
Sat, 08 Apr 2017 14:30:39 -0500The last couple weeks were somewhat traumatic. First, my 15 year old dog had a seizure and possible stroke, and the next week a family member who has COPD (possibly emphysema) and MCI (mild cognitive problems) went into the hospital with pneumonia. It took be back to a time I've written about a lot, 2011-2013, with our other dog who had cancer and then neurological problems, and my mother who had Alzheimer's and lung cancer.
Fri, 07 Apr 2017 11:44:25 -0500We try to console others. We try to heal our own broken hearts. While doing so, the one myth that we hear and accept most often is that "It just takes time.
Thu, 06 Apr 2017 13:17:02 -0500Seek support from all available useful and beneficial sources. Reconciling your grief is necessary for the healing is in the reconciling of your loss and sorrow. Use your best alpha actions. Don't wait; begin today to seek ways to stop grieving and start healing. You are stronger than you think; you have inner strength which has not been needed before. Use your inner empowerment now. Important action-oriented tips will help you move beyond your grief and loss and find new peace and joy. You can find new happiness. You can understand and heal your grief, if you want to find new purpose and happiness in your life. Remember that it is up to you; no one can do it for you.
Thu, 16 Mar 2017 11:53:26 -0500The grieving process can be tricky and very dangerous from a mental health perspective. When we have experienced a significant loss, our minds can play tricks by creating coping mechanisms that help us get through the long dark days. But be aware of where your thoughts can lead you, if unchecked. Sometimes the danger zone - contemplating suicide - can pop up without warning.
Wed, 15 Mar 2017 07:45:30 -0500Although not intentional, sometimes it seems as if we are waiting for a tragedy to happen, to wake us up to the importance of making the most of our lives. If so, that's not a very wise - or effective - strategy. Anthony de Mello maintained that spirituality means "waking up." Don't let a tragic loss be your alarm clock.
Tue, 14 Mar 2017 07:32:11 -0500Decide your purpose no one else can. Step into the unknown fearlessly. Resolve and determination are necessary along the way. Saddle your horse with an abundance of fortitude. Don't allow fear and hopelessness to control how you feel and how you act. Certainly, horrendous and unwanted grief, sorrow and loss bring into your life a necessary need to have the ability to conquer your sorrow, despair and fear. Decide how you will generate your own healing courage. You can! Reconciling your grief, sorrow and loss helps you heal. You alone must decide.
Tue, 14 Mar 2017 07:29:06 -0500Do you believe there is some sort of Divine Plan for your life? Some predetermined path for you to follow, so as to meet your destiny? Or do you believe everything is just randomly unfolding and it is up to you to give your life meaning? Or does it even matter? Perhaps what matters most is that our lives have purpose.
Mon, 06 Mar 2017 07:38:11 -0600Ever wished you'd known something before you stepped into it? Many times, I'm sure. But there's a problem with knowing things before we step into them. If we knew what we were about to step into we would never step.
Sun, 05 Mar 2017 12:22:51 -0600Within your grasp you have the power to say, "This I am today; that I will be tomorrow." Joy and happiness is within your reach. Begin today to grab hold of every moment of hope and happiness available within your reach. You are invited to embrace each moment to find healing, harmony, hope, peace and joy in living. Do so every day.
Wed, 01 Mar 2017 06:58:51 -0600Grappling the tide of emotions when you try and overcome pet grief that has entered your household due to the loss of your beloved dog or cat. can sometimes be quite overwhelming. It is a treacherous journey you are about to embark on and you will need comfort and support so you come out the other side as unscathed as possible.
Thu, 23 Feb 2017 23:04:08 -0600For many of us who have pets, losing them to death feels as devastating as losing a family member or best friend. People who don't have pets don't tend to "get" this, but those who do really understand the profound sense of loss. Our pets are often like a member of our family, so when we lose them, we feel immense grief.
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Mon, 06 Feb 2017 14:40:16 -0600This is a daunting article to write, for the sheer fact I'm out of my depth. I've suffered sufficient loss and grief to be in the ballpark, but I'm unsure I'll slide a run all the way home. But seeing God has given me the thought, and shown me a need to wrestle, let me attempt its resolution.
