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Updated: 2014-10-01T21:26:02.665-07:00

 



Who is Behind Our Decisions?

2008-07-18T00:13:32.303-07:00

You should be asking this question to yourself that too when you are alone!The answer to this question is very much needed if you are wanting a positive change in your life.Although no one thinks about it,our brain has already designed an internal system,which helps us in making decisions.This very system behaves like an invisible force,there by directing all our thoughts,actions and feelings both good and bad,every instance we live.It also controls how we analyze everything in our life and is largely driven by our subconscious mind.Most of the people never consciously set this system up.Rather than,it has been installed in us for years through different sources like parents,teachers and culture to name a few.
This system is comprised of five components:
1.Our core beliefs and unconscious rules.
2.Our life values.
3.Our references.
4.Questions we always ask ourselves.
5.Emotional states we experience every moment.
The combined relationship of these five elements develops a force which is responsible for stopping or taking actions,causing to anticipate or worry about what is going to happen,making us feel loved or rejected and determining our level of success and happiness.It also determines why we do what we do and why we do not do what we are badly needed to do!by changing any of these five elements,we can immediately produce a powerful or a substantial change in our life.The creamy part that has to be known is that we fight the CAUSE rather than EFFECTS!Like for example you are overeating on a regular basis,than the real cause is normally a value or belief problem rather than the problem of being often hungry!

So it is very essential to master the system of decision making by making simple changes to make it consistent with our desires - rather than continue to be controlled by our past mind conditioning.Thus developing ourself is a very fascinating journey of discovering who we are and what truly makes us to do what we do!We do not have to allow the programming of our past to control our present and future.Thus we can take a step today - reinventing ourself by systematically organising our beliefs and values in such a way that pulls us in the direction of our goals.



Developing Self Belief

2008-05-02T02:26:35.924-07:00

Life with everything but not self belief is something like having everything but not enjoying it.To do whatever you want to do in life you not only need a constant focus on your life goals but a belief in your self that YOU ARE GOING TO DO IT!Still many people dont find themselves having self belief…rather than looking in themselves they search somewhere else a way to develop self belief.Self belief is not something which can be get from outside.It is a trained and developed mindset within an individual,which needs continuous development every time.As an individual,we possess that trait already but we need to just nourish it.Otherwise how can you explain so much developments happening all over with people all over the world playing a very important in such developments.This very fact shows what a human mind is capable of achieving.

Before developing any kind of negative thoughts about yourself,just go over the following again and again till you are used to it:

1.When you feel that you are not capable of doing something you always wanted to do,tell your self that you are the best!Assure yourself that you are the most powerful and the best part is that you already posses that power...you just need to discover it!Just stop those thoughts entering your mind that you are weak or less powerful.

2.You as a human being are not just a bundle of mass,but you are born with a powerful mind that can think and take actions.Even the world’s best known genius like Albert Einstein was said to use less than 10% of his brain.So just imagine what can be done if human mind is used in proper way and right direction…..it’s a road to unimaginable achievement and personal growth.

3.You just need not harness good thoughts in your mind but also need to put them into action.Only by putting them into action will u see what self belief can do for you!Just practice putting one thought into action.This will make your mind getting used to the whole process as you are honing your skills of mastering your mind.Just having mastered your mind you are on your way to direct your life the way you always wanted.

By doing the same thing over and over it will become more of a habit and you will be in a much comfortable position training your mind!Thus with a strong mind at your disposal you will realize the ultimate truth that solution to all problems lie within oneself and not in the outside world.

It is a technique that quickly and effectively banishes the thoughts that keep you from moving ahead in your life and beliefs that are disempowering to you.So let go of what is holding you back in life and move to a path of success,with a powerful mindset!



Facing Challenges Of Life

2008-04-25T04:17:10.017-07:00

A lot of people all over always cribbing about their present situation as to how their life is full of challenges and they would have been more happier if their life was full of roses. But life is always that way.Just try finding one person who had never any challenges in his/her life. You will never find one!If that were to be as everyone wanted then their would not have been any interest in life as each day would have monotonous leading to dull and drab life.Only by facing challenges and overcoming them a person is really said to have lead a fulfilling life!

