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Welcome to a family friendly blog that presents popular family issues and provides advice on family conflict. From dramas left behind by ancestors to generational curses, this family blog covers challenging issues. The more you know, the more empowered y



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10 Things to Do to Make You Happy Now

Wed, 21 Jun 2017 17:22:00 +0000

Not happy with how things are going in your life?  Looking for ways to spice up your dull and boring life?  The following list are things people have done and are doing to enhance their personalities and live the kind of life that makes them happy.1) Seek adventure.  Thrill-seekers thrive on having a life that is exciting.  Some will plan what their next adventure will be while others will just spontaneously go out and do whatever they feel like doing at that moment.  Do what you always wanted to do and bring a camera along with you so that you will be able to reflect on the memory later that made you happy.2) Visit a place without planning it.  As mentioned above, some thrill seekers enjoy spontaneity.  Take a drive down a road you have never driven, walk down a path you never trod and see a place you never visited.3) Make plans to visit old friends.  Too many promises of “will do lunch”?  Time to set a date, time, and location between friends to catch up on one another’s lives.4) Write a letter.  It doesn’t matter if the receiver is friend or family member, sometimes it is nice to express how you feel and tell stories about your life through the written word.  Who knows, this may be just the release you need to enhance your thoughts of happiness while making someone else happy to hear from you.5) Purchase or create a gift for someone.  When you shop for someone other than yourself, you are creating a positive energy that will boomerang back to you in the future.   Helping someone else achieve happiness is key to finding your own happiness.  Subconsciously, you will find yourself desiring more ways to make yourself and others happy.6) Take the bus around town.  Too often drivers miss out on the opportunities to really enjoy the environment they live in because they are too busy focusing on drivers around them.  Take some of the pressure off yourself and experience the world from a different perspective.  You will be surprised at all of the places you never noticed while driving.  You may find a place to visit that brings a smile on your face.7) Research local colleges for classes you might enjoy.  Sometimes just reading about something new can take your mind off your problems.  Focus on learning about something that pleases you.8) Find a new job/career.  Many people are not happy in their jobs.  While cost of living increases, their checks aren’t that is enough to make anyone unhappy.  You may be able to enhance your mood if you research what companies are paying more than the one you are with for the same amount of work or less.  Less stress, more happiness!9) End relationships that are energy stealers.  Whether it is a friend who is a mooch or a girlfriend who takes up all your time, make a decision whether or not you want to keep this person around.  You may have family members who are also energy stealers, if so lessen the amount of time you spend with them.10) Relocate.  Sometimes people tend to become unhappy when they realize the place they live isn’t all that it was cracked up to be.  If you find that your apartment, home, or neighborhood is giving you more tears, then smiles make every effort to move.  Your mind, body, and spirit will thank you later!Nicholl McGuire is the author of What Else Can I Do on the Internet?[...]



4th of July - Family Drama, Unresolved Issues Since the Last Holiday Get-Together

Mon, 19 Jun 2017 15:10:00 +0000

So some relatives have intentions of setting it off this 4th, there will be more than just fireworks in the sky.  Are you prepared for the pending explosion ahead with kinfolk who drink, smoke, and eat too much?  When we know we have toxic relatives, if we care anything about our spouses and children we keep them away from the drama.  However, when you are that one who is very much into family no matter how bad they are for you and others, then expect to be a part of their drama.

Many years ago, I was that child who witnessed much.  Arguing, physical fighting, and stealing went on with some family members.  While they swore up and down they were innocent, those of us observant kids knew better.  It didn't matter how much adults scolded us about listening and watching grown folks, we knew something was very wrong with people who eye-rolled, deep sighed, yelled, and threatened one another while carrying their share of demons that they smoke, drank, or brought to the holiday events.  But yet the mantra was sung year after year, "We're family...love family, stick by family...be there for family..."  Well I am much older now, decades have passed since I was told to go where I really didn't want to go, talk to people I didn't care to and let strange folks hug me that I didn't want touching me.  There was something wrong with them back then and to date, those who manage to escape death repeatedly, still have something very wrong now!

You see, I don't oppose family even though I bring much awareness to the issues that many folks wouldn't want me speaking about and am a strong advocate for going low or no contact with relatives.  I actually do care for them, but I don't care to be mixed up in dysfunctional mess that looks like this, "Love you today because you did something for me, hate you tomorrow because you didn't do for me when I called upon you."  Then there is the tug of war kind of relationship that some have with their favorites.  Pull them near when they want to step outside the box then come up with all sorts of ways to keep them there.  The gullible fall for the tricks while the discerning know better.

So like with all other holidays especially one like the 4th of July, think twice about who will be there, how long you are staying, and what is being served, you might be better off sitting this one out if you can't stomach the drama.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Should I Go to the Party?



