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Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:46:00 +0000
Laurie & Laurie celebrate the 100th podcast of DivorcingDaze. You already have what you need to listen, right on your computer. Just click on the PLAY button.(image) Leave a review on iTunes Write soon: email@example.com.
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Laurie's new neighbors are fit and trim, and they wave to her from their gym. Its a new twist on Rear Window. And speaking of new friends, do you de-friend after a breakup? Running into X's X, Valentine's Day approaches, and the promise of Spring is in the air as the days get just a little longer. DD 99 is here, and it is better than flowers. You already have what you need to listen, right on your computer. Just click on the PLAY button.(image)
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Sun, 24 Jan 2010 16:30:00 +0000Due to overwhelming criticism, I mean, suggestions, we have searched for the male point of view to feature on DivorcingDaze. Laurie interviews Joel Schwartzberg, author of The 40-Year-Old-Version: Humoirs of a Divorced Dad. Enjoy the view from the other side.
Sat, 09 Jan 2010 14:22:00 +0000Happy New Year from DivorcingDaze! Laurie and Laurie wish you the very best, even as they differ on such topics as resolutions, planning, list-making, sex in a king-sized bed and Derek Jeter. Step up to the plate and take a swing at DivorcingDaze 2010.
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Fri, 02 Oct 2009 13:56:00 +0000Mercury is in retrograde, some say. Joey the cat is not feeling well, and everything is breaking. Laurie2 breaks bread with new guy, the Lauries agree that Juliana Margulies is hot, and one listener is sleepless in Singapore. Now stop texting and listen.
Sat, 12 Sep 2009 22:48:00 +0000Summer is over and Laurie and Laurie are back. A houseguest from hell, garter belt mysteries, a new cat named Fellini, bigger kids, and the divorce business is better than ever.
Sat, 11 Jul 2009 10:55:00 +0000Self-checkout is a good idea in most cases. Before you leave home, in front of the mirror, a quiet moment of contemplation...but at IKEA, not so much. Laurie & Laurie once again give you a reason to click. Check out this summer drink of DivorcingDaze.
Sun, 07 Jun 2009 12:14:00 +0000Laurie interviews Jill Abrahams, Founder and Executive Producer of CherryTV.com. Juicy.
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Sun, 03 May 2009 16:11:00 +0000Laurie 2 is in kind of a bad mood. Which is weird, since Laurie 1 is the one who DID NOT get flowers and who has been having computer problems. But they are friends, so the podcast must continue. Laurie1 is the forgiving type. And she's the editor. They talk about racy emails, dog-walkers, city life. And listener mail.
Thu, 23 Apr 2009 17:18:00 +0000DivorcingDaze is back. And everything is getting green again. Green may be the theme. Laurie2 suggests we check out FreeCycle, Laurie1 has a green-screen plan for her circa 1995 TV, and if you think the grass is greener, look again. And listener mail from Singapore. Today's important keywords: condoms, chocolate, recycling, TV, Singapore, gossip, games, happiness, married, divorce.
Wed, 01 Apr 2009 03:29:00 +0000What to do when the best haircut you’ve had in years comes with a price higher than advertised: the hairdresser made a pass. An aggressive pass. In New York City, when you find a great restaurant, a great apartment, or a great haircut at a great price, it’s not so easy to give it up. Sexless marriage, sex with other women, wedding day doubts and cheaters' confessions are also discussed, dissected and debated in this, the latest edition of DivorcingDaze.
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Mon, 19 Jan 2009 23:05:00 +0000Here at DivorcingDaze, we're proud to bring you nothing but the issues central to our survival as a nation, a people, a race. So, if you are noodling the neighbor or sleeping with a stranger only in your dreams, is that cheating? Hmmmm. Listen to the Lauries dance with this dilemma. Also: Barbie-doll beauty beheld, out-of-the-box thoughts about Laurie’s lingerie, multiple divorces, a kidney reclaimed and a new era inaugurated.
Thu, 08 Jan 2009 16:20:00 +0000Happy January. The Lauries return with wishes that you all have a happy and healthy 2009, with no resolutions other than to accept life day by day - with laughter. This edition of DivorcingDaze features some listener-submitted, solo-holiday tips good all year round, a discussion of Charla Krupp’s new book, How Not to Look Old, and more on makeup, men and marriage. For an idea of what Laurie and Laurie look like, click on the video below.