Life will always have challenges:
Just get used that mindset.Life is always full of challeneges for every person whatever section of society he belongs to.If a poor person wants to get out of his poverty to a comfortable living standard he has to struggle it out.Same goes for a middle class person if he wants to get a more comfortable life…he too has to struggle it out.So challenges will always exist.

More challengers you encounter more successful you become:
Life always has various levels of games for every individual. For a person overcoming one challenge, he become mentally ready for other one in course of which life gives him greater rewards for solving those challenges.You go to another level by stretching your comfort zone a little further.

Every challenge gets an opportunity:
Every challenge a person acquires in life presents him with two kinds of opportunities…one is personal growth and other one financial growth.So it’s a real challenge to spot these opportunities and to cash on them thus leading to personal and material development of one self.

Recognizing opportunity:
The best way to recognize an opportunity in adversity is to get guidance and learn from the same people who have been through your path.They are your best teachers.Since every one cannot be accessible at a given time,reading books,listening to audio tapes from personal development experts can go a long way in helping you.

Putting your learnings into action:
The important part of learning in life is to put whatever one has learnt into action. Without action all the strategies of life have no meaning.So if you want to profit in you life mentally as well as finanacially start from today to put into action whatever good things learnt from life before your time runs out!!



Supercharging Your Motivation

2008-04-05T23:02:39.930-07:00

Motivation is the driving force behind life-enhancing change.It comes from knowing exactly what you want to do and having an insatiable,burning desire to do what’s necessary to get it.It keeps your dream on track as it is the power of motivation that keeps you going when the going gets tough.Here’s 5 top tips to help you supercharge your motivation:1.Create a picture board and fill it with images of your desired goals.The car you want to own, the house you want to live in,the area where you want to live yes,they’re the obvious ones.Others could be pictures of holiday destinations,trophies,first-class travel tickets,clothes you want to buy,fine restaurants you want to frequent–whatever you can think of that gets your pulse racing.2.GET ANGRY.If you want to change your life for the better then get angry about where you’re at now. Having a blasé attitude towards change isn’t what’s needed and it won’t create a strong desire within you.So ask: “Why do I want to change?”Is it because you’re FED UP with debts? Does your job DRIVE YOU CRAZY?Is your life DULL AND PRECITABLE? Are you SICK AND TIRED of doing the same thing week in week out? Are you BORED BEYOND BELIEF by the dull, uninspiring, unhappy people you associate with?THEN GET ANGRY ABOUT IT.And I mean REAL ANGRY.Write it all down, all of the frustrating, unrewarding, miserable lot of it that makes every day a dull slog until your final days.IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT? 3.Speaking of your final days,start to appreciate the value of time.Time is one of the most precious resources you have and it is also a NON RENEWABLE resource.You can either use it fully or squander it.If you want to create change you’re going to have to invest a lot of time to make it happen.Start to reduce the time you waste on irrelevancies:Television, newspapers,lie-ins,weekends spent shopping, partying, dining out, visiting an endless line of relatives and friends – these won’t help you get what you want and all of them will rob time from you.Valuable time that you can use much more effectively by investing it in YOU. Remember this:You have a finite amount of time here on Earth.You don’t know how much time you have – no one does.But it’s how you use the time you have that counts.So make your time count and that means starting from right NOW.4.Conformity.Are you a mindless little sheep who’s way too timid to pursue your own way?Do you have to follow where everyone else goes,doing exactly what everyone else does and therefore, who gets the same levels of happiness as all the other little sheep?Seriously, does this describe YOU? Are you too frightened to be different than all of the other sheep because they wouldn’t like it if you decided to follow a different path?So you dutifully trot along following all the other sheep because if they’re doing it then that’s how it is right? But if you do what everyone else does you’ll just get what everyone else gets.Do you want to be a mindless,timid little sheep who blindly follows all the other sheep?Or do you want to be a leader,a warrior who possesses the courage to be uniquely you and to do what you want to do and make your dreams happen?If so then this means you have to be more like a tiger than a sheep.Do you really want to be a sheep?I mean, haven’t we got enough sheep already?5.Fear your fear.Fear is the force that is determined to stop you in your tracks and rob your dreams from you.But it can only do this if you let it. Are you going to let this cruel destructive charlatan trample on your dreams,steal your happiness and crush your spirit? Imagine this thought haunting your final days: “I didn’t do the things I wanted because i was too frightened to live”.And by then,it’ll be far too late to conquer fear.Refuse to let fear spoil your life and start taking action – now! The world is waiting for your unique gifts.Why keep it waiting any longer?[...]