Tue, 24 Jan 2017 07:27:43 -0600Given the situation of loss how can it be that we might be blessed? How can something so drastically dysfunctional turn out the best it possibly could, given the circumstances?
Mon, 23 Jan 2017 07:04:15 -0600As we endure loss that rips life of its meaning and strips our being bare, we hope beyond hope that one day it could amount to something. That somehow loss might be worth the pain we endured.
Sat, 21 Jan 2017 10:58:13 -0600You can't have your old life back. You must begin anew. Don't let your condition or others define you. You decide. Dig deep for your untapped personal power. Your empowerment is within. Healing is in your reconciliation of your grief. Use your best alpha actions. Begin today. Grief and loss must be healed.
Fri, 20 Jan 2017 07:55:12 -0600Fr. Gerald McGovern is one of God's great missionaries. As a child, I saw him as a missionary to me; as an adult as a missionary to men; now, a missionary to all men. He resides in a special place in my heart until we see each other again.
Sun, 15 Jan 2017 10:27:53 -0600It is difficult, in the throes of acute loss, to reconcile how life that's suddenly gone so bad could possibly end up so good again, but that is our hope. We may simply want things back as they were. For the pain to abate.
Mon, 09 Jan 2017 15:30:09 -0600Getting rid-of your unique personal grief partners should be your year-end goal. You should review how well you have done to transform your grief and loss to a richer fuller life. Even though your condition may be unique and challenging it must not be a permanent happiness and joy interruption. Don't forget tears of the soul can help heal. There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power.
Fri, 06 Jan 2017 07:34:11 -0600Happiness has evaded you; hope has ran-away and grief and loss surrounds your whole being. Are you saying: "Yes this describes me?" To have hope is to have faith, to take a chance, and dream. When you have hope, you believe in the likelihood of possibilities. Hope allows you to look forward to a feeling that something positive will likely happen. Grief and sorrow can be reconciled. Hope. It begins with you. Start today. Opposite of hope is despair. Transformation from despair to hope is perhaps your most important solution to the grief you experience. Despair causes you to believe good things only happen to others but never you. Your expectations for hope is limited.
Mon, 02 Jan 2017 09:35:53 -0600Within every person is empowerment undiscovered and dormant until called upon. Grief can make that call. At the height of your grief you may feel possible impossible. Deep inside there is a well of empowerment you can dig deeply for and find. Arising from your bed of terrible grief and loss is possible. Awakening from awful sorrow and nurturing new hope and joy should be your creed.
Thu, 22 Dec 2016 07:16:14 -0600Far too much of the time we're too busy to fall into loneliness, and in busyness we're further from God than ever, for God is in the silence of loneliness. That is the beginning.
Tue, 20 Dec 2016 07:25:32 -0600The challenge is to be a survivor and overcome your loss and transform yourself into a new whole person. But, on certain occasions suffering crashes down non-stop like huge sledgehammers on your emotions. New roots of hope and fortitude have to be given room to develop. Learning to reconcile your grief and find new peace and joy requires unqualified self-commitment and continued determination. It requires purpose, willpower and sustained resolve. Certainly, there will come a time when you will need to say: "It's up to me!"
Mon, 19 Dec 2016 07:31:31 -0600I am doing the best I can with what I have in this moment and that is all I can expect of anyone including me. Reflect over those words.
Mon, 12 Dec 2016 08:41:47 -0600Grief, is a strange emotion. It took me nearly forty-eight hours to first of all register and then secondly, digest the fact that forty something (please excuse me for not having the exact statistics) people passed away in the plane crash in Pakistan on December 7th, 2016. While some people mourned over the loss of a, once-upon-a-time singer Junaid Jamshed, others grieved over the loss of (the same person) an inspiring evangelist.
Fri, 09 Dec 2016 13:03:56 -0600In today's fast-paced world, there is often the need for instant gratification, and when something doesn't happen straight away, it can lead to all kinds of problems. This can be a time when someone will experience a strong emotional reaction, and the sooner they get what they want the sooner they will settle down.
