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How Planning Helps Make Your Dreams Into Reality

Sat, 20 Jan 2018 18:45:00 +0000

         Are you a dreamer?Are you a planner?The two totally go together, you know.Okay, so maybe you read the title of this post and thought that the idea that planning can help make your dreams into reality seems a little far fetched.  But stick with me because it really can.I have a quote pinned to the wall in my office.  It's credited to Leonard da Vinci and it says: "It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them.  They went out and happened to things."A friend shared that quote with me several years ago.  She was describing me.  While I was flattered, I didn't feel worthy of such a description. My 2017 planner - well used and well lovedYou see, even though my resume looks fairly impressive on paper, I don't really consider myself to be a person of accomplishment.  But my insecurities are a whole different post, and we're not going to dwell on them today.  Instead, we're going to talk about the reason that she considered me to be a "person of accomplishment."What did it all boil down to?You guessed it...PLANNINGLike most people, I have had a number of dreams since I was a little girl.  I still have a number of dreams.  Things that I want to do, to be and to accomplish.My 2018 planner...we're just getting to know each other.  ;)Interestingly enough, that description fits another word as well...GOALSSo what are dreams then, but lofty goals?And how do we accomplish goals?  We set out a PLAN. AHA!  That's how planning helps to turn your dreams into reality.  It breaks them into bite size pieces, and gives them a timeline.No one ever accomplished anything of worth without a plan.  And no one ever accomplished a goal without breaking it down into smaller parts.For me, I like the idea of using a day planner.  And I choose to use one with individual pages for every day.  That way I can write down all of the small to-dos that eventually lead up to goal accomplishment.  Or, I can just write down which kid needs to be at which lesson at which time.  That's a good use of a planner as well.  OR...I can write down both. That's a good idea.  Lol!But however you choose to do it, I highly encourage you to pursue your go after those goals.  And make sure that you break them down into bite size pieces and PLAN FOR THEM!After all, if 2018 is going to be the year of FABULOUS, then we need to make it that way!If you'd like to try a wonderful planner - Here's a link to the Day Designer which is the planner that I use and LOVE (both planners pictured above are mine)!  It's still January, so it's not too late to buy one and use it to help you make your dreams come true this year! (Link is an affiliate link.)xoxoWendy[...]

Word of the Year 2018

Tue, 02 Jan 2018 23:32:00 +0000

         Hello Lovelies!Welcome to 2018For the past several years, I have chosen a word of the year.It functions like a one word goal, of sorts.Since I turned 45 in June of last year, I've been working to make my 45th year, a year of total transformation in my life.I've got a list of things that I want to do, to accomplish, and to change this year.  So when I was thinking of what I wanted my word of the year for 2018 to be, I decided that I wanted it to embody what it is that I am trying to become.And with a little help from my kiddos,I decided that my word/goal/mantra for this year will beIf you like my cute "Fabulous Girl" art, you can purchase artwork, iPhone cases, even a tee at my shop on Society6.  The word Fabulous encompasses the type of person I want to be, the type of life I want to lead, the type of health I want to have....I could go on, but you get the idea.So this year, I am going to make my life FABULOUS in every possible way.You can see my past Word of the Year posts at the links below.2011201220132014201520162017I'm curious if you have a word of the year!  If so, please share in the comments.xoxoWendy[...]

New Eyeglasses - and a deal for my readers

Tue, 26 Dec 2017 21:47:00 +0000

         This post is sponsored by GlassesShop.comHello Lovelies!I hope you all had a wonderful holiday!Our Christmas was cozy with just my little family and it wasPERFECT.I loved every minute of it. I hope that yours was perfect as well.  😊Today I want to share with you some new eyeglasses that I received from GlassesShop.comI was contacted by Glasses Shop a few months ago asking me to review some of their glasses, and since I was actually in the market for a new pair, I figured I'd give it a try.They had a great selection of eyeglasses to choose from. With some darling glasses frames including the adorable tortoise shell frames that I chose.  They even have prescription sunglasses.  But my favorite part of the website was the fact that I could virtually "try on" the glasses by uploading a photo of myself and using it to see how the different frames would look on my face.That has been something that always made me nervous about buying my prescription lenses online, but it took the nerves right out of it, since I had a pretty good idea of what the frames would look like on me when I received them.If you're in the market for a new pair of glasses...either because Santa didn't bring you a pair, because your prescription has changed (like me!) or just because it's time for an update, you're in luck! has generously offered readers of The Shabby Nest 50% OFF Eyeglasses and Sunglasses (sale frames excluded)Simply use code GSHOT50 at check out.Have a great day!I received a pair of eyeglasses free of charge from in order to facilitate my review.The opinions expressed are 100% mine.[...]