Building Self Confidence

2008-04-05T23:00:57.384-07:00

Self-Confidence can make the difference between getting that great promotion or taking a risk and buying that awesome house. It can also affect every day things that we do and even though it sounds rough how confident you are can also be dependent on how successful you are. Building self confidence where you feel you are lacking involves a few major steps, while initially you will need to understand the areas that affect your confidence the most, you may be a normally confident person who finds certain people or situations intimidating while you may just be generally lacking in confidence and I will give you a few easy tips to improve and build confidence.Most people would say that they are generally pretty self-confident when it comes to approaching new people or situations but in an instance where you are put on the spot or asked about an unfamiliar topic you will naturally revert to a less confident state which will change your body language and credibility.

While a lack of confidence does not necessarily signal weakness it doesn’t employ much faith that you can competently achieve. In these situations it is important that your stance and body language do not change. Staying focused is important so simply ask for the matter to be reviewed at a later stage giving you more time to develop an appropriate answer and in most instances this will be acceptable without losing to much face.

Self-Confidence should be determined by what you think of yourself and how you feel about your capacity to cope within varying situations. So if you are finding that your confidence is lacking on a more general level then you may find benefit from self affirmations and reviewing the things in your life where you have reason to be proud of your achievement and respectively situations where you or someone has commented on your confidence and empowerment.Look into these situations everyone will have at least one if not many more.Analyze your self-talk during these scenarios how does that differ from situation now? Focus on your internal breathing and body language.

Often when building self-confidence you may find benefit from overcoming a fear or obstacle which has been affecting you for a while, do something empowering and inspiring for yourself. Climb a mountain taking in the feeling each step remind yourself of all the great things that you have done with your life. Often all people who are lacking in confidence need are a reminder of the wonders that they have already experienced. A physical accomplishment cannot be taken away by the words or thoughts of others making it a powerful tool in regenerating or building confidence levels.True self-confidence can not be faked and must be built on and added to as your career and life develops as you need higher self-confidence you may need to challenge yourself a little more each time but it is exactly this challenging and growth which encourages building self-confidence. If developed from within rather than the words and thoughts of others you will find results last much longer when your opinion dictates how confident you are in any given circumstance.



Confidence Building Secrets of Winners

2008-04-05T22:58:48.076-07:00

Confidence building is needed to everyone from time to time. Part of feeling confident has a lot to do with how we feel about ourselves. Feeling like we can accomplish things we set out to do is important to feeling confident.Remember that we all have talents and gifts. Whether we feel confident in these skills is very much part of thinking like a winner. Here is an easy way you can train yourself to think like a winner.Make yourself a ‘to do’ list. Before you start complaining that you’ve tried that already in the past and it didn’t work, let’s go over the rules for this list. This is a list to make you feel like a winner.

It is your job to help yourself to feel as much like a winner as possible by making a list that is fun and easy to get done. I mean super easy. Ridiculously easy, even.Here’s a sample list:
1.Get out of bed.
2.Brush my teeth and comb my hair.
3.Get dressed.
4.Eat something.
5.Walk to a car, bus or another room.
6.Smile.
7.Answer the phone. But only if it rings.
8.Put socks on...

Are you getting the idea? This isn’t your average ‘to do’ list. This is a sort of self-conditioning list. Seeing all those check marks or seeing everything crossed off your list will make you feel like you’ve had a productive day. You’ll gain confidence in your abilities to get things done.If you practice this fun list making, you’ll come to think of yourself as a winner. If you forget to write the list one morning, write a ‘done’ list at the end of the day. Just list ‘got out of bed’, etc. and mark them off.As silly as this confidence building list making may seem, bear in mind that the subconscious doesn’t care about what is real or imagined. All it will see is a list that has been checked off every day. Eventually, you’ll notice yourself feeling more confident. You can then start adding real tasks to your list and doing them with the same ‘feel good’ attitude you had when you made your practice lists.Just look at someone you know to be confident. Are they down in the mouth or smiling? Allow yourself the joy of having fun with life. You’ll feel like a winner!