Sat, 13 Dec 2008 16:08:00 +0000In divorce, there is no one story exactly alike. Laurie's interview with Thorina Rose, author of The Heartbreak Diet: A Story of Family, Fidelity and Starting Over, though, plays like two old friends finding the humor in shared stories and similar circumstances.
Thu, 04 Dec 2008 18:56:00 +0000In the intoxicating aftermath of Thanksgiving, there is no recession, nor depression here at DivorcingDaze. Solar powered personal products, men on stilts, living alone, online dating, and a great Tip O The Pod await you.
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Thu, 06 Nov 2008 03:25:00 +0000Recorded just before the historic presidential election, DivorcingDaze 76 crosses the borders of some blue states and takes the Lauries to the classroom, their favorite OBGYN, and down memory lane to fix up a friend with an old boyfriend.
Sat, 25 Oct 2008 20:42:00 +0000Laurie & Laurie get together long enough to introduce an interview with Mir Kamin, of the blog Woulda Coulda Shoulda. Mir describes herself thus: "I’m an over-educated, under-appreciated, (divorced) remarried mom to two. I have a lot of 'how exactly did I get here?' sorts of moments. Trying to figure out what you want to be when you grow up when you’re already into your 30s and two small demanding creatures underfoot assume you know and understand everything can be a daunting task. Sometimes, you’ve just gotta laugh. (Other times, you’ve just gotta scream. I prefer the former.)" The blog is a blast.
Fri, 17 Oct 2008 13:07:00 +0000Laurie and Laurie debate the issues. Should you dye that old wedding dress and wear it again? Do gorillas have boobs? How well does your X know your politics? And makeup tips for tough times. DivorcingDaze 74 is what America needs now.
Sun, 05 Oct 2008 14:45:00 +0000When his wife walks out on him, Gabriel Cohen is stunned: "I didn't call out, didn't follow her to the door, I just lay down on the couch... as if I was settling into the coffin of our marriage."
Mon, 22 Sep 2008 14:51:00 +0000So, you run into a friend on the street, and you say, “You look great!” and you really mean it. But the friend doesn’t really accept the compliment. But you really DO mean it. Finally, it sinks in. Her face lights up. The power of a compliment, a smile, a kind word. It really does work. Try it, and let us know how it goes.
Wed, 10 Sep 2008 20:35:00 +0000School days, school days. Both Lauries send loved ones off to class, Hallmark goes gay, and things get scrambled when X borrows some eggs. Also, great sex, interrupted. And it is agreed there is no substitute for REAL Tupperware. Finally, does Lady Liberty need to do a few laps around the harbor? Come on in, DivorcingDaze #71 is fine.
Tue, 19 Aug 2008 01:09:00 +0000Laurie and Laurie will have their say, as they podcast on this August day. First there is a dedication, to one of love's associations. A listener writes in with a query: Does cheating really mean the end? The Lauries say that 'that depends.' I do, I do, you have my assurance, really love your health insurance. Click the button, leave a review, DivorcingDaze has more for you.
Fri, 08 Aug 2008 12:36:00 +0000DD goes a lil bit country this week, as our redneck ranters escape from the city on L1’s birthday weekend. From mice to Mommies, laughter to Lovergirl, Google to garbage, the Lauries pack a lot into this rural rumination. A challenge to Tori Spelling to join the show and a Tip o’ the Pod round out the ‘cast as we head into the final weeks of summer. Set a spell, put yer feet up, enjoy.
Tue, 29 Jul 2008 03:45:00 +0000Laurie’s guest this week is Cynthia Rubin, family law attorney. Join them as they clink plastic glasses and have an honest conversation about divorce, the law, and how you can protect yourself before, during and after. Does the judge care about the cause of your divorce? Why getting support is so important. What to do if you are down and out, broke, and feeling trapped. And what makes for a good divorce?
Sun, 13 Jul 2008 14:34:00 +0000In a week of messy celebrity divorces, DD's Laurie suggests Maureen Dowd's New York Times column, "An Ideal Husband," might be worth reading. This edition of DD is much about men, dedicated to men, and we read email from men. Click on the red button, man.
Tue, 01 Jul 2008 15:14:00 +0000Laurie and Laurie podcast from the Lezbaru, on the road in New Jersey. What exit are you from? They hit a thunder storm, bother the new guy, who is in the back seat trying to read and stay out of it, and otherwise give you a tantalizing look behind-the-scenes of the number one divorce podcast on iTunes. This one is a light, frothy summer drink. Play it while you grill, lie on the beach, frolic in the pool.