Mini-House Christmas Ornament Tutorial

Fri, 22 Dec 2017 18:22:00 +0000

         Hello Lovelies!On Instagram, the single request that I have received the most during this Christmas season, is for a tutorial on how to make my Christmas House Ornaments.  (If you don't follow me on Instagram,  I'd love it if you would.)This post contains affiliate links.And during my Christmas House Tour I promised that I would share a tutorial, so here it is!  Better late than never.  But in actuality, although they look complicated, these little beauties are super simple to make.  You could whip out a few for some last minute Christmas gifts.  Or make some for next year!You'll Need:  (I've linked to several of the items for your convenience)A photo of the house you'd like to drawGrid paper or Regular Paper and a RulerClear Shrinky Dink PaperA Fine Tip Black SharpieScissorsHole PunchMatte Mod PodgePaint BrushGlitter Snow1. Use the photo of the house you like (ideally the photo should be a straight-on view of the house) and then draw the house.  Since the aim of the final ornament is to have a bit of whimsy, a precise drawing is not important.  Grid paper helps to keep the lines fairly straight, however.  Or you may use a ruler if you prefer.2. After you have your drawing, place a piece of clear Shrinky Dink paper over the top and trace the house using the black Sharpie.  (Again, whimsy is the goal, so this doesn't have to be precise.)3. Cut out the house.  And punch a hole in the top for an ornament hanger.4.  Shrink in the oven according to the directions on the Shrinky Dink package.5.  Let cool, and then paint Mod Podge on the roof and sprinkle with glitter while it is still wet.  (This will look like snow.)That's it!If you try this project, I'd love to see your handiwork!  You can tag me on Instagram with #shabbynesthouse.Merry Christmas![...]

Christmas House Tour 2017

Tue, 28 Nov 2017 10:00:00 +0000

Welcome to The Shabby Nest I'm so excited to have you here for this year's Christmas House Tour!For the past several years, I have been honored to take part in the Holiday House Walk hosted by my talented friend, Jennifer Rizzo.There are always so many insanely beautiful homes that share holiday inspiration during this tour, it is an honor to be included.If you haven't had a chance already, please make sure you visit the house just before mine on the tour...My children and I have been living in Hydeaway Cottage since 2014.  It is our own little haven from the hustle, bustle, and worry of the world.  And I especially love to see our little home all dressed up in her Christmas finery.Each year, my challenge is to create a different holiday feeling using primarily the decor I already have. I add a little here and there, but what I really love, is pulling out cherished ornaments and decorations and finding a way to make them feel new and fresh.I hope you enjoy this year's tour of Hydeaway Cottage...THE DINING ROOMRead more »[...]

Motivation Monday: Getting Stuck in Planning Mode

Mon, 02 Oct 2017 06:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies,

Are you a goal setter?

As I have been working on goals for my "Year of Transformation", I've noticed something.

There is an insidious little behavior that tricks us into thinking that we are working on achieving our goals, when in fact, we are really not making progress toward them at all.
It seems to be worthwhile, because it is actually part of how we get started working on our goals, but if we aren't careful, it can take over and lull us into a false sense of accomplishment.

So what is this insidious behavior that is robbing us of our progress?


But not just's a bit more complicated than that.  Rather,  it's what I like to refer to as 

Perpetual Planning.

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What I Wore Wednesday

Wed, 20 Sep 2017 06:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies!

I'm back with another edition of What I Wore Wednesday.

Fall is finally making an appearance around these parts and I couldn't be more excited!