Sins of the Father: After Father's Day Blues

Mon, 19 Jun 2017 07:00:00 +0000

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Narcissist's Family - Self-Absorbed Fathers, Men

Mon, 19 Jun 2017 00:43:00 +0000

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When a Father has Children - Good, Bad,

Fri, 16 Jun 2017 21:17:00 +0000

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Tell Me Mother You're Sorry controlling people

Thu, 15 Jun 2017 15:28:00 +0000

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Your Friend Who Wants to Change His or Her Life

Wed, 14 Jun 2017 22:02:00 +0000

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How To Say Goodbye To Being A Stressed Wife… And Hello To Being A Happy Woman

Wed, 14 Jun 2017 16:26:00 +0000

Women don’t just become unhappy they have to be driven to unhappiness.  Every optimistic woman like every hopeful man starts a relationship with the best intentions.  They are excited about a future with their new lover and will be on their “best behavior” for as long as they can.  However, nothing is ever as easy as it seems and the reality is that most men and women lose the motivation to work on their relationship and become comfortable.Oftentimes, women have come to a place in their love relationships where they are the ones trying to keep everything together in their household from remembering the doctors’ appointments to cleaning up the kitchen after they have cooked.  No one was designed to happily do the same things over and over again and never experience a burn out.  Why is it that so many women when you look at photos of yesteryear were stunning and nowadays you can see no trace of that youthful beauty?  The reason is simple.   She became settled with being only a wife and mother and all the stress that those roles come with has caused her to age prematurely.  The person who she really is has become buried deep within her soul and she doesn’t know how to get her back.  There are many women who choose to get employment outside of the home to avoid losing their sense of identity.  This is their best strategy for some, but it shouldn’t be their only one.  She may have an untapped hidden talent, a hobby she gave up long ago, or a desire to do something about her passion.  If the extra income isn’t needed, she will have to make the time to pursue her dreams in order to be the best she can be and live her best life now.  She will have to learn how to make some sacrifices for herself without feeling guilty.  The time will come when she will have to explain to her husband how she has been feeling lately and let him know what she will be doing to make some changes in her life that may potentially affect the family. He may not initially like the changes she has decided to make in her life, but he will come around if he understands.  It’s all in how she approaches him, being careful not to have a negative attitude about something she wants to do that is suppose to be positive.  Worrying over what he may say or do is not going to give her any motivation to do anything for herself and may only add to the friction that is already there in the marriage.A man will only do as much to a woman as she will allow him.  If he provides a list of what he will and won’t accept from her, because she loves him, she will usually abide by his wishes.  However, men who are selfish and do not love their women will not return the favor.  Some will continue to cheat, avoid assisting with household chores, leave the majority of the care-taking of the children to her and if she drives, well she is also doing much of the errand running as well.  In her quest to pursue the happy woman within, she will have to examine whether her relationship with her husband has helped her become a better woman overall, or has it took away everything positive she once was before the two of them met?  Many women who are busy never take the time to re-evaluate what is actually going on at home and eventually will find out the hard way what the underlying burdens are in their marriages.  Some women find out when their husbands act out by being deceitful, lying, abusive, etc.  Other women will find out when they are lying on their backs struggling to heal from an illness.  They will begin to think about the things that have been going on around them and how they will have to deal with them when they aren’t so busy.    Once the stressful wife has determined what is preventing her from being her very best,  she will ha[...]



Sometimes You Have To Cut Ties With An Individual For Your Own Sanity & ...

Wed, 14 Jun 2017 01:13:00 +0000

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People with Problems Coming to You

Mon, 12 Jun 2017 18:45:00 +0000

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Message about Teens, Tweens and for those concerned about them

Thu, 08 Jun 2017 21:57:00 +0000

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What is right with you - encouragement, wisdom

Tue, 06 Jun 2017 18:14:00 +0000

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The Troubled Mind

Fri, 02 Jun 2017 23:12:00 +0000

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When They Want Distance - family, friends, coworkers, church members

Fri, 26 May 2017 16:58:00 +0000

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When They Don't Encourage You

Thu, 25 May 2017 16:57:00 +0000

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Graduation Blues - prophetic, know God sees all

Wed, 24 May 2017 18:28:00 +0000

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When Bad News is Right Around the Corner

Tue, 23 May 2017 18:50:00 +0000

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Daddy Issues

Sun, 21 May 2017 03:20:00 +0000

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Trouble Comes, Trouble Goes - Life Issues, Problem People, Selfish Pride

Fri, 19 May 2017 19:25:00 +0000

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No Badge of Honor for the Callous Mother

Tue, 16 May 2017 19:05:00 +0000

African American View on You - Black Love, Life and Spirituality: No Badge of Honor for the Callous Mother: She expects to be honored, but she doesn't respect others.  She assumes she will receive gifts from loved ones, yet she has stopped buyi...



Face Your Foe: Know a Fool?

Sun, 14 May 2017 00:55:00 +0000

Face Your Foe: Know a Fool?: I have confronted fools, participated in conversations with them, and have been used and abused by them. You can't win a confrontation w...



Unwelcome Visitors - holidays, reunions, parties

Sun, 14 May 2017 00:22:00 +0000

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When Mothers Cry excerpt Ch. 13 - Relationship Problems

Fri, 12 May 2017 19:45:00 +0000

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What They Don't Tell You About Mental Illness | Elizabeth Medina | TEDxS...

Sat, 29 Apr 2017 22:21:00 +0000

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The Baggage They Carry - personal problems

Fri, 21 Apr 2017 18:27:00 +0000

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