Mon, 23 Jun 2008 13:37:00 +0000Laurie 2 has an informative interview with positive psychologist Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein, author of "The Enchanted Self - A Positive Therapy."
Wed, 11 Jun 2008 12:48:00 +0000As long as you know we don't know what we're talking about, we'll be fine. But third graders are in the know about Obama. In DD64's Listener Mail segment, putting the X in his place and out of your place, a listener wedding, and asking the right questions before getting married. We're still looking for the things you cannot live without, so, send them in. It's been hot and steamy in New York, but we slaved over a hot computer anyway to bring you our latest.
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On their 35th anniversary, Gwyn Huntington and her husband Thomas have invited friends and family to their Montauk home. Instead of celebrating their decades-long love, they are toasting their divorce. This also marks the weekend that their son brings home his fiancée, Maggie Mackenzie, for the first time. Maggie thought she was joining a perfect family, but she is about to reckon with some uncomfortable truths about the man she wants to marry.
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Sun, 04 May 2008 19:29:00 +0000In DD 61, dinner out with a seemingly normal family, an exploration of emotional availability and the good fortune of a well-timed vacation round out the 'cast this week. And an interview with the lovely and talented Susan Sarandon, starring in the upcoming "Speed Racer," in which she plays a loving and supportive mom, like in real life. The Lauries are fans. There's more but if we told you here, you wouldn't...
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Tue, 22 Apr 2008 20:24:00 +0000I should have responded to the article appearing on page ONE of The New York Times (ohmygodohmygodohmygod) four days ago, the day it was printed. In our age of instant communication this would make sense. The article that talked about DivorcingDaze. The article that quoted me. For Pete’s sake. Page ONE. However, I was shell-shocked. Scared. Embarrassed. I wanted to run away and hide. Ironically, I was experiencing the same emotions that scarred my soul five very long years ago after reading X’s Blackberry. Said New York Times article was headlined “When the Ex Blogs, the Dirtiest Laundry Is Aired?. And I felt dirty all over again. Comments screamed “narcissism,? “ bad parenting,? “sick society? and so on. Hmmmmmm. Humans have a need to communicate. At least this human does. I pod to bond. To connect. To share. To help. To feel. What we talk about in our podcast, I’ve discovered, is pretty commonplace. It comes back to us in comments, emails, even “thank yous.? And then I feel human again. Humans are these funny creatures who like to dissect topics blow-by-blow. In our traditional male dominated media, we will over analyze a political race, a game of football, the cost of a barrel of oil all to the nth degree. But what about affairs of the heart? So little airtime and newsprint is devoted to the truly important topics that affect our lives in the most intimate ways. The real life stuff that happens in our homes. In our families. It’s easy to criticize women who blog or podcast about their lives as useless, self-centered, even dangerous. But if what we do gets people talking about their feelings and feeling better for it, how can that be bad? Washington and Wall Street, take note. The internet changes the power of “the voice.? It gives the power to everyone. Anyone. To women. Even to me. But more importantly, there is an audience for what these women (me) have to say. Or more accurately, have to feel. As the reporter noted in her article, the Judge acknowledged DivorcingDaze may not be the best thing for co-parenting. I think the Judge is correct, because X sure is angry at me about this. But most things I do make him mad. Like when I read his blackberry that fateful day. Talking to X’s soulmate’s husband: Very Mad. The day I accepted an invitation to visit his father and step-mother with our children: Mad. Asking for his flight information when taking our children to Florida: Mad. Breathing air: Mad. (get the picture here?) So if the Judge really knew what went on in real life in the last five years she might have to rule that my being alive is ill-advised for successful co-parenting. So should I cease and desist in an attempt to appease and placate X? I’ve come close to it. In fact, when I discovered that he discovered DivorcingDaze I took everything down. I was afraid of him. Afraid of his anger. But then I remembe[...]
Sat, 19 Apr 2008 15:44:00 +0000Laurie interviews Vanessa Van Petten, author of “You're Grounded!: How to Stop Fighting and Make the Teenage Years Easier�? and the Teens Today blog.
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Mon, 31 Mar 2008 12:16:00 +0000"Enough! Alright. This one time, this one time I'll let you ask me about my affairs..." -Michael Corleone
Thu, 20 Mar 2008 11:35:00 +0000DivorcingDaze 56 is not to be missed, so pay attention. Today's discussion ranges from the halls of power to the jungles of Indonesia and is all about cheating, faithfulness, kids, romance and married love. And the Lauries wonder, "Are there any prostitutes listening?"