Fall and Winter clothing have always been favorites of mine and I'm so ready to pull out the cozy sweaters and the boots.

I have a couple of outfits to share with you today.

First, one of my very favorite ways to transition between summer and fall...

I love this sleeveless dress from Old Navy and have worn it many times throughout the summer.  Transitioning to fall is very easy for a dress like this one...simply add tights, a cardi and cute ankle boots and you've got a great look that will last all Autumn long.

Cardigan:  Old Navy    Boots: Breckelle's

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What I Wore

Wed, 06 Sep 2017 06:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies,

This is the last week of my self-wardrobe evaluation mirror selfies.   Lol!  

And I actually forgot to document a couple of my outfits...but here are the remaining four for last week.

First up,  Striped Tunic:  JCrew Factory,   Jeans:  Old Navy,   Shoes:  Gap Factory

Top:  Brass & Roe from Called To Surf,   Jeans:  Old Navy,   Shoes:  GroopDealz,   
Bracelet:  Hope Ave.

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Motivation Monday

Mon, 04 Sep 2017 06:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies,

Today I want to follow up on my 30 day challenge.  

In a nutshell, for those of you who don't want to click through and read the post (although I would totally recommend it)  I shared a bit about my weight loss journey which began just over a year ago.  

My success has leveled off and in an attempt to jump start it again, I decided that I would issue a challenge to myself (and anyone out there who might want to join me) to exercise every day for 30 days.

So how did I do?

I failed.  Miserably.  (Face Palm)

I exercised.  But sporadically.  I wasn't diligent about what I was eating.  In short, I really didn't put in the effort...and I didn't lose any weight.  Big shock, right?

This is a before and after taken right before I started losing weight and roughly 3 months into my weight loss

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What I Wore Wednesday

Wed, 30 Aug 2017 06:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies!Welcome to this week's edition of What I Wore Wednesday!As I mentioned in last week's post, I'm in the middle of doing an "inventory" of my wardrobe.To accomplish this, I've been snapping selfies of my daily outfits.This last week, I was sick a couple of days, so I only have a few outfits to share with you.  But I hope that you enjoy...This dress is a new favorite!  It's a maxi dress that I purchased from Piper and Scoot.  The empire waist is flattering on my "rectangle" figure, and the black floral will be wonderful all through fall and winter.This outfit is bright and fun!  The tunic is from Gap Factory (last summer) and the jeans are from Old Navy.  (Yes, I buy a lot of Old Navy jeans...their mid-rise jeans fit me perfectly...and I love the Rock Star and Super Skinny styles).This was my Saturday outfit...the same Old Navy jeans as in the previous photo (yep!  twice in one week.) and a boyfriend tee also from Old Navy which I always front tuck to give me a little bit of definition at the waist.  My watch is from Target and my Monogram bracelet was a GroopDealz purchase.My final outfit includes a blouse gifted to me by my sister paired with a cardigan from Gap Factory (last season).  My jeans are from - you guessed it - Old Navy.   And my necklace is from J Crew.  Apparently this is the week of the brown lace-up shoes which I purchased last year from GroopDealz.   Also, for those that are curious, my phone case is from Rifle Paper Co.xoxoWendy         [...]

What I Wore Wednesday

Wed, 23 Aug 2017 06:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies!This week's What I Wore Wednesday is going to be a little bit different.I have been taking inventory of what I wear on a daily basis because I am evaluating my own wardrobe and style.So today, I'm going to share my last week's worth of outfits...all selfies taken in front of my living room mirror.  (lol!)  I am actually pretty proud of myself because I only wore blue jeans twice this week.  (No really, that's a big accomplishment).  I'm trying to mix it up a bit more.One thing you'll notice is that I really do dress on a budget.  Sure, I'd love to go out and spend a fortune on clothes, but that's just not realistic for me.  I hope that my real life budget-friendly outfits might inspire someone out there, however.Monday  Tee  - Merona for Target (a couple of seasons ago).  White Jeans - Merona for Target  (also older - these have always been a bit long, so this summer I cut the hem unevenly.  I like them much better now.)  Shoes - online - Groopdealz or Jane I think.TuesdayDress:  Orange Creek    Shoes:  Online - GroopdealzWednesdayDress:  WhoWhatWear for Target   Denim Jacket:  Thrifted- originally from Old NavyShoes:  Target ( a couple of seasons ago)ThursdayTunic:  Sun and Shadow from Nordstrom   Jeans:  Old NavyFridayDress:  Old Navy (This is actually my daughter's dress.  I love that it fits me.)SaturdayClassic jeans and a tee for running errands - I bought the tee forever ago and I don't actually remember where.  I love graphic tees however, and this one fits great!Jeans:  Old Navy   Shoes: Gap OutletAnd because somebody will probably phone case is from Rifle Paper Co. :)Have a great day!xoxoWendy         [...]

