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Published: Wed, 25 Apr 2018 06:20:08 -0500

 



Grief, and 'What's Wrong With My Memory'

Mon, 23 Apr 2018 14:53:51 -0500

Loss is truly a state of situation where we don't just lose someone or something, we lose part of ourselves in the event and ensuing process. The identity goes through deconstruction, and that overhaul, for the fortunate ones, is the genesis of reformation.



Want to Be Alone, But Hate Being by Myself

Mon, 23 Apr 2018 07:06:24 -0500

How paradoxical it can be in the season of loss, to prefer neither of the opposed options - to be with people or to be alone. I know this enigma of being very well, and anyone who's ever grieved will possibly relate with the state of needing people yet not feeling safe with people.



Alone But Not Alone

Sat, 21 Apr 2018 20:06:12 -0500

"Even though at times I felt like an orphan, You, Lord, took me in and cared for me." My paraphrase of Psalm 27:10 proves something that is only proven in our hearts when we've been a spiritual orphan.



Grief, a Journey Misunderstood, Walked With Few Comforters

Fri, 20 Apr 2018 11:13:01 -0500

Someone said to me recently that grief was a journey impossible to understand unless you've walked it. Such a wise observation deserves some expounding.



When Our Heart & Soul Know Something Before We Do

Thu, 19 Apr 2018 15:28:00 -0500

Is it possible our soul can be aware of something before our physical self is? Sometimes our unexpected reaction to an experience may be speaking volumes about what is happening on a soul-level - either to ourselves or someone we love. Learning to pay attention to what our intuitive selves might be trying to tell us isn't always about quieting the mind... it might also be reflected in our reaction to an external event.



Sadness - Crushing the Human Spirit

Thu, 19 Apr 2018 15:17:02 -0500

When deep, painful sorrow enters life it changes the very landscape around us. It is an all-encompassing emotion that commands all of your attention, all the time. The natural response is to retreat within to what can soon become a human tomb with walls that grow thicker as you close out the outside world. Sadness is the result of a profound and many times life changing event. Working your way through it is much like traversing a strange darkly lit place through thick fog. Everything looks different, a little frightening and certainly strange. It is essential to escape from this place of pain lest it become a final resting place for the spirit of you. Sadness can crush the human spirit.



From Pain to God's Presence Through Pain

Wed, 18 Apr 2018 11:25:05 -0500

There are many ways with which God challenges our hearts, but could this way be poignant for us all? The truth is, because we're all sinners, we all fail to adequately and appropriately follow Jesus like He or we would like. Secondly, we fail to experience Jesus as He or we would like. These, I believe, are connected. (This article is no comment on the grace that saves us all from an eternal destiny without Christ, thank God!)



Surviving and Thriving After Horrendous Grief and Loss

Sun, 15 Apr 2018 10:21:01 -0500

Thriving is about having meaning in everything you do. You must begin to make decisions to gradually focus on thriving rather than just surviving. Begin to look upon your grief as a second new and different chance at life. You are the one who decides when you get knocked down by life and stay down or get back up? At all times, embrace all available social media, technology, internet, and all other beneficial and essential resource solutions. Overcoming despair, grief and loss should be your highest priority. To stop grieving, start healing grief, loss, and sorrow, and finding hope and joy is vital to experiencing lasting peace and happiness.



Good Grief?

Thu, 12 Apr 2018 08:02:17 -0500

I know grief. We've met before. He got stronger over the years. Haven't felt his disabling strength since I lost my little sister 7 years ago. He was brutal that time. I got a phone call and then his full-force punch in the heart. I ran off the road and a policeman ticketed me for parking where it wasn't allowed. I was covered by the fog of grief and barely registered the event. That's what grief does. It distorts life.



Just Where Would an Avalanche of Tears Be Welcome?

Sun, 08 Apr 2018 16:56:15 -0500

At one point she said, 'I just cannot stop crying... it's so silly.' I have heard that so much in people like her, in a state of disbelief for the grief that smothers all normality like an avalanche, just one of sorrow. It is another thing that I had no answer for, except, 'You loved him so much and he's gone; there's a lifetime of sadness in that.'



The Frustration of Repetition in the Grief Journey

Fri, 06 Apr 2018 06:59:36 -0500

I have heard so many people in their grief journey repeat the same stories time and again. I'm patient because I've been there. Even as I surveyed my old journals of 2003 and 2004 I was reminded of this important and crucial facet of the grief process.