Blushing Reduces Self Confidence

2008-04-05T22:54:04.386-07:00

Many of us come across many embarrassing moments in our life.In this situation a person is bound to feel uncomfortable,but many of us can hide this feeling,but there are some people for whom keeping this feeling within is very difficult.The sign that you will see is a red faced person, however this cannot be recognized if you happen to be from the dark race.Blushing refers to both embarrassment and extra cautiousness.Many people are there who blush more than others do.They require overcoming it to lead a normal worry free life. Blushing can reduce your self-confidence.So blushing can be seen as nothing more than the positive aspect of your life.

A person who blushes excessively will try and be up to the very best mark;this is caused due to over cautiousness.A person blushing excessively will always fear on the peoples comment.In order to avoid it he/she will try and be perfect,but these actions will make you look weird.There is no personality that can suit you than your natural one.Blushing is not some thing that you can hide,it shows up in some or the other sign.The more you think of stopping to blush the greater are the chances that you will blush. Blushing is not a problem that you will overcome in a day’s time.This requires professional help as you have started reacting the way you have learned.Eradicating a habit that you have been following since tears requires time and all importantly patients.Blushing is a behavior that you have learned to reflect in situations that embarrass you.But the signs are seen in both your mental and physical behavior.Then it is your behavior that has to be taken care of. Hypnosis can allow you to come out of this mind problem,what it will do is firstly try and relax (calm down) your mind.Once this is done,it will be taken to a subconscious state where your wrong behavior will be corrected.Imagining how?A subconscious mind can take in all the positives as you guide them.So this means that your mental behavior can be changed.

All this can be done with the help of hypnosis.This treatment is available in the form of mp3.Meaning you can conduct the hypnosis session all by yourself.This content includes the all new self-hypnotizing course.This will allow you to conduct the sessions as per your convenience.However if you want to practice this you will have to do this in a quite atmosphere,this means that you can do this in the comfort of your home.Mp3 hypnosis to stop blushing can be an ultimate remedy for you,with the least of investment,but with the maximum of results.This is available straight from the web.Just download the contents and you will get the all important mp3 treatment to stop blushing.Many people all over have used this to stop blushing,so can you.



Compulsive Lying Ruins Personal Life

2008-04-05T23:24:55.716-07:00

A person may lie when he/she wants to hide the truth or even to get noticed by the other people,this is where they start making stories in order to get noticed by people.A person might have started lying in his/her early childhood,to hide the truth from parents or a teacher.However this lie was said in order to avoid a good shouting.In this case if the child is successful in lying then he/she will look upon lying as a primary weapon to avoid truths in future,these are the early days or the making of the compulsive liar.Once this path is chosen the person gets sunken in the negative world,where every time he/she speaks it consists of lies or self made stories.He/she might be aware of his/her compulsive lying but yet find it difficult to overcome this problem.Compulsive lying is the act of telling one lie after the other,meaning a person is just not able to speak the truth.If this is the case with you then you should at once look for help as it is available in many forms.

There are many people who have ruined their lives because of their compulsive lying. Compulsive is similar to an addiction,same as a drug,smoking or gambling addiction where a person requires help to overcome it.People who are addicted to drugs, smoking or gambling ruin their life.This could be the cause of great personal turmoil and can even lead to a very negative life,murdering,or even break-ups.So before your life is destroyed get over compulsive lying and make your future better. Help is available in many forms but the one that you require is mind related,and nothing is superior to hypnosis.Your mind has gotten accustomed to compulsive lying, so it needs to be treated back to regular form.So if you have accepted the harsh fact that you are a compulsive liar then you have taken a giant leap in overcoming it,however further treatment should be looked for.

Hypnosis dealing with your mind allows it to calm down and takes it to a different world (subconscious) where it is healed back to perfection.The positive thoughts are initiated and your mind is guided to speak boldly.You accept the truth instead of lying.Once you have spoken the truth you know that there is nothing to fear and having that extra courage means that you are sending a strong message to others that you are not a coward.In short,hypnosis will help change you and your life,and you will no longer be hated by your family,spouse or friends.This hypnosis treatment is available in the form of mp3s.You can download this straight from the Internet.Once done you can start using it right away and experience the change in your life.When you begin using it you will see a change in your life and you will no longer fear the truth, after all the truth can never be hidden for long.Now that you know how you can help yourself,go ahead and get the MP3 downloaded and you will realize its true powers as many all around you have already done.