What I Wore Wednesday

Wed, 16 Aug 2017 06:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies!Welcome to this week's What I Wore Wednesday.This pretty rayon and lace top looks very elegant paired with a pair of dark wash jeans.Top: Brass & Roe     Jeans: Old Navy    Shoes: Target (a couple of seasons ago)Cool and Casual yet still dressy enough to wear to work. Top and Jeans:  Old Navy     Shoes:  QupidxoxoWendy         [...]

Motivation Monday: Contentment

Mon, 14 Aug 2017 06:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies!Welcome to another Motivation Monday.This weekend I was thinking quite a bit about how things always seem to go better when I am content.  What do I mean by that?For those of you who follow me on Instagram, I'm about to quote one of my posts (for those of you who don't follow me, you totally should.  lol!)I try to make each of my Instagram posts motivational...if I'm given a platform like that it seems to me that I should use it for good.On this particular Friday, I was struggling to come up with an inspirational caption.This is what I ended up with..."I was hoping to come up with some inspirational caption to share with all of you as we head into the weekend, instead my mind kept wandering.  I thought about my sister who had been visiting, but just headed home,  I thought about my son's college applications,  (What?!? I can't believe he's a Senior this year), I thought about how I need to clean the house now that my house guests have gone. I thought about life.  Although none of those things are particularly inspirational in and of themselves, they are my life.  And I am grateful for them.I have a sister who is my best friend... and though we live miles apart, we still get to spend time together.  I have a son who is intelligent and driven and is excited for college and a career.  I have a house that is welcoming where family wants to come visit.  There is almost always a silver lining... a blessing in the everyday."And thus, what started out as me searching for something inspirational to share, ended up being inspirational.  All because of contentment.  All because I took the time to see the beauty and the blessings in the little everyday things.When we find contentment in our surroundings, contentment - not complacency - we are able to move forward with gratitude.  And gratitude, in turn, helps us to create the best possible versions of our lives.And so  my challenge to you this week, my lovelies, is to search for your own contentment in the everyday events of life.  And let that contentment foster gratitude. xoxoWendy         [...]

What I Wore Wednesday

Wed, 09 Aug 2017 06:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies!Welcome to another edition of What I Wore Wednesday!My body type is what is known as a Rectangle.  Basically, that means that I don't have much - if any -  curve to my shape.  My chest, waist and hip measurements are all within a couple of inches of each other...and I have long legs but am very short-waisted.  So basically, I want to avoid anything that sits at my natural waist.  Because when I wear something like that, I basically look like Steve Urkell.  (I hope that reference isn't lost on anyone).  So you know this new high-waisted trend that's coming back in?  NOT a good look for me.  I will definitely not be embracing that look.Empire waists are amazing on us rectangles, however.  And that is basically what I chose to wear this week..Let's start off with last week's Sunday Best...This dress is basically an empire waist.  For those of us who are rectangles, this is a very flattering look because our rib cages are usually quite narrow and the swing of fabric as it moves out from the higher waistline gives the illusion of some curve.Dress:  Old Navy (Last Season), Shoes:  TargetThis top is oversized, but the pin tucking at the neckline has the same effect as an empire waist causing the fabric to flair out just below the pin tucks and giving the illusion of some curve.Top:  Gap Factory Outlet,  Monogram Bracelet:  GroopDealz,  Jeans:  Old NavyHave a great day!xoxoWendy         [...]