Wed, 07 Dec 2016 14:20:27 -0600Are you losing your pet? Anticipatory grief is refers to a grief reaction that occurs before an impending loss. Typically, the impending loss is a death of a pet that is close and due to illness. It can also be experienced by dying individuals themselves.
Sun, 04 Dec 2016 08:11:14 -0600Without having been deprived of compassion we don't really understand compassion's importance. Its basis is the meaning of life, providing purpose which drives us along in our living the abundant life of loving others.
Fri, 02 Dec 2016 07:34:07 -0600That season of brokenness we endured, in the faith that something better was imminent, ultimately, even as endurance was tested dozens of times, proves the above truth right every time. As we reminisce we cry because God has made that cause of our brokenness the very catapult that has restored us.
Tue, 22 Nov 2016 09:50:06 -0600Grief has taught me my emotional range, but just as much it has taught me a paradox. Whilst words are inadequate, words are necessary, even as we attempt to make meaning of something that is unfathomable.
Mon, 21 Nov 2016 08:26:04 -0600When you are missing a loved one during this season of Thanksgiving, it is often difficult to feel thankful. Yes, you are grateful for eyes to see, ears to hear, limbs to move..
Wed, 16 Nov 2016 07:05:08 -0600The death of a loved one is the most obvious loss we can encounter, but, of course, there are many losses that blindside us. Somehow we could not anticipate how gutted we would feel. Such losses bring about unprecedented pain. The pain of brokenness.
Mon, 14 Nov 2016 15:11:18 -0600Arising from the bed of awful sorrow and nurturing new hope and joy required purpose, willpower and sustained resolve. It wasn't a casual walk in the park to acquire a better understanding of my grief and find sustained purpose and peace in my life. New roots of hope and fortitude had to be given room to develop. Learning to reconcile my grief and find new peace and joy required commitment and continued determination. I knew that coming out on the other side of my grief and loss to find my new normal was necessary for it was to become what my future life is. I knew what matters most is how I handle that challenge. Yet, initially I had to overcome the woe-is-me mindset by focusing on the positives and what I still had. Expressing one's inner turmoil outwardly can be a way of finding relief, and stop grieving and start healing. No matter the situation it is important to live life to its fullness.
Mon, 14 Nov 2016 09:44:37 -0600The scariest of places is reserved as a mix of the emotions of sadness, fear and surprise. Unparalleled in human experience is the moment when life renders to experience something very foreign.
Mon, 07 Nov 2016 08:36:34 -0600I write a lot on loss and the grief that comes out of it. I write about my responses, yet hopefully never in ways in which to say, "this-or-that is right and this-or-that is wrong." The truth of matters is that your response to your situation is best for you as it is discerned by you, and given the information you have at hand, anyone else would make the same response if they were in your situation.
Mon, 31 Oct 2016 07:57:17 -0500Ever noticed a friend in stress? How about soothing them a little? How do you do that? Look inside to find out.
Mon, 31 Oct 2016 07:46:17 -0500All Souls' Day coincides with an annual period of remembrance for our family - the time between October 30 and November 7, when we lost our son to stillbirth and were allowed 179 hallowed hours with him before we said our final goodbye. It's a time that will never be insignificant. Each year we get away to a quiet place to appropriately solemnify this precious period. And yet this is only the second time we've done it. His life, from conception to completion, took place within the year 2014.
Mon, 31 Oct 2016 07:46:06 -0500On an innocent enough Tuesday, July First, morning, eternity reached down and intervened in our lives in a remarkable way. At a worldly level, it was an unfathomable loss, but the very unfathomable nature of the loss was what connected us irrevocably with eternity's realm.
Wed, 26 Oct 2016 09:27:28 -0500Last week marked the fifth anniversary of the loss of my dad and husband just two weeks apart. My grief journey has been like a roller coaster ride with many ups and downs.