Success Begins In The Mind

2008-04-05T22:48:59.509-07:00

Do you understand how to achieve what you want?Do you understand the science of success?Do you realise that success begins and ends in the mind?Can you imagine what you could achieve if you could develop the mindset of a successful person?Do you realise that you can do it with tools such as hypnosis?Would you like to learn how?You can build the life of your dreams by following universal laws that have worked since the dawn of time.Millions of people every day are developing the skills needed to create the lives they desire and deserve.Now you became one of them.Although it is true that outside stimuli has a great impact and effect upon your life,existence and happiness you must first embrace the idea that what happens in your life is neither good nor bad.It is merely how you perceive it that determines whether it is good or bad.It is your perception of a thing that determines how it affects your life experience.One man loses his job and sees it as a fast path to the poor-house.He allows his thoughts to dwell on possible bankruptcy,the inevitable lose of his home,possible illness and perhaps even the break-up of his personal relationships and marriage. Another man loses his job and sees it as an opportunity to gain employment in a field more suited to his talents.Yet another sees it as an opportunity to venture out into his own business.It is our past that has the greatest impact on our present perceptions.A man who carries around fear and pain caused by unemployment and poverty in his past will most definately be fearful if confronted with unemployment again.It is true that how we perceive the past determines how we look at the world that surrounds us now.Our past can many times act as the blueprint that we use to view our current reality,if we let it.If you believe you were born with great disadvantages then you will tend to hold that view your entire life.You perceive the world as one who is underprivileged or even destined to fail.So how does this affect your current life?Well,it is your perception of the things that are currently happening in your personal world which greatly affect the actions you are taking now.It is the actions you take now that determine your future and where you will end-up in life.Therefore in order to change your actions so that they are bringing you closer to the life you want to live,and not towards the life you are currently living or even the life you desire not to live, you must alter how you perceive your world and your role in it. In order to do this you must learn to release your emotional connection to the past! This is the first critical step to success.However,how we perceive the outside environment,people and situations that we are currently encountering is only one part of the equation of success.It is also important to alter your perception of the future.You must know what you want from life and build a vision of how your life should be.This can be difficult for many people.They can list you the multitude of things that they do not want but cannot give a definitive answer when asked what it is that they do want.If you have no idea where you are going then how will you know when you get there?Likewise,if you have no idea what success looks and feels like for you, then how do you expect to know when you are successful?Almost all of us have been conditioned,to a greater or lesser degree,to focus on lack and negativity.You must reverse this mental trend if you wish to succeed at anything.If you begin to change how you view your past and consider how you have learned valuable lessons from even the worst experiences and grown as a person then you will begin to change your thoughts.As you change your thoughts your actions will naturally change with little effort on your part as you become more focused on the results that you want.So in order to become successful in life y[...]



Advantages Of Being Confident

2008-04-05T22:47:51.765-07:00

Almost all successes and attainments in life come from your ability to feel certain that you can accomplish what you set out to achieve.Confidence is the gateway to success,to the life that you wish to lead and to the dreams that you desire to live.With confidence you can boldly progress towards your ambitions and aspirations. With confidence you can rise up and handle life’s demands and challenges.You can tackle any hurdle and obstruction,and move on to the next step of your journey to fulfilment and achievement.One of the principle requirements to anything you want to do in your life is confidence.Confidence is an indispensable part of your development,betterment, progress and success,both at a personal and professional level.With confidence you can forge ahead to fulfil your potential and perform at your peak level.Having confidence is the crux that allows you to achieve your true potential in whatever situation,in your relationships,your work or career,your finances and your self-image.When you experience a lack of confidence,it may stop you from striving for what you want.This feeling of lack of confidence can be the root of many complications and hardships that block you from achieving your desires. It can be like a large thorn that continually bursts the bubble of desire.There may have been times when you have felt a level of confidence when you were engaged in an activity that you were good at; such as driving a car,being a parent or managing your team.At those times you would have displayed a high level of certainty,which is a form of confidence.However,there may have been other circumstances where you found that you felt less confident.On these occasions, you would achieve a fraction of what is truly possible for you.With determination and focus to pursue and gain confidence,you can develop the strength and fortitude to climb out of the depths of any circumstances,and take advantage of the opportunities and successes that lay ahead of you.In the same way that you have learned to lack confidence,you can also learn to have unlimited confidence.And the simplest and quickest way to kick-start the engines of your brain,is to know and accept that confidence can be an acquired process,it can be learned and formatted to suit all moments.As your confidence increases,you can take a front row seat in mastering many areas of your life. You will find that you become more and more comfortable and confident in multiple areas,including:• Moving ahead in your career • Starting your own business• Embracing the risks of every day life• Refusing to be held back by fear• Creating circumstances rather than waiting for them• Smiling more and enjoying life • Dramatically improving your healthSuccessful and dynamic people have gained mastery on how to feel courageous and confident.When you develop and build on your own confidence skills,you too,will feel and become a different person.You will feel much more enthusiastic,motivated and determined in every aspect of your life.Once you improve on the way you think and feel about yourself,your beliefs and your actions will follow.You will confidently overcome the challenges that life thrusts upon you and you will manage them with new-found belief and faith in your capability to do so.As you become more confident you abandon worry,hesitation and more importantly,you side-step fear.The focus here is on your whole being,every part of you,your thoughts,the images in your mind,your emotions and ultimately your behaviour and the actual outcomes in your life.Bear in mind that as you focus on change, change does begin to happen.It is fun,motivating and very rewarding to feel and see yourself growing and improving and becoming more confident and effective day-by-day and week-by-week.There is great power in believing that you can succeed in yo[...]



