Last Build Date: Fri, 24 Feb 2017 19:47:35 +0000
Fri, 24 Feb 2017 19:47:35 +0000From the first paragraph she quotes ' at first, I thought it was a joke.' This shows on first impression she was unsure and needed more time. I'd be sure 'at first' after 10 secondes I knew what I thought was right
Wed, 22 Feb 2017 22:52:56 +0000"The partner experiencing the trust breach can begin to doubt nearly everything, and resolving the “cognitive dissonance” (i.e. the mental stress that develops when a person finds themselves holding two or more contradictory beliefs or frames on reality at the same time) can take a very long time. " So who are these people? Are they the one who stole your heart and were so enthusiastically kind and excited to have you in their life, or the one who lies, manipulates, controls, avoids, uses passive aggression and only thinks of himself? And when I want something it is overruled if it isn't something he wants. I am still trying to figure out who I am really married to. Sometimes I feel like I have another child instead of a man. The sorrow and repentance doesn't last and we go through this again and again. It is exhausting.
Tue, 21 Feb 2017 03:31:15 +0000To Military Wife: I was diagnosed with PTSD in 1996. I've been in therapy since then. I've tried everything including individual therapy as well as group, cognitive behavioral therapy, hypnosis and self-hypnosis, electric shock and several more. EMDR has been helpful, but the most helpful therapy I've done is neurofeedback. After eight 50 minute sessions I've been able to reduce/eliminate my antidepressant/antianxiety meds, get control of intrusive thoughts and reduce my anxiety/irritability/anger greatly! Please share this with your husband.
Wed, 15 Feb 2017 16:27:35 +0000This describes my estranged wife to a T. I suffer from depression and anxiety and, after three years' of extreme emotional abuse, I have been diagnosed with PTSD. I am considering criminal charges and a separate civil suit for damages.
Mon, 06 Feb 2017 01:13:43 +0000Dear. Dr. Simon, My adult daughter might have issues with a splitting personality. After an argument with me she refused to speak to me for a month then my younger daughter defended me, so my older daughter said to her sister you're never on my side. 3 months & refuses to talk to her sister. Also saying that she's being bullied by me & younger daughter. She removed me from facebook, took away her maiden name on fb. Now talks to me but refuses to speak to her sister ever. When I said we're a family you have to talk to each other, let it go, she got angry & hung up on me & refuses to talk to me now. She said you dropped me once now your doing again, I can't take it. She does not even allow us to facetime or talk to her young children. Very upsetting.
Thu, 02 Feb 2017 00:24:51 +0000I dated a person who would always use I don't know when they wanted to avoid seriousness. However, initially, I was told that I was seen as the one, and within the first year. The second year turned into a confusing blur with I don't knows increasing and as a reason for most questions. Something serious or making plans turned into uncertainty and missed opportunities because of I don't know - avoidance. Finally, after years, missing pieces, and burn out on my end, I ended it. As the person felt baggered I became a parent to a child and it was my fault they felt this way. They began lying when they would get stumped and unable to be honest about the true reason or answer. When caught it was my fault. So, I found a few problems - gas lighting and avoidance.
Fri, 13 Jan 2017 16:18:49 +0000I believe my younger sister is a vulnerable narcissist. Our father is also a narcissist (but the grandiose kind), so she might have gotten it from him. But she is always playing the victim. She has done that since she was a child, we thought she was just sensitive to pain. She would get bumped by someone walking through the hallway and fall down saying they hit her. She would scream bloody murder if she stubbed her toe so everyone would come over and look at it. I noticed she tends to "get hurt" more often when everyones attention is on someone else's accomplishments. If anyone has any advise on how to deal with her, she is still in the denial phase where she thinks we are crazy for telling her to get help and we are running out of ideas
Thu, 12 Jan 2017 00:47:05 +0000I have been (years) victimized by manipulators and the mental health doctors are totally unaware in NJ of gaslighting any suggestions....FYI Smartphone cameras have made it worse...Epidemic Phones hacked, home invaded..and much much more...Any suggestions?
Wed, 11 Jan 2017 20:41:07 +0000Wow a light bulb had just gone on for me reading this site and learning about INFPs. All my life I've felt I've been treading water and mentally 'lost' but functioning. How people see me is not always how I see me or feel and I've felt 'outside' of what's going on around me, especially in the family scene (academics and extroverts). I like to be organised so think I am an INFJ but agree with other commenters that we are not stuck on one label individually and also that we need each others talents/quirks to balance the world. I look forward to reading more. I'm a young at heart 61 y.o. and now feel a step closer to understanding me and maybe following my 'dreams' with more confidence - but which dream to follow first, I will have to ponder on hah ha. Thanks for the site.
Tue, 03 Jan 2017 22:55:44 +0000Dear Dr. Simon, Thank you for your work. More than anyone you simplify this issue and force us to see the character deficits these people have. You are so right, we all have a moment when we foreshadow the manipulation and callousness but we choose to ignore it. Somehow we need to learn to be more mindful and tolerate the guilt we feel about being repulsed by them. Maybe instead of the gift of fear, the gift of disgust. Your limbic system helping you to not eat poison. ,Thanks again