The Passion That Broke Jesus As He Bled Compassion

Fri, 30 Mar 2018 11:57:06 -0500

The betrayal in Gethsemane stands once for all time, the treachery of humanity against a God that devised us. Even of a sense that we may love God, we resist God and even repel God at times. Judas Iscariot lives in each of us; that fearful, greedy, self-obliging spirit.



A God Made for When Grief Strikes

Thu, 29 Mar 2018 07:04:49 -0500

Sitting at the table, alone and shut up in anguish, far beyond the reach that this world's therapy can supply, where all idols fade, when everything hurts, and nothing helps, with heart wrought, God is sought. That situation of sitting at the table, searching the Scriptures, journalling, bawling, praying, all alone, was such a common experience, I hardly thought of being 'met' by God as a comfort.



Why Grief Was Made for Hope

Fri, 23 Mar 2018 11:27:54 -0500

Some statements seem ridiculous when we first read them. Perhaps the title seems bizarre. But there are always truths in life we have no idea about. Then, sometimes, God uses the circumstances in our lives to break through and cause us to learn something new.



Seven Ways Tears Beat Fears

Fri, 23 Mar 2018 11:26:22 -0500

This article is brought to you today by the concept of tears of depth when the heart is moved. A vision God gave me in those tears: there are multiple ways tears help us to feel alive every day and remove fear.



Accepting the Things That Cannot Be Changed As Chosen

Mon, 19 Mar 2018 14:53:23 -0500

If we cannot alter the flow of change in our lives, there is much to be said for changing the flow of our attitude toward whatever we cannot alter. It is very wonderful, in that it works.



The Empty Nester's Grief

Sat, 17 Mar 2018 09:22:57 -0500

When my eldest daughter turned 18 I carried around one of her baby photos for two years, every day gazing at it - where had those years gone? You would think I would have adjusted to the grief of a child leaving home and living their own life when daughter two reached adulthood... and when daughter three graduated from adolescence.



Grief Can Be About Loss And Vulnerability

Wed, 14 Mar 2018 15:29:19 -0500

At all times, embracing all available social media, technology, internet, and all other beneficial and essential resource solutions for overcoming despair, grief and loss should be your highest priority. To stop grieving, start healing grief and sorrow, finding hope and joy is vital to experiencing lasting peace and happiness. difficulties." ~Helen Keller Do you want to find new purpose and happiness in your life? Consider the actions you can take that will assist you to reclaim empowerment after your grief happening. Practice replacing negative or limiting beliefs with new thoughts of hope and optimism. Believe your life is worth living. Be clearly aware that your happiness is not determined by your circumstances but by you! By facing your personal demons, you can discover your own courage, strength and wisdom.



How To Crack The Grief Relief Healing Code

Sun, 11 Mar 2018 16:50:21 -0500

Transformation from an awful grief happening requires new patience and understanding you haven't ever sought after before. Certainly, you shouldn't look upon your now and future life as a life of misery and hopelessness. Your ability to better cope as you move through your grief, can increase. You are able to intensify your capability to find more happiness on the other side of your mourning. However, your mourning, because of your grief conditions never finishes. This is important for you to understand. Learning to reconcile more frequently enhances your happiness. This understanding brings forward more harmony to you and a fuller hopeful life. You can seize a healthier recovery if you understand clearly that your healing is in the reconciling of your grief.



The Courage to Be Weak

Fri, 09 Mar 2018 07:01:13 -0600

This was a recent epiphanic prayer: God, give me both the willingness and ability - the humility - to be weak, especially when I try to be strong. Amen. Then I realised what it would take: courage. Nobody wants to be weak. We all want to show how strong we are. But being willingly weak, admitting we are weak when we are, takes courage, which is real strength.



Making the Most of Our Time

Mon, 05 Mar 2018 09:05:13 -0600

I heard a man tell a story on Sunday of being at a funeral on the Tuesday - for a man advanced in years who was well known to his Men's Shed community. They were celebrating his life with another man present who, little did anyone know - least of all the man himself, passed away suddenly on the Thursday.



That Old Long Arc of Grief

Sat, 03 Mar 2018 17:41:19 -0600

'DID you see it there?' God asked. 'Yes, Lord... I did,' came the response of my eye. There before me sat an Aunt, between my mother and another Aunt. The look on her face communicated the mood of her soul. A confused nothingness. A loneliness beyond conciliation. A soul shut in for the time being.