Set Personal Boundaries

2008-04-05T22:46:26.548-07:00

Living your life as an empowered person often requires the placement of boundaries – invisible “lines” across which you will not allow people or events to infringe upon your time or resources.When you have clear inner boundaries in place,you know where you stand and you’re able to make decisions that support and nurture you.These decisions may include refusing extra obligations that you do not have the time or desire to fulfill,keeping a greater distance between you and people who tend to drain your energy,or insisting that others respect your personal time.A disempowered person will usually find it difficult to set boundaries because they don’t feel that they have the right to do so,or the strength to stand firm in their decisions.Does that describe you?If so,read on for some simple and painless ways to set firmer boundaries in your life:

1.First, understand that you have the right to set boundaries.This can be difficult if you struggle with low self-esteem or self-confidence.You might hesitate to set boundaries because you’re afraid that people won’t like you,or you’ll hurt someone’s feelings by refusing their requests for help.However,more often than not your own feelings will be hurt if you don’t set boundaries!You’ll find yourself agreeing to do things you really don’t want to do or don’t have time to do, and you’ll run yourself ragged trying to please everyone.Setting boundaries involves learning to love and respect yourself,and your time and resources.
Get into the habit of affirming your own value and worth,and strengthen your belief that you deserve to live a calmer,more peaceful life.Be committed to caring for yourself first,and then helping others as time allows.Remind yourself that you don’t have to feel guilty about not saving the world – do what you can and feel good about it.

2.Build up your courage.Learning to say “no” can be scary, but it’s important to believe that you have the strength and confidence to stand firm in your decisions.One good way to become more courageous is to understand that nothing bad will happen if you refuse extra obligations or favors that someone asks of you.Will they be disappointed? Probably.Will they stop speaking to you or get angry with you? Probably not.Except in extreme circumstances,most often the person will simply move on and ask someone else for help.
If you do happen to receive a strong negative reaction when saying no,ask yourself if it really matters to you?That may sound harsh,but you have to eventually realize that it’s not your job to make life easier for others – especially when doing so makes life more difficult for you!A person who gets angry about your unwillingness to help is probably a person who has gotten comfortable using you as a doormat.In those cases it’s best to nip the problem in the bud before it takes over your life.

3.Be firm,but nice.One of the reasons you may hesitate to say no is because you think it will make you look “bitchy” or selfish – but that can be avoided by finding a pleasant way to say it.Rather than saying brusquely, “No,i won’t help you with this,”you could say apologetically,“I’m really sorry,but i just can’t do it at this time.Maybe another time?”The majority of people will understand and not be upset.However,if you do receive resistance,that is the time to become more firm in your answers.

One of the hardest parts of setting boundaries is learning to be firm with yourself! You may be tempted to overextend yourself to help others, even when you know it wouldn’t be in your best interests.When that temptation arises,you’ll have to be able to override your desire to please and do what you know is best for yourself.



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2008-04-05T22:41:00.813-07:00

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