Tue, 18 Oct 2016 07:23:50 -0500Sorrow is a powerful word; it embraces grief, sadness, personal pain and regret; it also carries its cause which is hopelessness. Why is it powerful? Because it can control and even destroy a human life; it is frequently is found within the cause of those who give up. We don't invite it into our lives or ever hope to know it. Its arrival, while never announced is always profound and even varied. It may be the result of the unexpected and final loss of someone you love, the slow erosion of wishes, hopes and dreams or the desire to be loved or important to someone. Whatever its cause when it arrives in our life joy is swept away like the sand carried out with the tide. Hopelessness is profound; it contains the story of washed away dreams.
Mon, 17 Oct 2016 07:57:57 -0500Why does my heart feel so bad? Why does my soul feel so bad? Oh the pain... enough of this! It's okay. I can find comfort. I can find an escape... No. There's an opportunity cost in denying our rawest emotions, or bypassing them through cynicism
Sat, 15 Oct 2016 11:02:08 -0500As I pondered thoughts of time two years ago, in going through Nathanael's few possessions, including the cards of condolence we received at his funeral, the Lord indicated - THIS ONE. One particular card. Then, on opening it, out sprung some words from Psalm 31. Parts of the psalm speak of a time when God saw us in our pain, gave us room to breathe, and in our anguish, per the people's prayers, He showered us with kindness. Oh the depths of pain that we're called to endure - in cultivating healing, by tenuously avoiding denial and cynicism.
Wed, 12 Oct 2016 07:56:29 -0500It's sure that most people will feel massive pain after losing a loved ones. This article shows you how to get over the loss of loved ones and how to heal yourself with time.
Tue, 11 Oct 2016 08:01:30 -0500We often assume grief as losing someone we love. While that's true, grief comprises a much more broader area. This article reveals other forms of grief you may not even notice.
Tue, 11 Oct 2016 08:00:52 -0500While it may be difficult to think about the practical implications right after a loved one dies, this is something we all need to eventually do. This article shows you what practical things you must do after losing someone.
Tue, 11 Oct 2016 08:00:04 -0500Sometimes people think others over-react when they lose someone. While it may seem true to a third party, it's not what's going on with the person being directly affected. This article explains why you should never compare grief with others and judge people as a result.
Mon, 10 Oct 2016 09:02:31 -0500Therapy and counselling can be useful when it comes to dealing with grief. This article explains how you can use psychotherapy and other methods to approach the loss of loved ones.
Mon, 10 Oct 2016 09:02:21 -0500Most people go through similar stages when they experience grief. This article explains the 5 common stages of grief based on some psychodynamic research and how you can use them as reference for the future potential use.
Thu, 22 Sep 2016 10:17:26 -0500Stories were the theme of my day recently. Narratives of life... of family, distant and imminent, of the weariness of time, of pain and loss, through death and separation... but also of reconnection, of hope for a future beyond loss, of achievement underpinned by purpose.
Mon, 19 Sep 2016 07:29:32 -0500After loosing a loved one so many people suffer tremendously with a horrible sense of loss and grief. I feel absolutely compelled to tell the story of a profound experience shared while conducting a session in psychic mediumship with new clients who'd just unexpectedly lost a loved one weeks before. It always brings such joy to my heart and soul to have the opportunity to observe or be a part of reconnecting loved ones existing in separate planes of existence. Although it is a work gaining more and more understanding, our society, and science are just scratching the surface of understanding communication between the world of the living and those who have transitioned in death. It can be such powerful work, bringing healing, love, and peace to those who research, prepare, and approach it with an open heart and mind.
Sun, 11 Sep 2016 10:14:20 -0500Grief is one of the most profound and painful human emotions. Your dreadful sadness and subsequent mourning may be a consequence of one of innumerable circumstances. You feel torn apart inside and sorrow has settled in your heart and mind like a dark heavy fog. You have cause to mourn. Only when you understand what grief is, and how powerfully it can imprison your thoughts, emotions, and even your whole persona, can you begin to work through your grief. Understanding your grief and what you can do about healing helps you begin your healing journey to a healthier happier place.