Why, Oh Why Are You So Sad

Thu, 01 Mar 2018 20:35:55 -0600

Sadness is a hollow emotion, one that leaves us feeling empty and alone regardless of who's around. It can arrive slowly like a stealthy stranger that creeps into life or it can simply stay as the emotion that is left behind from a shocking loss. Sadness happens when we know something or someone really important, something precious has been taken away. It is the emotion we feel when we believe that this is an unalterable loss. Something has ended, it's over and there is no way back to what used to be. There may indeed be no way to return to yesterday or any semblance of it.



7 Steps To Overcome Griefgrappia

Mon, 26 Feb 2018 07:11:20 -0600

At all times, embracing all available social media, technology, internet, and all other beneficial and essential resource solutions for overcoming despair, grief and loss should be your highest priority. To stop grieving, start healing grief and sorrow, finding hope and joy is vital to experiencing lasting peace and happiness. You have the power to decide. Create a plan of independents. You can be self-regulating. You can be self-determining. You can be very self-sufficient. You can be self-governing. You are free to choose.



The Encouragement We Give Others When We Suffer or Fail

Mon, 26 Feb 2018 07:11:17 -0600

NOBODY likes to fail. We all like to succeed. But have you ever thought how much people are given to the blessing of empathy when we are exposed to suffering, and how much people are encouraged when we fail, when we show them we are fallible?



Gloriously Wounded, Wondrously Broken

Mon, 26 Feb 2018 07:05:49 -0600

In grief is the reminder that life is not right. We may be haunted by a truth that just seems too stark. Yet it's incredible how, from hindsight, we can adapt to such a state of intrapersonal chaos. We learn that we're vulnerable, and ultimately we learn to accept how vulnerable we are.



A Heal My Grief & Loss List - 4 How Questions Answered

Wed, 21 Feb 2018 14:51:31 -0600

At all times, embracing all available social media, technology, internet, and all other beneficial and essential resource solutions for overcoming despair, grief and loss should be your highest priority. To stop grieving, start healing grief and sorrow, finding hope and joy is vital to experiencing lasting peace and happiness. Practical solutions are absolutely necessary for coping with immediate feelings of sorrow, grief reconciliation and loss, as well as the difficult emotions that can persist over time. Essential answers are a must-have companion as you courageously confront and process your deep emotional feelings, in your efforts to progress through your grief into peace and healing.



Surrender to Ether

Tue, 20 Feb 2018 13:36:22 -0600

As an individual that has dealt with the loss of a loved one, I truly empathize with the stages of grief and loss. People who are grieving do not necessarily go through the stages in the same order or experience all of them. This process can take several years to a lifetime to work through.



A Gentle Landing When Life Is Harsh

Sun, 18 Feb 2018 09:40:12 -0600

Have you ever noticed how easy it seems to give up on life; to make that key decision of action to stop going on? I felt it yesterday several times, even amongst friends and loved ones; that loneliness of soul that had lost all sense of hope in the seconds before it.



The Emotional Stages of Loss and Grief

Tue, 13 Feb 2018 14:37:19 -0600

Loss and the grief that often follows is an inevitable part of life. Knowing what to expect can go a long way in helping you through these difficult times.



Cherish, Don't Lament, Those TEARS of Yours

Tue, 13 Feb 2018 08:05:18 -0600

IT happened three days in a row, and I'm not afraid to say, I am so glad. I cried. Wept healing tears. Not really for my own healing, yet perhaps also my own.



Gratitude In the Valley of Grief

Sun, 04 Feb 2018 08:06:31 -0600

IMPOSSIBLE concepts are not foreign in the Kingdom of God, but of course impossibilities in a worldly context are possibilities where God reigns. Gratitude in the time of grief, for instance, is possible as a concept in the Kingdom of God, but the world generally thinks that's absurd.



Death Is Inevitable

Wed, 31 Jan 2018 08:16:07 -0600

"Death smiles at us, all a man can do is smile back". Death is very dreadful and unjustifiable event. It is the only real event which has a 100 % probability of occurrence.