Fri, 14 Mar 2008 03:07:00 +0000Thank you, Governor Spitzer. L & L discuss the foibles of New York's First Citizen, letters from the Tooth Fairy, tipping gone wild, kid stories, and more. A special musical guest rounds out DivorcingDaze #55. Enjoy!
Sat, 23 Feb 2008 12:36:00 +0000There is an old saying, "The camera does not lie." Does your wedding photographer see what you were not yet able to see? Can she predict, through her lens, success or failure in marriage? More on old wedding bands and what to do with them, a call from Hillary and an arresting moment on the subway steps. Laurie and Laurie, podcasting from snowy New York City, in DivorcingDaze 54.
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Mon, 28 Jan 2008 05:21:00 +0000When your dog is smiling, the whole world smiles with him. As does DivorcingDaze. Today, the Lauries resolve to keep the not-so-new orange sofa coffee-free, deliver red-faced responses to reader mail (from Laurie1's mom) and Laurie2 has the writer's strike blues. Plus, laughing out loud with Nora Ephron, exploring the science of romance and clearing up any remaining confusion about Minstrel Headaches. Oh, and a tip of the pod. Step up and vote row DD.
Wed, 16 Jan 2008 22:45:00 +0000"Sooner or later all the people of the world will have to discover how to live together."
Mon, 07 Jan 2008 03:39:00 +0000Oy vey, I'm gay! Transcribe this: Divorced Barbie, a matriarchal tribe in China, shopping adventures at Fairway. Get in the checkout line for DD50, like no other podcast.
Sun, 30 Dec 2007 14:03:00 +0000On October 31, we posted a message and video link sent to us by a listener in Maryland about a little girl with serious medical problems. (see the video by scrolling down) Well, just last night we received this encouraging email with an update on Savannah's condition:
Tue, 25 Dec 2007 13:41:00 +0000Merry Christmas! A present for all of us comes with this interview with Laurie Perry aka Crazy Aunt Purl, blogger and author of "Drunk, Divorced & Covered in Cat Hair (The True-Life Misadventures of a 30-Something Who Learned to Knit After He Split.)" Click on the red button.
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Thu, 06 Dec 2007 20:26:00 +0000Today on DD, Laurie1 interviews Katherine Doughtie and Jill Doughtie about their blog "The DHX." Sisters? Nope. Katherine is the mom. Jill is the stepmom. Somehow, they make it work. And they blog about it. Together.
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Sat, 17 Nov 2007 13:41:00 +0000We may know why that woman is smiling. The Thanksgiving 2007 Special is here, replete with all the fixins for a podcasting feast. L1 has a shoe-shopping tip, L2 dishes Duran Duran’s dainties, and together they deliver a delicious DivorcingDaze, just in time for the holiday. Click on the red button and let bake for 22 minutes.
Thu, 08 Nov 2007 16:47:00 +0000Halloween in New York City is pretty much just like any other day, except the stories are better. Witches bad and good, dumb-ass ladies and kids in the hood. The Lauries have a tricky tale or two, come on, get happy, you know what to do.
Wed, 31 Oct 2007 13:26:00 +0000One of our listeners from Maryland submitted this video about a little girl named Savannah who needs all of your thoughts and prayers.
Tue, 30 Oct 2007 12:11:00 +0000Does Al Gore listen to DivorcingDaze as he shovels kitchen scraps into the compost pile? Are pedestrians out to get Laurie1? Can we blame Rhoda Morganstern for everything? DivorcingDaze is stopped at the light, ready to make a left. Blow your horn at email@example.com.
Tue, 16 Oct 2007 01:27:00 +0000They’re like The Car Talk guys, only not. Laurie and Laurie discuss sunroofs, heated seats, the pleasures of vintage automobiles. And speaking of pleasure, Laurie 2 has a tip o’ the pod for you in that category, but you have to listen to the whole show to hear it. Also tonight, funny graffiti, courtroom drama, a funny Mama.
Wed, 10 Oct 2007 13:20:00 +0000Hide the homework, hide the cookies...and for pete's sake hide the podcasts!
Thu, 04 Oct 2007 17:07:00 +0000We're still here. This one was recorded a couple of weeks ago, before, well, before the official end of Summer: why we love Canada, yes, we do sometimes walk the dog behind the police station and you know, you just can't talk to a crazy person. All this and more in the fortieth edition of DivorcingDaze, made fresh for you right here in New York City.