Motivation Monday

Mon, 07 Aug 2017 06:30:00 +0000

 For today's Motivation Monday post, I'm going to focus on something a little different.I've been talking recently about how this year (my 45th year) is a year of transformation for me.I am going on two months into this project and I am amazed at the amount of growth that is taking place.  One thing that I was really hoping to achieve is to be comfortable in my own skin.  And this is something that is taking more work than I thought it would.As I am moving through this year of transformation, I am transitioning my blog to fit more and more within the framework of the things that I am working on in my own life.  And you have noticed, I'm sure, that I have been focusing a lot more on fashion.Although I have been working in Interior Design for the past several years, my college degree is actually in Fashion Merchandising, and it has always been something that I have loved as much as Interior Design.  So sharing more of that area of my life seemed natural.Which brings me back to being comfortable in my own skin.I have talked a bit about my on-going weight loss journey as well.  And although I have made good progress, I have not reached my overall goal.  I will continue to strive toward that goal.  But in the meantime, I need to embrace and even LOVE the body that I currently have.Posting photos of me for What I Wore Wednesdays has been challenging because I am still learning to love the way I look right here and right now.  But you know what?Regardless of what I look like, my body is a tremendous gift.  And I am so grateful for it.And I will learn to be comfortable in my own skin and to think that I am beautiful regardless of what society would have us believe is beautiful.Are you with me?xoxoWendy         [...]

What I Wore Wednesday

Wed, 02 Aug 2017 06:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies!Welcome to another edition of What I Wore Wednesday!Let's start things off with this cute tunic with keyhole neck purchased at Hope Ave.  I purchased the top last spring and it doesn't look like it's currently available.  But if you boho style, you should definitely check out their shop! I really do love me a tunic.  Here's another fun one purchased from Called to Surf that I paired with my good old stand by Old Navy jeans.And finally, this pretty dress also from Called to Surf which was a gift from my sister.  I have such a soft spot for Pink.  The shoes are last season from Target.Have a fabulous week!xoxoWendy         [...]

Motivation Monday - Monthly Challenge Check In

Mon, 31 Jul 2017 06:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies!First of all, I decided to change the name of Monday's posts from Master Class Monday to Motivation Monday.  It just sounds more, hmmm, I don't know...more...motivating?  Lol!Last week, I introduced this month's challenge which is to exercise everyday for the next 30 days. I promised to check in with you all on this week's progress...I'm doing well.  But in the interest of full disclosure, I admit that I didn't get a workout in every day this week.  I have started doing Yoga, however, which I quite enjoy.Also, in the interest of losing my last 20 lbs., I have started back up on Weight Watchers.Here I am (below) pre-divorce and pre-anxiety-related weight gain.  This is the weight I am aiming to get back to. ⇩I am already starting to feel a difference although there isn't much in the way of a before/after type of progress to share with you yet.That's the thing about weight loss.  It takes commitment...and time.  And because the results aren't seen immediately, it's really easy to lose focus.  But I'm in this for the long haul.What about you?  Anyone out there willing to join me in this weight loss/health journey?The more the merrier!Leave me a comment or drop me an email if you're in!xoxoWendy         [...]

What I Wore Wednesday

Wed, 26 Jul 2017 08:00:00 +0000

Welcome to this week's edition of What I Wore Wednesday.Tuesday's Outfit:Blouse:  from Ella Mara gifted to me by my sisterJeans:  from Gap Outlet (last year)Shoes:  from GroopdealzFor A Friday Evening Wedding:Dress:  by Urban Flamingo From Called to SurfSunday Best:Dress:  Banana Republic OutletShoes:  by Sam & Libby for Target (a few seasons ago)         [...]