Essential Grief Relief and Healing Questions

Thu, 25 Jan 2018 14:44:18 -0600

Having experienced horrendous grief and loss have you asked: How do I break through my personal grief and loss obstacles? How can I stand against grief and reconcile my sorrow and loss? How do I eliminate my personal grief longevity and permanency? Can I reject grief without hope, happiness, and healing efforts? How can I manifest my dreams, and live the best life possible? What steps can I take to renew myself completely each day; do it again, and again, and forever?



A Guide To Heal Sorrow & Loss

Tue, 23 Jan 2018 15:00:04 -0600

A rock-solid pathway to reconcile your grieving heart and emotions is a must-have, much-needed guide. Early-on, in your grief experience you may not be aware that the grief healing guide you need is found within your own empowerment. After a grief happening in your life you can't go back to exactly how you were. It is necessary for you to reset and renew your new life. Begin seeking then embracing your grief healing guide. It must include a rock-solid pathway to reconcile your grieving heart and emotions.



A Love Letter From God If You Are Struggling

Mon, 22 Jan 2018 07:07:17 -0600

THIS is not an endless string of Bible verses, nor is it something soppy and romantic. But it is what I believe what God has laid on my heart, consistent with the character of God.



Grief and Loss Prepare You for Healing and Joy

Sun, 21 Jan 2018 09:07:58 -0600

Understanding the complexities of your grief is essential as you travel along your grief rehabilitation journey. Your personal grief reconciliation is best accomplished as you gain insight and understanding about the complexity of your personal sorrow. You should feel no shame in admitting your grief. There is no disgrace in not fully understand the complexity of your grief. Understand that grief and loss prepare you for future joy. Grief healing actions can shake the grieving leaves from the bough of your heart. New hopeful leaves of peace and anticipation can grow in their place. Your grief relief activities will pull up sorrowful roots so that strong new reconciliation roots can grow in their place. Don't be disheartened you can stop grieving and start healing. Your grief and loss can prepare you for healing and Joy.



The 3-Minute Test You Spend Your Whole Life Preparing For

Mon, 15 Jan 2018 14:54:43 -0600

NEVER do we go through our formative years thinking any of it's a preparation, but there does come a time when it's all tested. One of those pivotal tests for me was between 2300hrs and 2303hrs on October 30, 2014 - meeting my stillborn son.



Loss Is Love in All Its Fullness

Fri, 12 Jan 2018 14:48:48 -0600

GRIEF at a loved one's passing or the loss of anything significant is the full payment for the love we had for that person or the hopes we had for that dream. That might feel like a slap across the face, but when loss comes it throws us so far we realise just how much we must have loved, because what we cannot stop loving or needing is irretrievably gone.



How Long Does Grief Last For?

Thu, 11 Jan 2018 15:17:52 -0600

THIS quote on grief I'll never forget: "I believe it takes a full three years to get through loss." (Pastor Craig Vernall, April 2017) The quote astounded me because it seemingly broke with traditional grief wisdom that pegs it as a two-to-twelve-month acute phase process, and something we never truly overcome, but learn to accept.



Faith in Grief, at Best Victorious, at Worst an Aspiration

Wed, 10 Jan 2018 14:32:35 -0600

THROUGH it all, through it all, my eyes are on you (Jesus), and it is well. The adapted strains of Horatio Spafford's classic hymn communicate, as he did, the scandalous reality of an overcoming hope in the deepest grief, a psychological phenomenon setting faith apart as priceless in our darkest hour.



When Will This Desert Drudgery End? Will I Ever Reach the Promised Land?

Mon, 08 Jan 2018 07:19:42 -0600

EVER had a conversation with a person trying to encourage you and left more discouraged than ever? I've been on both sides of that kind of interaction.



Just Swimming Around

Fri, 05 Jan 2018 15:10:53 -0600

I grew up in a fairy-tale world and life was good. It wasn't until the death of my son by suicide challenged me more than I ever believed possible. I was forced to face the realities of a changed world and my illusion was shattered. Finding the strength after significant loss required changing my philosophy, exploring options, and raw determination before the sun could shine again.



Has God Got a Purpose for Me In My Grief?

Fri, 05 Jan 2018 15:08:13 -0600

ACCEPTING that everyone grieves differently, we can still agree that the pain is the same awful reality for everyone. Why does grief hurt so much?



Lament Fit for a King, David's Way to Strength in Weakness

Thu, 04 Jan 2018 15:20:31 -0600

It is necessary to give over (admit and accept) our human weakness to gain divine strength. Put another way, the presence of human weakness is essential to receive the divine strength of God's Presence.



