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It's All In the Family



Welcome to a family friendly blog that presents popular family issues and provides advice on family conflict. From dramas left behind by ancestors to generational curses, this family blog covers challenging issues. The more you know, the more empowered y



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Don't Let Them Shake You Up - relax, focus on God

Fri, 18 Aug 2017 16:26:00 +0000

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The Plan to Sabotage Your Reputation

Wed, 09 Aug 2017 15:03:00 +0000

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Dream - Motivational Video

Mon, 07 Aug 2017 17:16:00 +0000

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Jealous Parents, Relatives & Friends

Sat, 05 Aug 2017 22:29:00 +0000

Jealous Parents, Relatives & Friends: Motherhood blog based on book entitled, When Mothers Cry by self-published author Nicholl McGuire. Parenting, relationship, women issues discussed.







Christian Critics Their Wicked Tongues - Critical Relatives, Friends, Me...

Sat, 05 Aug 2017 19:21:00 +0000

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The Past Hidden Truth - family history, secrets, ancestry

Thu, 03 Aug 2017 18:42:00 +0000

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There is a Curse - spiritual, health, financial curses - sin, sinners

Wed, 02 Aug 2017 19:40:00 +0000

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WAKE UP WITH DETERMINATION - Amazing Motivational Video (very powerful)

Mon, 31 Jul 2017 01:25:00 +0000

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Your Covetous Thoughts - wishing to have someone else's life, things

Tue, 25 Jul 2017 18:32:00 +0000

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Family Fights with Troubled Relatives - How to Avoid

Tue, 25 Jul 2017 15:39:00 +0000

When I was a child I had no choice but to witness relativesarguing and physically fighting about any number of issues. I felt afraid, worried, and saddened sometimes for days after their emotional outbursts. It was hard to concentrate on studies and listen to adults’ requests when the concern was always there, “What if I do this wrong…say that…will I get hurt too?” Sometimes I got it wrong and before long I was being yelled at or threatened.  By the time I got older and stronger I stopped being afraid and I stood up to the bullies in the family.I learned that you can avoid family fights very easily if you are willing to make some changes and not be a part of the action from the start. So the following is a list of true and tried things I did over the years and I hope that what I share helps others.1) Don’t visit anyone’s home that has a long history of drinking, drug use, and emotional highs and lows. Simply put, you are asking for trouble when you do. Cast aside the endearing titles and look at the person for who he or she is, “Is my ________ really acting like a friend to this family or a foe?” Then make arrangements not to keep going around this person especially with watchful children in tote.2) Avoid arguing by walking away. Don’t turn your back on the argumentative individual, but do get out of the setting where he or she feels like it is okay to go off on you as well as others. When you turn your back, you are also putting yourself at risk of being blindsided by one’s hits or a flying object.3) Don’t expect to be heard. No matter how much you say things like, “I am just telling you this because I love you…I want what is best for you…Will you just listen to me?” Difficult people will not hear anything good under stress. You can talk until you are blue in the face and they will still see things in the way they want. Save your breath.4)  The Know-It-Alls in the family feed off of confusion so as to appear all-knowing, peacemakers, and anything that makes them look and feel good. When in the presence of know-it-all family members, don’t say too much. This way there is nothing that they can use to debate about. Sometimes a head nod is all you can do with some of these folks even a “How are you?” in what sounds like the wrong tone to them will be taken to mean something else.5) Find the time to be around the family members and friends you do enjoy. Sometimes the only way you are going to have the kind of fun you want with your favorites is making arrangements with them only. Skip the family holiday events and invite them when you get ready. Sure, the naysayers will talk, so what! You are welcome to connect with whoever you want when you want--that is the benefit of being an adult, so act like it.6) Lastly, know your limits. You can establish boundaries by telling a relative or family friend upfront what you don’t want to talk about and if the matter is brought up you will shorten your visit. When you feel the heat rising up in your chest and you feel like you are ready to explode because your request was violated, excuse yourself, count to 10. Alert your partner, “It’s time to go,” pack up the children, and head on out the door. Why make yourself stay in a setting that is obviously making your blood boil?I have two books I would like for readers of this blog to purchase if you find yourself having to deal with family related issues involving a matriarch or patriarch. See Say Goodbye to Dad and Tell Me Mother You’re Sorry by Nicholl McGuire. These books were written for those who are either thinking of going no contact, low contact, or have memory of a difficult parent and find yourself doing similar things. These books are great reads for those who have challenging in-laws as well. Get both books today!  Nicholl McGu[...]



When They Complain - How God Deals with Them

Fri, 21 Jul 2017 03:30:00 +0000

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Vulnerable, Burdened and Guilty - Does this Describe You? - men, women

Mon, 17 Jul 2017 18:49:00 +0000

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When They Show Up - guests, visitors, family

Sat, 15 Jul 2017 00:39:00 +0000

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Interested in Self-Publishing? 15 Minute Instruction with Online Resourc...

Mon, 10 Jul 2017 13:16:00 +0000

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Severed the Ties Now Facing an Enemy 2 of 2 - arguments, difficult people

Thu, 06 Jul 2017 16:21:00 +0000

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After the Holiday - family problems, friends - regret, guilt, gossip

Wed, 05 Jul 2017 18:11:00 +0000

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When the Selfish Use Children - problem kids, challenged parents

Mon, 03 Jul 2017 15:30:00 +0000

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Please Help The Abused By Mrvpk6 & NM (music)

Mon, 03 Jul 2017 00:00:00 +0000

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Mom is Aging, Impatient, Rude and Forgetful

Thu, 29 Jun 2017 17:35:00 +0000

When Mothers Cry: Showing Love to Mothers: Divorced, Single, Married and Depressed Moms: Mom is Aging, Impatient, Rude and Forgetful: The older we get, the worse we could potentially come depending on how our body feels, the support system or lack thereof around us, and fi...