Fri, 28 Sep 2007 11:51:00 +0000Holiday Season. Although just as deserving of a column, this one will not be about my first alternate Xmas without my children. This is much more 'tis the season' than that.Xmas present to self is to finalize divorce (which has been on the table for two years now). And get a pedicure. So four way meeting is set for five days before Xmas among X, X's brand new attorney, brought on moments before signing divorce agreement 'cause X "needed better representation," my attorney, who has made it clear I am the poorest and least important (not necessarily in that order) client and myself.Monday morning's appointment is preceded by a week of boasting to all of my loved ones, and anyone else who will listen, to the trials (hope not) and tribulations of my divorce's picayune legalities and countless hypothetical non possibilities that might occur. "I'm walking out of that office divorced. Or I'm not walking out…." I gloat to all of my listeners.Except I have to get dressed first. What does one wear for such an occasion? Aware that X has not seen me "dressed" in quite a while, I want to look good. "Good" meaning confident, sexy, powerful, hip, happy, better off, heart healed, moved on, loved by another, and even desirable…by him. (I admit.) The only thing perfectly suitable to satisfy stated definition is black. A nice complement to the white once worn to inaugurate the union. Ying Yang, I suppose. Black pants. Black top. Every black item I own is tried on, tossed aside and tried on a second time with stomach muscles squeezed tighter and head held higher. There ya' go.Hair. Makeup. Scent. Confidently clasp necklace X bought for me during romantic Parisian getaway, intended to/wondering if it will evoke feeling of remorse. Or any feeling at all. Removal of dog and cat hair. He was not fond of the animals much (I should have known then). Final dabbing of lip gloss in the elevator's reflection in my attorney's office high-rise only afforded by tenants who charge their clients 400/hour. Riding up to the 34th floor allows just enough time to do breathing exercise aimed to raise level of serenity and lower possibility of potential tears at the scene.Receptionist announces my arrival. Attorney's 225.00/hr assistant appears and says X and the better representative have cancelled. [...]
Fri, 28 Sep 2007 01:08:00 +0000Laurie & Laurie talk about the new movie FEAST OF LOVE, directed by Robert Benton. When a nice coffee shop owner (Greg Kinnear) has his life thrown into turmoil after his wife (Selma Blair) leaves him for another woman (Alexa Davalos), his best friend (Morgan Freeman) does his best to encourage him to get back into the dating pool. It actually works, but when the single guy gets involved with a pretty blonde (Radha Mitchell), will he only get his heart broken all over again? Click just below to listen.
Tue, 18 Sep 2007 11:31:00 +0000Today is my wedding anniversary. And technically, I am still married. As we approach the signing of our divorce agreement (isn’t that – divorce agreement -- an oxymoron?) I am more than sure that this will be the last year that my wedding anniversary will pass that I will be, in fact, married...
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Mon, 27 Aug 2007 03:46:00 +0000Laurie invited "New Guy" to fill in for the vacationing Laurie2. So it follows that tonight's topics include their online dating experiences and observations on the state of divorce. Long marriages, dumb books, slumber parties and a shared tip o' the pod round out this late summer edition of DivorcingDaze.
Tue, 14 Aug 2007 11:21:00 +0000My five year old daughter woke this morning whimpering there was "a ghost in that closet". She pointed to my half-opened closet that once housed X's suits, shirts and ties. Instead of the expected maternal reassurance, I whispered back, "yes, sweetie, there is a ghost there." My own inside joke.OK, I quickly came to and added, " I'll go get rid of it."I swear, that is the farthest I go in intentionally "bad mouthing" X in front of my children. I'm actually quite proud of my upstanding behavior and attitude regarding him -- in the presence of his children. They have no idea of my truth. I am surprised, if not enlightened, by my evolved behavior. If given this hypothetical 5 years ago, I would have predicted tantrums, obnoxious outbursts, and sarcastic jibes all over the place. And I am all too acutely aware that even though X has become a much stronger father figure in the girls' lives since he moved out two years ago, he has faded as a three dimensional person in my life. Sure, he prevails in my daydreams and nightmares – as I still navigate through the terms of our impending divorce. And yes, I update him almost daily on the ear infection or new shoe size. And yes, he still lives six floors above me.But who and what X is and does during his workday and/or free time is now a total unknown. He is a stranger. A ghost. I would never leave my children with a babysitter I knew so little about. But here, weekend after every other weekend, Wednesday night after Wednesday I hand my two jewels over to a complete stranger. In fact, I know nothing about the man I shared a bed with for five years. In his explanation of his infidelity he said that he had "contorted himself" to fit into our marriage – that he was not being who he really is. Now, I'm not sure he knows who he really is as he continues to dabble with married women and such. But certainly, then, I know less than nothing about the father of my children. Who they spend weekends with! Does he know what to say when they wake in the middle of the night with a nightmare? Can he comfort a wounded feeling? the hurt knee? Can he convince them to eat their greens? Wash behind ear[...]