Fri, 09 Sep 2016 08:46:15 -0500This is the story behind my 9/11 parable entitled; "In The Blink Of An Eye" that I wrote on behalf of the families who lost loved ones on September 11th 2001. In a world that's increasingly plagued by so many random acts of senseless violence, there seems to be nothing left to say that can rationalize its cowardly actions, but on this the fifteenth anniversary of 9/11 and the loss of so many mothers, fathers, husbands, wives, daughters & sons, I pray that the following parable brings some small measure of solace. Unfortunately like...
Fri, 09 Sep 2016 07:28:21 -0500Dead... the finality of this word is profound. Mind numbing shock accompanies gut-wrenching pain. No more chances, no second guesses, nothing at all, just gone. 'It can't be true' is all we can muster as we absorb this life altering change. Surely it can't be true. Yesterday now becomes our last normal day, there are no tomorrows for our child. Our children are the future we knew we could count on, no matter what else may change. They represent tomorrows; they're not supposed to leave before we do.
Thu, 08 Sep 2016 07:33:26 -0500If you can't find reasons to be joyful, your perspective needs changed. Peace and joy go together. Grief doesn't only present aching of the heart and mind but also new possibilities and new roots for growth. Finding Healing, peace and joy after grief involves a specific conditioning of the mind and a positioning of the heart. A steady satisfaction of contentment, confidence and hope are required. Joy is something that is deep within and doesn't leave hurriedly. It is more than a fleeting happiness. The circumstances leading to your grief may even result in your inability to fully recover, but seizing every opportunity to reclaim your life should be your prime objective.
Wed, 07 Sep 2016 09:52:40 -0500In the age of computers, still nearly fifteen years ago now, I had a typewriter. It's okay. I didn't want the garish IBM laptop that my previous employer had supplied me, with phone and car (so they could have access to my entire life). The typewriter did not come with obligations; it did what I wanted it to do. With diligent obedience it struck ink onto a sheet of paper with the precise purpose that my emotional fingers conveyed. So many times that typewriter subserviently acted as the mediator in my grief.
Wed, 31 Aug 2016 13:41:50 -0500What takes us to that soul stillness of poise amid the grief in loss where we grapple seismic moments? There is the need of hope. And the Lord's provision is found in the birth of change in and through us; change, albeit, we'd never wish ever to be forced to encounter and experience.
Mon, 29 Aug 2016 07:54:17 -0500Join a business etiquette and modern manners expert as she discusses the etiquette of sympathy. Learn how to handle a situation when a colleague, co-worker or a business associate suffers a loss.
Tue, 23 Aug 2016 07:54:15 -0500Grief is one of the most profound and painful human emotions. Your dreadful sadness and subsequent mourning may be a consequence of one of innumerable circumstances. Some examples might include a severe cancer diagnosis, becoming permanently disabled, or an amputation. Perhaps you are a wounded warrior struggling with visible or invisible wounds. You may be reeling with pain from the loss of a loved one. Whatever the cause you now have a necessary opportunity to decide how you will deal with your personal circumstance. Deal with it you must.
Thu, 11 Aug 2016 07:37:49 -0500Life is difficult. Pain is a very intrinsic part of life. We encounter pain but how do we react to it?
Mon, 08 Aug 2016 08:05:32 -0500Like an unwelcome guest who lingers too long, pain, in one form or other, is likely to drop into our lives at some point. It may come in the form of judgement, where others seem to reject us or refuse us the very love we crave the most Pain may come dressed in loss, carrying grief or loneliness. It may come in the form of poverty, physical suffering, constant struggle, illness, injury, achingly unmet emotional needs, or even a hollow suffering that we cannot name or articulate.
Fri, 05 Aug 2016 07:03:13 -0500Faith Over Adversity is a journey of loss and building faith in God. Events occur everyday that will test our strength and resolve: the death of a loved one, loss of job, moving across the country, dealing with depression or discovering new ways to strengthen faith in God. Encouragement and faith are key to overcoming insurmountable obstacles.