Master Class Monday: This Month's Exercise Challenge

Mon, 24 Jul 2017 08:00:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies!I'm so glad you've joined me today.  In keeping with my "Year of Transformation" theme, I've decided to make my posts on Monday into master classes.  By that I mean that I'm going to have my Monday posts focus on things that will help me (and hopefully you) to better ourselves.Don't worry!!  If you come to The Shabby Nest for Interior Design inspiration or DIY projects, they're still going to be a part of my blog regularly showing up on Fridays.  On Wednesdays, you will find mostly fashion posts.But for today's Master Class Monday, I want to talk specifically about exercise.Just about one year ago, I started my weight loss journey. For those of you who might not be familiar with my story, let me give you a little bit of background.  About the time that I went through my divorce, I also had some serious issues with anxiety.  And I started taking medication to help me with that.  The medication worked great for my anxiety, but unfortunately, it also made me gain a bit of weight.  Which then turned into gaining a lot of weight.  Until I had gained almost 50 lbs.  Since starting to lose weight last year, I have lost around 30 lbs.  I am now within the healthy weight range for my height.  But, I still want to get rid of the remaining 20 pounds which will bring me back to the weight I started at.  So as I head into the second year of my weight loss journey, I am focusing on the last 20 lbs.The photo below is a before/after that I shared on Instagram a few months back (you should follow me if you don't already - I'm so much fun. Lol!)...I am currently at the same weight as the after.  I've been hanging onto it for a while...hence my recommitment to losing that last 20.And this month, I am specifically focusing on exercise.  My goal is to exercise every day for the next thirty days.  I am focusing on Pilates and Yoga.  Pilates is an old stand by for me.  I find it to be the most effective form of exercise for toning up my body.  Yoga is new to me, but because I love Pilates and since I was a dancer for my all of my growing-up years, I think Yoga will be a nice addition to my workout.  I'd love to have you join me!   Pick your favorite form of exercise or exercises and commit to working out every day!  I know we can do it.I'll check in weekly and let you know how I'm doing...if you'll do the same!Let's rock this thing!xoxoWendy         [...]

What I Wore Wednesday

Wed, 19 Jul 2017 12:00:00 +0000

Okay Lovelies...Today is my first installment of What I Wore Wednesday.For this series, I thought it would be fun to share with you some of the looks that I wear each week...both to work and on my days off.  It's important to me that women realize that wearing what they love is acceptable regardless of their age.40 is not what it used to be...neither is 50, 60 or beyond.Our age doesn't mean anything, and it makes me crazy when I see those articles that delineate what is okay to wear for women of a certain age group.As long as your outfit is appropriate to the situation (i.e. - don't wear cut off shorts to work etc.) then choose what makes you feel beautiful, or fun, or sophisticated, or cute or whatever and make it work for you!These photos are selfies off my phone...I promise that I will up my game as these posts continue.  I will at the very least enlist my kids to take the photos instead of taking them in the mirror in my family room.  Oh, and I'll work on posing as well.  That's definitely going to be a challenge. Lol!But for today...Enjoy!We'll start with our Sunday Best.  This photo was taken right after church of me and my daughter.  I'm wearing a blush pink dress from Called to Surf.  Emma is wearing an adorable white dress from Who What Wear for Target.I admit to feeling a bit sassy on Monday.  The top is from Hope Avenue, the floral pants are from Gap Outlet and the necklace is Banana Republic Outlet.Casual Friday found me in a check button down with a half-front tuck from Target and jeans from Old Navy.Finally, on Saturday I went to lunch with my sisters and my dad.  It was blazing hot and I wanted to stay cool so I wore this amazing drapey maxi which I purchased from a local boutique called Koodeker and slip-ons from  the Gap Outlet.Have a great week, Lovelies!  And remember to feel beautiful!xoxoWendy         [...]

Studio 5: Ferns in Decor

Mon, 17 Jul 2017 20:14:00 +0000

Recently, I had the opportunity to film a segment for a local TV Show, Studio 5.I talked about botanical prints and their recent resurgence in popularity.  In particular, I shared about Ferns and some inexpensive (virtually free) ways to incorporate them into your décor.I shared some great freebie prints (you can find the links on the Studio 5 website) as well as a couple of easy DIY options.Check out the video here.This is a screenshot from the segment...loving our facial expressions. ;-)Follow the link to watch the segment and then checkout those freebie prints that are now hanging in my master bath.  Below  ⇩⇩⇩⇩⇩Have a great day, Lovelies!xoxoWendy         [...]