No, This Is Not Happening To Me

Wed, 03 Jan 2018 13:41:21 -0600

This is a story about my much anticipated birthday trip. Unfortunately. it did not happen as planned. However, I was able to learn a valuable lesson.



Dispelling The Myth That It Just Takes Time

Tue, 02 Jan 2018 07:27:09 -0600

When my best friend, my hero, my Dad died, I thought that I was going to die too. In a way, I did die. My broken heart and my longing to see and talk to him was more than I could bear.



You Grieve How You Grieve

Wed, 27 Dec 2017 14:44:06 -0600

WHEN we lost Nathanael I'm sure there were some, perhaps many, who doubted the grief journey we were on. Maybe we grieved too well for some people. All I know is that our grief journey was normal and appropriate and only what it could be for us.



My Worst Christmas Ever and How God Redeemed It

Sat, 23 Dec 2017 09:32:31 -0600

2004 was a weirdly hope-filled, growing, expanding year for me in the most part, but there were still elements of hangover from the previous year. Overall, the year was a solid eight-out-of-ten. It was the year I heard God call me out of secular-life-for-me into ministry-for-Him. It was also a year where I grew so much as a father into the new life my family was thrust into.



5 Things to Hate About Christmas (and Any Other Celebration)

Fri, 22 Dec 2017 13:44:58 -0600

THINK of anytime in the experience of life as a celebration, and there's another side. The experience of that time for those suffering grief.



How God Uses Grief to Teach Us Hope

Sun, 17 Dec 2017 08:42:59 -0600

In grief there is unprecedented and unparalleled poverty of spirit. Sadness like no other. A place of soul where all is foreign. Where all anchors fail and where trust is tested and torn. Sight of hope has vanished; felt realities of hope are vanquished.



Grieving Exchanges Honesty for Healing

Tue, 12 Dec 2017 14:39:49 -0600

DO it now or do it later, either way the work of grieving just must be done. That's what I've heard so many times.



10 Things Your Counsellor Wants to Say to You But Can't

Mon, 11 Dec 2017 07:02:37 -0600

ACTS of therapy require great courage - in both the giving and receiving of counsel. Going to counselling could be about as enjoyable as going to the dentist. The point is made, however, that when either are needed only great detriment occurs when we put it off.



An Inextinguishable Hope

Fri, 08 Dec 2017 15:04:44 -0600

DESPAIR is such an unenviable condition, having been there, none of us want to return. Yet, life experience attests to a fact; if we fell to the pit of an abyss once, it won't be the only time.



What Do I Do When Grief Sneaks Up to Confront and Shock Me?

Fri, 08 Dec 2017 08:17:22 -0600

EYE OPENERS in life come in pleasant and painful extremes. And grief is an eye opener of the most painful variety. A nemesis that seems to sneak up from nowhere at times, to take away our peace, our joy, our hope, our mind, to rob our heart of the security we so desperately rely on.



The Character of All-Abiding Sorrow in Grief

Fri, 08 Dec 2017 08:16:43 -0600

ONLY 24-hours ago my family learned we had lost a dear member - my Uncle. He was a man full of humour no matter how hard life was. There is so much about him that could be written. A small article like this cannot do justice to his memory.



Six Ways To Beat The Holiday Blues

Tue, 05 Dec 2017 14:45:58 -0600

Losing a loved one can make getting through the holidays difficult. Here are six ways to cope with stress and overcome the holiday blues.



Writhing Through the Pain of Hurt

Sat, 02 Dec 2017 11:12:08 -0600

THIS cannot be an article about hope - where hurts sting through tear-swollen eyes, a mind agonizing, a heart defeated - at least not a flippant hope. It's okay. It's not okay that your heart is hurting. But it is okay that you cannot hope right now. It is okay that you cannot face thought of present, let alone the future.



Where Is the Hope When All Is Pain?

Mon, 27 Nov 2017 07:17:23 -0600

Pain forces us toward or away from hope, and the latter only because we gave up hope of finding it. The former is pain's objective - to locate hope and reconcile who we are amid pain, and who we are to be post pain.



The Company of God's Presence in the Numb Night of Grief

Thu, 16 Nov 2017 15:05:52 -0600

SOMETHING is common in the experience of those who have been broken by a pain that rips their lives to shreds. God's Presence.