Tue, 26 Jul 2016 09:36:55 -0500After her death, something deep inside that I didn't even know existed wouldn't let me die. It pulled me off the ground, picked up all the cracked and busted pieces, and said: You will not run from the fire-you will run straight into it. The crazy fighter gene in me rose up to defy that confused and humiliated voice of shame.
Mon, 25 Jul 2016 08:16:47 -0500As you have carried your cross of affliction and pondered these algorithm ideas my hope is that something within you has changed; that there is a new and lasting commitment for a better life. In your transformation of hope you have developed a spark of strength strong enough that troubles encountered cannot douse it with disbelief. Life is worth living! It is found during long personal battlefields that test our wits, and our courage. No matter the fiery serpents that fling arrows at our backs and our self-image, and create barriers before us, we reach within ourselves and find precious nuggets of virtue, fortitude, character, and strength to carry on, lifting our personal crosses. It is facing these personal demons that cause us to come face to face with our best in ourselves, and push ourselves, and realize ourselves.
Mon, 25 Jul 2016 08:15:28 -0500Grief is a time of exile. What we never asked for, and never would - the loss, which is, in reality, a plethora of tangible and intangible losses - we find is such an irrepressible and irreversible lament. We sit at the banks of that foreign place and weep.
Tue, 19 Jul 2016 08:41:43 -0500SOONER or later we all have one of these: what qualifies as the worst day of our life. You've already had one, perhaps several, but, and I hate to be the bearer of such a fact, there is another one coming. If I could be allowed to extend the truth further, I could say there will be more than one.
Wed, 13 Jul 2016 06:48:22 -0500When life presents us with sudden changes or disappointments, we are pushed to grow beyond our known limits and cope with the unexpected. Discover how turning points in our lives can transform our lowest points into opportunities for growth.
Tue, 12 Jul 2016 15:54:12 -0500As a living being, we humans have to deal with problems daily. But there comes a time when we experience a life changing event, a negative one. It's normal to feel saddened, helpless and even hopeless when something like that happens. Losing a family member/friend, a break up, losing a job and even defamation. Everyone has to see such things in his life, unless of course the person dies young. How can one persevere through such calamities? The answer can be very simple yet very hard. This is the cycle of life.
Mon, 11 Jul 2016 11:11:38 -0500After losing my father to Pancreatic Cancer I struggled to be whole. In the midst of the grieving process I realized that he is still with me, though not physically. My experience with a specific song was proof that he was helping me to move forward and live a happy life.
Thu, 07 Jul 2016 10:15:57 -0500Grief is a complex matter bringing us deep sorrow; above all, when caused by the death of someone we know and love. It comes to us suddenly, accidentally, traumatically, tragically and sometimes expectantly or prematurely.
Tue, 05 Jul 2016 11:45:44 -0500We are easily disassembled, and not easily mended. Yet the strongest heart demonstrates a willingness to be torn so that it might be healed. A heart that demonstrates its willingness to suffer the red hot poker sorting through its ashes is the same heart that has unknowingly called angels who will scatter the demons. Looking at our mistakes is hard; embracing them takes such immense honesty.
Tue, 05 Jul 2016 07:09:43 -0500Recently I heard about a woman had been abused by a Facebook friend for apparently posting too much about her loss. A lady I'm acquainted with posted a photograph of the text message, worried that someone might do the same to her. She and her partner had lost their baby at 59-days-old. Shattered by her loss, her grief found safe harbour within a special group to which I belong - because of our loss. Only six months have passed. The baby she had long prayed for, the baby that was hers, hers to enjoy, had Pallister-Killian Syndrome (PKS) - the syndrome our deceased son had. Nobody can comprehend the journey she's been on, least of all herself or her partner and their family. Nobody.
Wed, 29 Jun 2016 08:49:56 -0500The purpose of life is not learned at the pinnacle, more so at the precipice. The purpose of life is learned in the abyss; in clawing our way out through a hope that vanished long ago, that is clung to anyway. The purpose of life becomes apparent when an old life is discontinued for a new one that hasn't arrived yet. Yes, in the now-but-not-yet reality, in the land-between-land.