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Tue, 24 Jul 2007 01:32:00 +0000Self image, such a fragile thing. Like a baby's demeanor, this image of self can darken or brighten in a matter of seconds.Sometimes the smallest comments can carry the biggest ammo. You know those comments, the ones made in passing...innocently…. And at the time those 'comments in passing' are passed, you laugh them off with a shrug, a giggle, perhaps an eye roll. But then, sometimes, the comments, well…linger. They grow. Take on new meaning. Haunt you. For hours…days...weeks...even MONTHS!Time of divorce, reasonably, can be a sensitive time. It is a time, in fact, when friends and family, should, well, lie to you. Little ones, white lies. To push you forward, instill hope and inflate the divorcing ego.But not everyone you encounter will be that 'sensitive.' Innocent, yes, ego propping, perhaps not.Not too long ago, my five year old, cuddling next to me in bed, early morning, gazing at me with awe and adoration, in a way, only a young child can offer, tenderly touched my face. It felt so good. Worth it all. And then she whispered, "Mommy, you grew another chin." If life had sound effects, the slide whistle ending in a crash would be heard.And then there was the time, not too long after the aforementioned epiphany, that the same five year old told this writer to cover her legs more, to prevent the babysitter's boyfriend, from seeing these 'fat legs.' For that would offend. Offense taken.A few weeks ago, I hauled my two girls, dog and self off to my parent's beach house for a little R and R. "Nana will take care of us," I declared. Within the first hour of arrival, "Nana" defiantly noted, "oh look, you have stretch marks. I didn't know you had those."Some comments just can't be commented on back.For my 41st birthday (ouch) my babysitter gave me a day at the spa. Luxury for the soul the certificate promised.As I'm wrapped in warm towels, serenaded by Enya and the essence of lavender, my facialist (is that what they are called?) tells me what creams and oils she is applying to my skin. I'm at peace. But she continues. In her thick Russian accent, she declares what her [...]
Thu, 05 Jul 2007 01:07:00 +0000Laurie1 models her new bathing suit for X. Laurie2 considers her car for sex. Exploring doubts, red flags, Father's Day wishes and memories. Happy Independence Day to all of you!
Sun, 17 Jun 2007 16:17:00 +0000Today's edition of DD explores eight kinds of love, Target moving in on Vera Wang, the non-babysitting babysitter's hot outfit and the mystery of her whereabouts. Also, the New Guy's daughter cooks a gourmet feast, the phone rings a few times, and the Lauries laugh a lot, which is always good.
Tue, 05 Jun 2007 14:35:00 +0000Here is another of the early columns in the series that led to the DivorcingDaze Podcast:Enjoy!THE SOULMATEOk, pinch me. OUCH. So, last night (Saturday night) X took the girls for "his weekend" at 5:00pm. This morning, fourteen hours later, 7:00 am, the phone rings.Me: "Hello?"X: "Oh, did I wake you? I'm sorry."Me: "That's ok."X: "You sleep with the phone by your bed?"My Sunday morning needs to begin with X questioning what appliances I keep near my bed? This could get interesting. But I'm a realist so I change the topic. Me: "What's going on?"X: "Well, I was wondering if you could come up and watch the girls for a bit so I can run to the supermarket."Me: "ok."X: "Really appreciate it."For two years I manage to feed, clothe, clean, and raise the girls, work, and walk the dog three times a day without relying on him. Although come to think of it, there were two occasions when I asked X to help me out with the dog. The first time he said, "Stop testing me, Laurie." And the second time he said, "NO." But who is counting here? And obviously nobody is keeping score.So, like the obedient wife, I drag myself out of bed, make a pot of coffee and head up to the 9th floor.It does warm my heart to enter X's apartment because my two reasons for living greet me with their sleepy smiles and warm hugs.X is dutifully apologetic and grateful, which of course, warms my heart as well. Note to self: discuss this point in next therapy appointment.I tell myself this is really one of those win-win `situations.' I get to see my kids…. I get a chance to be in X's apartment without him….So X returns from the supermarket and invites me to stay for breakfast. The girls cheer combined with the memory of his bacon (the one food item I will always burn) and his cinnamon French toast convince me to stay the morning.During breakfast X complains about his migraines and sleepless night. (Ya' know, voodoo dolls really can work!)He asks if I could watch the girls for a few hours so he can try to nap. No problem, I offer. I te[...]