The Grief Integral to Full Faith Allegiance in Christ

Thu, 16 Nov 2017 07:14:27 -0600

FALSE truths and half-faiths there are plenty of in the Christian walk; both as far as dogmas and lived-out varieties are concerned. John Stott was right when he said that heresy is the over-emphasis on some truth without allowing other truths to qualify and balance it. (And this article will no doubt feature an imperfect mix of truth!)



Do You Ever Ask, Did It Really Happen?

Thu, 09 Nov 2017 15:04:02 -0600

BUZZ goes the phone, and as I check for the message it's a friend. He reminds me of the significance of a date (tomorrow) I already know - yet, suddenly, God has me go in on a journey. He shows me something surreal. It catches me by surprise.



He Who Made You Will Make a Way for You

Thu, 09 Nov 2017 14:54:42 -0600

IF you're battling today, to hold it together, or to take that next step, or maybe to simply halt that slide backwards, consider this. Whatever happens, whether you succeed or fail, you're dearly loved.



On the Other Side of Acceptance

Mon, 06 Nov 2017 06:56:26 -0600

REALITY is only a threat when we cannot live in harmony with the truth. Yet reality is a real issue for every single one of us. It's a phenomenon that must be mastered if we're to live the life every human being is purposed to live. Comparatively few ever do. Yet it's the opportunity God freely gives each one of us.



God Is for You and With You in Your Trial

Sun, 05 Nov 2017 07:59:58 -0600

UNDER spiritual attack, one of the first things we forget is that God is for us. Our Lord is present and powerful in all circumstances, especially when we're weak, and that's because we're more likely to pray and to lean not in our own understanding when we're being overpowered.



Endurance Is Easier When We Accept Life Is a Test

Sat, 04 Nov 2017 09:54:47 -0500

NOBODY really likes the sound of that title, I know. But deeper consideration of this truth evokes the super-conquering hope Paul talked about in Romans 8:37.



How the Stages of Grief Manifested in Me

Wed, 01 Nov 2017 15:33:58 -0500

The stages of grief theory was of course posited by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross (and David Kessler). It involves denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally, acceptance. The strength of the model is it highlights real stages we go through as we experience loss. One of its weaknesses is it's not linear - the stages tend to reoccur chaotically. But it's overall flow is true. Here are my observations of the grief I've experienced over the past three years:



Man of Sorrows for the Man and Woman in Pain

Thu, 26 Oct 2017 15:13:02 -0500

JESUS hung out with all the wrong types, because no ladder-climbing was done there. He sought out the lonely, broken heart, unlike His detractors who loved ladder-climbing.



The Gloves Come Off - A Look at the Transformation of Death

Wed, 25 Oct 2017 19:19:03 -0500

Grieving is so very individual. If you are struggling with the loss of a loved one I highly recommend that you seek professional or spiritual council. With help you may find that you are able to embrace the transformation of energy and use it to create something new for yourself.



Every Response to Loss Is Appropriate

Tue, 24 Oct 2017 15:06:45 -0500

As all grief is real, all responses are appropriate, commensurate with the pain we experience. It only grieves the spirit in us more when we're told we're doing grief wrong.



Why Grief Isn't Depression and One Thing You Can Do About It

Mon, 23 Oct 2017 07:06:32 -0500

HAVE you ever visited a psychotherapist once, never gone back, and realised it was the best hour you could have ever spent? I've had one of those experiences. And the older gentleman taught me the difference between depression (which I thought I had, but didn't) and grief (which I had). Sure, I was depressed, but...



On My & America's Collective Suffering and Loss

Fri, 20 Oct 2017 08:04:19 -0500

The world is collectively choosing to undergo experiences of loss and hurt. The veneer of "everything is okay" with America is eroding on an inner level as well as on the outer level we all see. Collectively, we have all decided we want something better than the old system.



What If I Made the Decision to Stop Suffering?

Thu, 19 Oct 2017 21:14:10 -0500

When a circumstance means your whole heart and soul to you, and when that circumstance changes for whatever reason, and when we feel like dying as a result, this is the emotional suffering I am speaking about. Can you relate?



I Wasn't Just Grieving The Loss Of My Father

Thu, 19 Oct 2017 21:10:24 -0500

Shortly after I had got to the point where I could contain my emotions, the healer that I was working with said it would be a good idea for me to see if I could cry when I'm by myself. The reason for this was that I hadn't been able to cry during the sessions that we had had.