Mon, 27 Jun 2016 07:20:05 -050010PM in the evening, and I sidle up to my pretty wife and say, "Guess what anniversary we've got coming up... ?" [blank look from her] "July 1st?" "Oh yeah," she said. That day will ever be etched in our hearts; those minutes of late morning, and the seconds that ticked with temerity onward.
Mon, 27 Jun 2016 07:15:49 -0500Sometimes in the human experience, our pain and loss seems too much to bear. After we acknowledge and feel all our emotions, we may take comfort in knowing that Love is always there.
Fri, 24 Jun 2016 09:30:14 -0500The journey from adversity to redemption occurs via endurance, and, in that we know God is good, because, as we're obedient, He is faithful. He never fails to complete what only He could accomplish - our redemption that for months or years we hoped for, endured for, and never gave up for.
Mon, 20 Jun 2016 08:06:07 -0500Here's the typical thing. We ignore the hurts of others, most especially so when our own needs are taken care of. But when we've suffered some horrible injustices we can develop an enhanced empathic capacity; the blessing outbound of brokenness, if we can transcend the temptation to bitterness that leads to cynicism. Especially if there is some source of love we can draw hope from.
Mon, 20 Jun 2016 07:08:52 -0500That there is a great deal of pain in the world hardly needs to be stated. The reason you're probably interested enough in the title of this article to click on it indicates there's pain in your life or in the lives of those you love; probably both; pain that cannot be assuaged through any action on your part or the others'.
Wed, 15 Jun 2016 14:56:57 -0500I remember you, the first time ever I saw your face, the special magic that was you, the eyes I always loved, the you I grew to cherish. I remember your smile and all the expressions reflected in your mouth. The kind and gentle words you shared, the laughter and giggles I grew to love, the songs you loved to sing along with, your passion for things you believed in that refused to be suppressed, the anger at injustice you felt compelled to voice; most of all, I remember the last words I heard from you. These are cherished memories I will never forget.
Mon, 13 Jun 2016 06:50:22 -0500C.S. Lewis once said that he was astounded how close grief was to the feeling of fear. There are many things that implicate us in fear. Certainly the grief of uncertainty, where the floor has fallen out of the security we had in life. When life is irreparably changed. There are situations we find implicitly fearful, where vulnerability takes the place of safety. And then there's our own minds, which cause us to fear things known and unknown, real and unreal.
Mon, 13 Jun 2016 06:49:53 -0500Would you describe yourself as an analytical thinker; someone who keeps thinking endlessly about problems you have? I am. And if the problem is stressful it can cause both the head and heart to hurt so much as to create anxiety and depression. For some several years now I've been able to regulate those thoughts so they don't hurt so much when I continually ruminate over an issue.
Wed, 08 Jun 2016 13:36:27 -0500Heroin usage and heroin overdoses have become an epidemic on Long Island. Long Island has even been called the "Heroin Highway". In Nassau County alone there were more than 821 non-fatal heroin and opiate overdoses in 2013, according to the Long Island Herald, of which 119 were fatal.
Tue, 07 Jun 2016 06:42:03 -0500Blessed is that season of life that takes us from notorious to forgotten; to know that it takes time for people to forget our sins against them. But blessed also is that time in our lives when we experience such a loss as to be continually forgotten, so we may find that, as broken pottery, or as a dead person, we can survive without the accolades of men as we recognise we already have the accolades of God, by His gracious Presence.
Mon, 06 Jun 2016 08:40:16 -0500Losing someone is never an easy process. The memories you have with that person will forever linger and the pain knowing they will no longer be there makes it so much harder.
Mon, 06 Jun 2016 06:47:39 -0500Something's missing when tragedy touches our life, something is forever lost. Beyond the loss that we openly mourn lay those that no one sees. A lifelong search begins; one we imagine may never end. Tragedy is a heartbreaking loss. It is akin to a search and rescue that becomes a search and recovery operation. All hope is gone for a return to a normality that we knew. What are we searching for, what's missing?