Perennials (I'm not talking about plants)

Thu, 06 Jul 2017 01:15:00 +0000

I read a very interesting article the other day which was published in The Telegraph about how women in their 40's and 50's are considered the new "ageless generation".Now, if you read my previous post, you'll know that turning 45 this past month has really put a spin on my world.  In a good way.  I am using this birthday to catapult me toward some serious changes.  (Which I promise to discuss in future posts).And for any of you who are at a similar stage in life, I'm sure you've thought many times about the fact that mentally, you don't feel as old as your driver's license says you are.In my case, I feel exactly like I did in my 20's.  Thank heavens I have a bit more experience and expertise under my belt now, but otherwise, my thought processes and feelings are very much the same.  I certainly don't feel "middle aged" and as this article pointed out, "middle aged" really isn't considered a thing anymore.The article discussed the fact that women in their 40's and 50's don't subscribe to the types of changes that they did 20 or so years ago.  For instance, it mentioned the fact that it is very difficult to tell a woman's age if she is seen from behind because women across various age ranges dress very much the same as one another.I know this is true of me.  I even borrow my 14-year-old daughter's clothes.  (And she, of course, borrows mine).  I mentioned in a post on Instagram the other day that I have a very youthful fashion aesthetic, and I don't think that is a bad thing.  I truly don't believe that there is a certain way that a woman is supposed to dress once she hits a certain age.The article didn't just touch on fashion, however, it also mentioned hairstyles (women don't cut their hair short once they reach their 40's and 50's as often as they once did), music, and TV shows etc.It also mentioned the fact that because women in this age group are feeling as young and vibrant as ever, many are pursuing goals and making life changes that they wouldn't have dreamed of when younger.  THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL!!The term that has been coined to describe this no-age mindset is Perennials.  Because, according to the article "Perennials are ever-blooming, relevant people of all ages who know what's happening in the world, stay current with technology and have friends of all ages.  We get involved, stay curious, mentor others, and are passionate, compassionate, creative, confident, collaborative, global-minded risk takers."I honestly feel that age is just a number.  I no longer define myself by my age.  In fact, I am proud of where I am as a 40-something. I am really excited to see where I go from here.I hope you'll join me as I share my big changes this year!xoxoWendy         [...]

My 45th Year and Tranformation~

Wed, 14 Jun 2017 04:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies!Today is my 45th birthday.It's funny because for the past several years, actually telling people my age has been a bit difficult for me.  I have felt like being in my 40's somehow made me old.It's not true, you know.  The number of years you have been on this planet, is just that.  A number.  And age is just a number.  It really doesn't define you.And finally, now that I am turning 45, I've become pretty excited about it.My 45th year is a big deal to me.I even have a theme for this year...TRANSFORMI have always been a goal setter.  And this year, my big goal is essentially a total transformation!When I say that, I don't mean that I'm going to go out and get plastic surgery.  Nope.What I mean is that all of the goals that have been floating around in my head are finally being worked on.I know what you're thinking.  That sounds maybe a little bit **too** ambitious.I kind of thought so too at first.  But I've found something interesting (because I actually started this big transformation idea a little while ago).  The more ways that I am trying to change for the better, the easier it is for me to accomplish them.I think it has to do with self-discipline.Self-discipline is HARD.  And by no means do I consider myself to be an expert in it.  But I have found that when I am trying hard to be disciplined in one area of my life, it kind of crosses over into other areas as well.  So I figured, as long as that seems to be the case, why not work on a bunch of things at once.And the interesting thing about that is... it actually gives me more motivation!  I am happier than I've been in quite a while  because I have so many GOOD THINGS that are occupying my time and thoughts.  And I can literally see the improvements in my life.I'll post more about individual facets of my big year of transformation as time goes on.  And I'll share more about the individual goals and the ways they are changing my life.But for now, I'm going to go celebrate the big 4-5 with my kiddos...xoxoWendy         [...]