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Sat, 12 May 2007 11:41:00 +0000Lust, laughter and lesbians are on the Lauries' lists tonight. They hobnob with Hillary, Rosie, Barbara & Martha. Confessions of X's cleaning lady, pet peeves and a shout-out to Port Moody.
Mon, 23 Apr 2007 07:10:00 +0000Did X cheat? Or was he just shopping around for a new model? Hear how X spins the story to the offspring. And speaking of off, we have the off-the-wall fatherly phone rant from Alec Baldwin to his 11-year-old, right here on DivorcingDaze #30. The topic is burning up the boards on our Yahoo! Group. And check out the biggest dog in the world. Grab a bag of chips and join us for this and more.
Sat, 14 Apr 2007 17:15:00 +0000DivorcingDaze 29 brings sound health advice, a quote from Churchill, a vacation not taken. The new guy moves and X gets cool. Talk about it in our Yahoo! group.
Tue, 27 Mar 2007 06:04:00 +0000Laurie & Laurie share a hairdresser, a gynecologist, and some ginger-honey iced tea. Pokey shares the family eye doctor, a famous tennis-playing transexual. And as usual, the Lauries share their secrets and fantasies. DivorcingDaze #28 is the best 24 minutes you've heard all week. Share it.
Mon, 12 Mar 2007 13:50:00 +0000Here is one of the early DivorcingDaze columns that led to our podcast, this one about the high cost of divorce, paying for my divorce lawyer's vacation, and how I learned to be REALLY, REALLY cranky...I don’t think you can write a divorce column and not have one piece focus on The Divorce Lawyer. They’re a breed unto their own. I’m gonna come clean: I don’t like mine. She just called to ask me why I’ve been cranky recently? I swear. Those were her exact words. CRANKY! As if it’s not bad enough that X resorts to name calling on occasion, but my lawyer? I now feel a special bond with my 4year old – it IS frustrating when the person of power asks why you are cranky. Isn’t it obvious why?Ok. So she wants to know why I’m cranky? Take a deep breath. At 400 dollars an hour she needs that question answered? I’m going through a divorce, after all. Of course I’m cranky! Doesn’t she get it? The only person who seems to be getting anything they want in this divorce -- is my lawyer! My life savings have been drained down to less than what I had when I was the 15-year-old neighborhood babysitter! And my lawyer has it all. Did she really just ask me that question??? I wonder if she is going to bill me for posing, “WHY AM I CRANKY?? After all, she billed me 40 bucks when she went on her Aspen ski vacation because she chose to tell her firm’s partner that “should my client’s husband’s lawyer call while I’m away, tell her that I’ll be back in two weeks.? Really – I was charged for that inner office conversation. For her vacation. But I guess it was all worth it because I got to see a picture of my lawyer slash ski bunny on the Aspen slopes at a later meeting. It looked like it was a lot of fun.Then there was that 40 buck char[...]
Thu, 08 Mar 2007 03:06:00 +0000Great news! DivorcingDaze 27 has a theme! And believe it or not it has nothing to do with sex. Join the Lauries for a cool multimedia experience.
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Wed, 14 Feb 2007 20:20:00 +0000This is the second of the original columns which inspired the creation of our DivorcingDaze podcast. Happy Valentines Day!A couple of months after my husband left, my mother emailed me a poem called “One Art.? I think her motivation was to help ease my pain. My English teacher mother often offers her maternal comfort and advice through the works of famous, dead, white, male authors like Shakespeare and Chaucer. Well, this day’s message came from a dead white woman poet, Elizabeth Bishop. I think Bishop’s point in her poem “One Art? is that losing is a craft – an art. She writes, “The art of losing isn’t hard to master.? And she writes, “Loss is no disaster.? For Pete’s sake, people lose things all the time, teaches Ms. Bishop: keys, an hour, a watch, a house, a city, a continent, a loved one. People lose all the time, so, you know, get over it. No more blubbering. Move on.What I have found in this past year of total loss is that losing breeds more losing. And, quite frankly, it is a disaster, Ms. Bishop. Let’s see….upon discovery of X’s affair I spent the first two months losing lots of sleep. Lots. I’m still trying to catch up. In a matter of two weeks, I think I lost 12 pounds. I loss all body fat. Loss of sleep provides a perfect breeding ground for losing many more a material thing. One wallet, one watch, one set of car keys, one cell phone, one pair of diamond earrings and one diamond and sapphire wedding ring that I still wore on my middle finger. That’s a lot to lose in 10 months. And like Madonna, I have discovered, I too, am a material girl. And it hurts. Lots.I lost my husband, my marriage, frankly, life, as I knew it. I lost my in-laws, [...]