Thu, 02 Jun 2016 14:48:45 -0500When a loved one has died we feel overwhelmed and don't know how to handle our own emotions. Often as a parent we are at a loss how to help our children who might need us more than ever before.
Thu, 02 Jun 2016 06:39:22 -0500Amazing. We're promised suffering in our Bibles, but until we do actually suffer we never see those words. They're written in invisible ink, until sorrow befalls us one innocent moment.
Thu, 02 Jun 2016 06:38:48 -0500Amidst the prevalence of grief, Lewis asks, "Where are You, God?" No sign! He makes those of the faith a laughingstock, yet only those with faith get through grief unscathed by cynicism. We're not alone, he says. Even Christ said, from Psalm 22, "Why have You forsaken me?" Feeling forsaken, yet knowing the opposite, makes faith possible, but it doesn't make faith any easier to understand.
Tue, 31 May 2016 10:59:46 -0500Sorrow, melancholy, sadness are all around; tears dwelling in the eyes of those who have lost their loved ones, those who once had the ones they loved close to their hearts. Their world seem to have ended, their joy vanished, their hopes lost, their happiness killed. Who will bring back the relative of the one who first asked and inquired about them and when saw the name of his relative; lost his senses and yelled?
Tue, 31 May 2016 07:04:43 -0500There is always something to see in the dilemma at hand, if only we're curious enough to seek God for the knowledge of it. The trouble is we often respond very emotionally when we're blindsided by situations and thoughts we didn't anticipate. We panic. But, if we hold that moment, asking God to show us something new, He will.
Tue, 31 May 2016 07:04:25 -0500Not everyone, sure, but some have such brokenness, there are massive pieces strewn over the campus of their lives that, if picked up, contribute to a miracle of God's grace to resurrect. For one it's their own personal problems. For another it's a dysfunctional family to recover from. From a third, it's the pivotal betrayal of a spouse.
Tue, 31 May 2016 06:50:10 -0500Joseph spent a full thirteen years developing in character. From age 17 to about 30 he faced hardship after temptation after persecution after tumult. Like Job after him, by the time God used his life with great power, he had learned the humility that believes: "God is with me no matter what I face, and, that facing what I face like I can proves God is with me, and actually, nothing else matters."
Mon, 23 May 2016 11:19:41 -0500ALONG the road toward a goal, its realisation some time off, and it's not just any old goal - our whole being might necessarily revolve around it - we sit and wait. It's not so much that God is teaching us to wait, but it is necessary to wait, and, in that, He's teaching us to sit patiently in the dark, before all can be revealed... in His time and way.
Mon, 23 May 2016 07:01:57 -0500There are two godly purposes in suffering. To learn ours so we may help others in theirs.
Mon, 16 May 2016 08:13:19 -0500As I browsed photos I'd posted on social media over the past two years I noticed something. Not only was life no longer plagued by the problems of then, now I have new problems to deal with. Even though I could track some problems of past, including the fatal diagnosis and imminent stillbirth of our son, Nathanael, today's problems outweighed everything of past, because, and this is the important point, I have God's faithfulness to reflect on for those experiences of past where He upheld me in those difficulties. Life is okay no matter how bad things are, presently, for these four reasons
Mon, 16 May 2016 06:38:01 -0500Accepting and letting go of someone you love is the difficult challenge that lies in the death of a loved one. How is it possible that one who is so alive with so much to share could so suddenly leave, forever? Where did you go, we wonder; are you afraid, are you lonely or hurting? We feel so helpless, believing there is no way to reach out and hold their hand or comfort them on this solo journey. Do they wish they were here, do they miss us; do they know our heart is broken or how much we loved them?
Mon, 16 May 2016 06:15:22 -0500As I read about a pastor's response to assist a family come to terms with the loss of their eight-year-old son, accidentally hanged in their backyard, I choked back tears for their loss. I know something of their pain, but any parent, whether they've lost a child or not, knows the irredeemable sting of death in this life. (Sure, death has lost its sting for all eternity, but a parent must still work out their salvation, here, without their dead child.)