Mon, 12 Jun 2017 04:30:00 +0000

Hello Lovelies,I'm going to wax a bit philosophical today.  I hope you don't mind.There is a word that  has been playing on my mind for a few weeks and I feel like I need to share a little bit about it with you today.And what is that word, you ask?ENTROPYI'm not sure exactly why I have been thinking about entropy lately.  But it keeps coming to mind, and then the other day, one of the newsletters I follow sent an email out that talked about the idea of entropy, and I figured there must be a reason that it keeps coming up in my life right now.  And if it's something that needs to be thought about by me...maybe it might benefit you as well.Entropy by definition (courtesy of Merriam-Webster) is the degree of disorder or uncertainty in a system.And the Second Law of Thermodynamics states that entropy will only increase over time, or that all matter is constantly moving toward a state of chaos.So, let's liken Entropy to our lives shall we?Essentially, our lives can get way too complex and chaotic if we let them.  And it actually takes effort to keep them from getting that way.We have to make a conscious decision to simplify our lives.  And that can take the form of many different things.For example, as a woman and mothers, I get pulled many different directions.  And I don't know about you, but it can be very easy to feel the need to be everything to everyone.  This is quite simply unhealthy.So rule #1 in fighting Entropy in our lives is to learn to say "NO".I'm not advocating saying "no" out of laziness or disinterest.  I'm advocating saying "no" when we really and truly don't have the time, energy or means to take on another thing.  Don't let your personal guilt-o-meter (and trust me, I have a very strong sense of guilt) cause you to take on more than you can handle.rule #2 in fighting Entropy in our lives is to set goals.Goals give us things to strive for.  But goals alone will not defeat the tendency of life to get chaotic.  Rather, plans to achieve those goals will give us guidance and direction to move forward in an orderly fashion.rule #3 in fighting Entropy is to give your energy to simplifying your life.The thing about entropy is that it is a natural process governed by natural laws.  It is just plain easier for things to become disordered because it requires energy to put the systems in place that will keep them in order.  This is true of simplicity in our lives.  If we just sit back and let life happen to us, if we just say "yes" to everything that we're asked to do because it's easier than letting someone down, if we just hope for the best and don't set goals to make good things happen in our lives...we will slowly descend into a chaotic, crazy life that won't keep us (or our families) happy and healthy.So that's my soap box for today, Lovelies.Live life purposefully.  Set goals.  Work to accomplish them.  Be mindful of your needs and the needs of your family.In short...kick Entropy's butt.xoxoWendyTo give credit where credit is due:  Inspiration for this post came in part from the writings of James Clear.         [...]

Teen Bedroom Plans~

Sun, 04 Jun 2017 05:00:00 +0000

My oldest son is 16 - soon to be 17.  He'll be a senior next year.  I can't believe that this is likely the last year that he'll be living here at home.  I miss him already and he's still here! (Mom problems...Lol!)We moved into Hydeaway Cottage almost 3 years ago.  And in all the time, I haven't really done anything with his bedroom.  Since this is his last year at home, I wanted to give him a really cool place to hang out.He's a filmmaker, so when I asked him what he wanted for his room, he told me he wanted it to be movie-themed.  That can be pretty broad, and if you're not careful, extremely cheesy. So we talked about specifics and finally landed on the idea of an "Old Hollywood" feel.We liked the idea of a Chesterfield Sofa, but his room isn't quite big enough for a sofa and a bed.  Then I remembered having seen a Chesterfield-style bed in the RH Kids catalog.  My budget for his room is next to nothing, so Restoration Hardware wasn't a possibility.  But I did find a great looking Chesterfield Daybed on Overstock.Here is the in-process room....The bed is going to be our big splurge for the space. The bedding on it right now is only temporary, although I really like the faux fur idea.   He wanted black walls.  I wasn't so sure about that, so we compromised and used Cyberspace from Sherwin Williams which is a dark navy-toned gray.  Once we got the color on the walls, I really started loving the lounge-y feel of the space and so did he! Now I'm working on shopping the house to create the rest of the space.Luckily, for artwork, he wants movie posters.  And those can be found very inexpensively.  (Or we may end up using some of the ones he already has).  Either way, we'll come up with something amazing without spending much, if anything. I'll keep you posted on the room as it comes together, but we're off to a great start!xoxoWendy         [...]