One Thing They Never Tell You About Loss

Sun, 15 Oct 2017 19:58:24 -0500

THERE are so many dynamics and nuances and variables in loss. But one thing remains the same. Grief is a phenomenon that changes us irrevocably. And there is but one choice - to go in the direction of one of two destinations: to move into the new life beckoning or to stifle its flow.



Son, You Would've Been Turning 3 Soon

Tue, 10 Oct 2017 14:58:05 -0500

EXTINGUISHED now is the deep pain of our loss, yet what has replaced it is the precious void we share together as we remember our son. Often, we talk about how old he would be, and we particularly miss him not being the loyal little brother to our now four-year-old.



On Puerto Rico and Hurricane Maria

Tue, 10 Oct 2017 08:39:14 -0500

The Puerto Rican people have a deep, spiritual root that no hurricane can take out. Electricity or not, they will shine again. Puerto Ricans don't just live on the island... they are the island.



If Only - Sad Words of Regret for the Grief Stricken

Mon, 09 Oct 2017 07:26:26 -0500

If only I had gone there, hadn't spoken those words, had taken a different route, listened to my own instincts... 'If Only' and all the words of regret that follow are scattered across a trail of shattered dreams, of broken hearts. We use them as we search for how we might have altered an incomprehensible outcome; a loss we simply cannot accept.



And Jesus Said, Always Pray and Never Give Up

Thu, 05 Oct 2017 15:40:11 -0500

Every day. No matter how empty your cup. Always pray. And never give up!



How My Counsellors Helped Me in My Deepest Grief

Wed, 04 Oct 2017 11:53:47 -0500

To my counsellors... I adore you, I salute you, I thank God for you. For without you I possibly wouldn't be here to write this. Without your gentle God-led intervention, I would be a different person, and I'm simply glad today that I am who I am, due in no small part to you. You were God in skin to me at a time in my life when God had to be real.



To a World That Won't Understand, and a God Who Will

Mon, 02 Oct 2017 14:03:52 -0500

What if we were to sense the loneliness in another individual, and simply attempt to meet them there. To just be there with them. Not try and fix anything. Just listen if they want to speak, and to hold the tensions of the irresolvable kind. To allow them the dignity of non-engagement. The sanctity of silence, which doesn't seem to us to be much of a ministry. Funny how when we move aside the Holy Spirit often moves in.



Traveling True Through Hell to the New You

Thu, 28 Sep 2017 09:14:41 -0500

REMINISCING over 14-year-old journal entries proves a thing true. A hell-of-months traversed through consistently, blesses, for such memories never fade.



How Loss Touches Us Deeply In God

Fri, 22 Sep 2017 08:22:32 -0500

Love how God continues to touch me through loss. So blessed just now to watch a dear woman's "life in images," and as I watched I saw eternity in those pictures of her life... a complete stranger (but none of us truly are strangers, are we?). I felt so blessed to read of a daughter's gratitude to the loving community of family and friends around her. And despite her grief she gave herself selflessly for others. Humanity at its rawest and best. And yet there are all the remaining days of her life that now must consist without her mother in them.



5 Experiences of Existential Pain We Must Get Used to

Mon, 18 Sep 2017 07:06:49 -0500

THE ABYSS. It's where God wants to take us. Not for our harm, but for our good. Not for no reason, but for a purpose. And we only realise this when we stumble on it by accident having been forced to go there by the cruel circumstances of life.



Light Shines Brightest at Night

Fri, 08 Sep 2017 15:38:54 -0500

THERE are foundational salvation truths we learn only in our darkest days. We never expect to be blessed at a time that seems so irretrievably cursed.



How Losses Are Gains in Disguise

Fri, 25 Aug 2017 14:49:43 -0500

TRANSFORMATION or tribulation. Every moment of our lives is a choice and a consequence for one or the other.



Transcending the Wounds of Grief

Thu, 24 Aug 2017 15:31:17 -0500

Our grief-avoidance society says, "Get over it quickly" or "let it go and move on;" yet, the pains and emotions cut deeper than a knife, oftentimes leaving us stuck and alone to suffer in silence. Someone that we loved has been taken away from us and we are expected to act as if it were only a small cut on our finger. It seems as though everyone around us has moved on with life.