TYPES OF RELATIVES

Thu, 29 Jun 2017 05:33:00 +0000

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Pushy Relatives, In-laws - when they force their will

Wed, 28 Jun 2017 16:55:00 +0000

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10 Things to Do to Make You Happy Now

Wed, 21 Jun 2017 17:22:00 +0000

Not happy with how things are going in your life?  Looking for ways to spice up your dull and boring life?  The following list are things people have done and are doing to enhance their personalities and live the kind of life that makes them happy.1) Seek adventure.  Thrill-seekers thrive on having a life that is exciting.  Some will plan what their next adventure will be while others will just spontaneously go out and do whatever they feel like doing at that moment.  Do what you always wanted to do and bring a camera along with you so that you will be able to reflect on the memory later that made you happy.2) Visit a place without planning it.  As mentioned above, some thrill seekers enjoy spontaneity.  Take a drive down a road you have never driven, walk down a path you never trod and see a place you never visited.3) Make plans to visit old friends.  Too many promises of “will do lunch”?  Time to set a date, time, and location between friends to catch up on one another’s lives.4) Write a letter.  It doesn’t matter if the receiver is friend or family member, sometimes it is nice to express how you feel and tell stories about your life through the written word.  Who knows, this may be just the release you need to enhance your thoughts of happiness while making someone else happy to hear from you.5) Purchase or create a gift for someone.  When you shop for someone other than yourself, you are creating a positive energy that will boomerang back to you in the future.   Helping someone else achieve happiness is key to finding your own happiness.  Subconsciously, you will find yourself desiring more ways to make yourself and others happy.6) Take the bus around town.  Too often drivers miss out on the opportunities to really enjoy the environment they live in because they are too busy focusing on drivers around them.  Take some of the pressure off yourself and experience the world from a different perspective.  You will be surprised at all of the places you never noticed while driving.  You may find a place to visit that brings a smile on your face.7) Research local colleges for classes you might enjoy.  Sometimes just reading about something new can take your mind off your problems.  Focus on learning about something that pleases you.8) Find a new job/career.  Many people are not happy in their jobs.  While cost of living increases, their checks aren’t that is enough to make anyone unhappy.  You may be able to enhance your mood if you research what companies are paying more than the one you are with for the same amount of work or less.  Less stress, more happiness!9) End relationships that are energy stealers.  Whether it is a friend who is a mooch or a girlfriend who takes up all your time, make a decision whether or not you want to keep this person around.  You may have family members who are also energy stealers, if so lessen the amount of time you spend with them.10) Relocate.  Sometimes people tend to become unhappy when they realize the place they live isn’t all that it was cracked up to be.  If you find that your apartment, home, or neighborhood is giving you more tears, then smiles make every effort to move.  Your mind, body, and spirit will thank you later!Nicholl McGuire is the author of What Else Can I Do on the Internet?[...]



4th of July - Family Drama, Unresolved Issues Since the Last Holiday Get-Together

Mon, 19 Jun 2017 15:10:00 +0000

So some relatives have intentions of setting it off this 4th, there will be more than just fireworks in the sky.  Are you prepared for the pending explosion ahead with kinfolk who drink, smoke, and eat too much?  When we know we have toxic relatives, if we care anything about our spouses and children we keep them away from the drama.  However, when you are that one who is very much into family no matter how bad they are for you and others, then expect to be a part of their drama.

Many years ago, I was that child who witnessed much.  Arguing, physical fighting, and stealing went on with some family members.  While they swore up and down they were innocent, those of us observant kids knew better.  It didn't matter how much adults scolded us about listening and watching grown folks, we knew something was very wrong with people who eye-rolled, deep sighed, yelled, and threatened one another while carrying their share of demons that they smoke, drank, or brought to the holiday events.  But yet the mantra was sung year after year, "We're family...love family, stick by family...be there for family..."  Well I am much older now, decades have passed since I was told to go where I really didn't want to go, talk to people I didn't care to and let strange folks hug me that I didn't want touching me.  There was something wrong with them back then and to date, those who manage to escape death repeatedly, still have something very wrong now!

You see, I don't oppose family even though I bring much awareness to the issues that many folks wouldn't want me speaking about and am a strong advocate for going low or no contact with relatives.  I actually do care for them, but I don't care to be mixed up in dysfunctional mess that looks like this, "Love you today because you did something for me, hate you tomorrow because you didn't do for me when I called upon you."  Then there is the tug of war kind of relationship that some have with their favorites.  Pull them near when they want to step outside the box then come up with all sorts of ways to keep them there.  The gullible fall for the tricks while the discerning know better.

So like with all other holidays especially one like the 4th of July, think twice about who will be there, how long you are staying, and what is being served, you might be better off sitting this one out if you can't stomach the drama.

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Should I Go to the Party?



Sins of the Father: After Father's Day Blues

Mon, 19 Jun 2017 07:00:00 +0000

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Narcissist's Family - Self-Absorbed Fathers, Men

Mon, 19 Jun 2017 00:43:00 +0000

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