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Wed, 31 Jan 2007 13:38:00 +0000In this edition of DivorcingDaze: Falling for the wrong one after divorce, cheating women, New Guy gets framed. Is that Oprah Winfrey at the door? Click to find out.
Fri, 19 Jan 2007 04:26:00 +0000Cops, cars and liars. Forget Jack Bauer, all of the interesting stuff is going on right here at DivorcingDaze 23. Also, listener mail.
Thu, 11 Jan 2007 14:44:00 +0000The first new podcast of 2007. On the agenda: underwear, dental care, good sex, tales of X. A surprise announcement from Laurie #1. Start the New Year off right. Listen to us, then write.
Sun, 31 Dec 2006 18:43:00 +0000DivorcingDaze actually started as written columns, before the birth of our podcasts. We got so excited with the new podcast technology that we nearly forgot all about them and they lived only on my hard drive. I'm posting them for you to read, not hear...this is where it all began... DIVORCING DAZE: my column (1) 2003 This is the thing. Some days are bad. And some are just worse. I have a four year old, a two year old, a cat, a 200 lb dog and I live in New York City. And I'm getting a divorce. Divorce is not a good thing even if half of all married couples do it. Nope, nothing good about it. But where would we be if we couldn't laugh at our own misery? If you are a New Yorker, you're probably familiar with those not too rare occasions where you are scheduled to be in two places at the same time. Even before my husband left me for his soul mate of a boss it was hard to get out the door with two young children. And now as a single mother with an overburdened schedule and bruised heart I feel like doing three Hail Marys when the children and I successfully exit through the lobby doors of my apartment building. And I am Jewish. Well, this Wednesday morning in the dead, and I mean DEAD, of winter, was one of those swell times. Applying to kindergarten in New York City deserves a weekly column all on its own, but to say the least, it is a time consuming, annoying and nearly preposterous process. Even if all you want (or can afford) is public school. So this morning I had a tour scheduled at PS 87 on West 78th Street at 9:00am. Which is the same time I drop my four ye[...]
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Tue, 12 Dec 2006 22:37:00 +0000Divorce can wreak havoc on the lives of children, but University of Florida research shows it helps school-age girls when parents make a clean break, rather than continuing a troubled union. You may agree or disagree based on your own observations or experiences, but check out this clip while we prepare DivorcingDaze #20, and share your opinions in our Yahoo! DivorcingDaze Group. Just click the Yahoo! button at the top of the page.
Sun, 03 Dec 2006 18:52:00 +0000The holidays approach. X has the kids, so what to do? Thanksgiving is a moveable feast. But moving the cat a few feet seems to be a problem with consequences. What would you do? This and more from Laurie and Laurie as they get into the season's spirit. Click away as you decorate.
Thu, 23 Nov 2006 20:57:00 +0000Nothing like listener mail and a bottle of wine to inspire a glassful of DivorcingDaze observations and discussion. Should you sleep with the X? Are you ever embarrassed about being divorced? What do you tell your kids when they start asking questions? DivorcingDaze #18 is at the gate, boarding and ready for takeoff.
Thu, 02 Nov 2006 02:58:00 +0000Coochie Goes Mad in DD17! The Soulmate returns, X's girlfriend comes out of the closet, and lunch with the gynecologist? Ford gets bold, we get sold. Get in here now, before it's all gone.
Sun, 17 Sep 2006 18:15:00 +0000In this long-delayed DD 16, Laurie and Laurie banish the word "failure" from the definition of divorce, fantasize and speculate about last words to former spouses, and manage to recall fond memories, in and out of marriage.
Tue, 22 Aug 2006 01:49:00 +0000The divorce continuum. Like life, divorce has its phases. Before, during and sometimes long after. Tonight, DD15 explores fear of separation, fear of staying together, sleeping alone, sleeping together, and e-mail from an angel.