On Learning To Feel My Feelings

Thu, 24 Aug 2017 08:23:22 -0500

A stranger bought lunch for my son and me today. It was a terrifically kind thing to do... and completely unexpected. Even now, hours after the event, I find myself moved with emotion by the gesture. I chose to receive it as a gift from my husband from whichever dimension he finds himself in. The entire incident brings tears to my eyes but unlike the old me, I don't hold them back like I used to...



Five Reasons to Embrace Grief

Wed, 23 Aug 2017 07:18:24 -0500

AMID the tempest of grief outbound of loss, love builds in the heart and wisdom forms in the mind, when we can allow the present to be as it is. Here below are five reasons to embrace the inevitable when it comes.



Give Yourself Permission to Grieve

Sat, 19 Aug 2017 11:17:22 -0500

Just as each of us was born with our unique DNA, so is the grief experience unique to each of us. There is no Standard Operating Procedure (SOP), rulebook, or one size fits all approach to handling grief. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and no one can tell you how to grieve; however, it is necessary to validate the uniqueness of the grief experience.



What Is Healing Your Grief?

Thu, 17 Aug 2017 14:44:28 -0500

It takes an absolute commitment to heal your grief. The healing is in the reconciling of your new changed condition. Achieving reconciliation requires a search for a renewed purpose and meaning. Hope for a better situation must emerge and a commitment to a future fullness. As you journey through grief and find your way you must accept the need to work through your mourning. In order to reconcile your grief requires intentional mourning what has forever changed in your condition. Hope for a better situation must emerge and a commitment to a future fullness. Possibilities for a better life will emerge as you make efforts to understand and meet your mourning needs. A search for self-improvement must be a constant in your healing efforts.



The Day of My Bicycle Triumph

Tue, 08 Aug 2017 08:23:02 -0500

When my husband and I discovered he had cancer, we still did not have running water or an indoor toilet. Off grid living was not going to work in this situation. Through a friend, we ended up in a small one bedroom rental. Very high stress. I took to riding my bicycle up and down the local streets...



On Starting Over With A Higher Love

Mon, 07 Aug 2017 08:13:53 -0500

Some people I meet live their lives completely disconnected from their inner world. I see it more like a journey through my own inner me. My husband taught me what devoted love looked like. As much as I knew how, I loved him but I know that there is another level that I have not yet known. An even holier one... and I think... if I am very quiet... that I can hear it is coming for me!



What Happened?

Thu, 03 Aug 2017 20:52:15 -0500

Questions a person is asked following the sudden death of a person who had drug and alcohol addictions. Things you should never ask a family member due to the painful reflections of reliving the death.



Shedding The Heavy Load & Letting Go

Wed, 02 Aug 2017 08:45:00 -0500

It's been eight months, one week and two days since my husband died. I have been actively sorting through all of our many, many belongings. It has been hard to let it go. I hold on to all sorts of things and to all sorts of people even long after I should have let them go... and I have been carrying years of baggage. Time to shed the heavy load of my many pasts... again.



5 Ways to Overcome Grief and Fantasy Loss

Tue, 01 Aug 2017 13:47:59 -0500

What Happens When Dreams Are No Longer Fantasies? When you daydream, you dream of a spectacular life you wish to live. You never consider the dream any other way.



What We Learned In Our Grief

Tue, 18 Jul 2017 14:29:13 -0500

Grief leaves its markers throughout the rest of our lives. Life never returns to what it was like nor should it - that is perhaps the greatest loss.



Just When We Thought We Were In the Clear

Tue, 18 Jul 2017 14:29:01 -0500

5PM on Friday July 18, 2014, I strolled through the door clutching flowers for my wife, and her parents' demeanour said it all. The moment stood still.



The Precise Reason We May Rejoice In Our Grief

Sat, 15 Jul 2017 10:42:50 -0500

LET'S use a different word than suffering: grief - it's the effect of loss, and suffering essentially is the condition of grief. The reason we may rejoice in our grief is...



What I Know, But Can Never Explain

Fri, 07 Jul 2017 08:48:17 -0500

FOR me, grief demands expression. And yet I can never fully comprehend nor succinctly communicate its mystery, which is so fitting. Still, there are myriads of caricatures of life made in the image of grief - showcased through articles, books, videos, testimonies, real lives, etc - both rousing and heartbreaking, not to mention countless shards of emotion evoked between which splinter off without recognition or acknowledgement.