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Comments on Living and Loving Every Minute of It!: A Few Simple Rules~ Part one





Updated: 2013-08-10T10:12:32.872-07:00

 



I got here through Christina and thoroughly enjoye...

2008-06-11T07:43:00.000-07:00

I got here through Christina and thoroughly enjoyed this post. In a way this goes to the subject of my own blog which is 'assertive parenting'. Rules, consistency and not being afraid to say 'NO' are the recipe for a secure, well adjusted child. That and a good dose of love and the ability to admit and explain mistakes. "I am sorry I yelled. I am really tired today and that makes me cranky." I believe it is important to teach children 'emotional literacy'(the ability to talk about feelings) by modelling it to them. Thanks again.



Thanks for this post! I know I need to be better a...

2008-06-02T16:49:00.000-07:00

Thanks for this post! I know I need to be better about not letting emotions get in the way. Kayla is in a "no" stage right now - when we ask/tell her to do something we get "no"...it's frustrating!



I loved this post, I am mom of two very young kids...

2008-05-31T18:51:00.000-07:00

I loved this post, I am mom of two very young kids and struggle daily with discplining a toddler. This post also sparked a conversation b/w my husband and I about making rules. I love the analogy of the street signs.
P.S. jumping on the couch is always ok with me.



I couldn't agree with you more!Can't wait for the ...

2008-05-30T14:54:00.000-07:00

I couldn't agree with you more!

Can't wait for the next post!



Yep, I can relate to this one. For my hubby as muc...

2008-05-30T10:35:00.000-07:00

Yep, I can relate to this one. For my hubby as much as myself - he is totally emotion driven when it comes to parenting and discipline. Like so many other things, it's a sticking point between us - because of course, when he's frustrated and upset is the time that he needs to calm down, but is least likely to respond well to a suggestion that he calm down.

We have consistent rules (I think), but need to get better about having consistent consequences for when the rules are broken. I do like being able to blame the rule and make it the 'bad guy' instead of me. "I'm sorry that you can't do x, y or z right now but that's the rule!"

I've had to punish Hannah for the past 3 days in a row for various rule-breaking - things she should know better about, but has done anyway. So now I'm wondering if there's something else going on with her, or if it's time to revisit/rethink the rules and see if we need to do a better job at communicating them. Even when discipline is emotion-free and appropriate, it's still hard to dish out sometimes.

Love this post - just as the others you've done. I'm eagerly awaiting the next one! :)



I have such a hard time keeping my emotions out of...

2008-05-30T08:16:00.000-07:00

I have such a hard time keeping my emotions out of discipline. Especially at certain times of the month. UGH! I really need to work on it. Your analogy of driving through a town with different lights was perfect. Even though I know and agree with all of the things you've said in this post. I have a hard time being as consistent as I should be. Sigh..
This was really well written Corey. Good job! :)



Wow... what a great post. You seriously need to w...

2008-05-29T21:55:00.000-07:00

Wow... what a great post. You seriously need to write a parenting book, Corey.



Wow. I just read this, and all your previous posts...

2008-05-29T19:36:00.000-07:00

Wow. I just read this, and all your previous posts on how to approach parenting. I am truly inspired, and grateful for your insiteful words.



I need a little more time to read the entire post....

2008-05-29T17:03:00.000-07:00

I need a little more time to read the entire post....but, I can tell I already agree with you! Setting limits and rules are the easy part, sticking with them and following through is always the hardest -- at least for me! But, I know if I've set the rule, I must follow through......otherwise, my child can't trust me at my word.



This is where my husband and I are completely diff...

2008-05-29T15:40:00.000-07:00

This is where my husband and I are completely different. I preach consistency and rules, but husband flies by the seat of his pants and his mood. We have many, many discussions about this. It's like the kids don't know how to act around him bc they are never sure what will set him off. But, they behave BETTER for him bc they have that fear! So, who knows!



yeah - this makes A LOT of sense.but, i do like to...

2008-05-29T15:17:00.000-07:00

yeah - this makes A LOT of sense.

but, i do like to keep my children on their toes. it builds character. that's what i'm telling them....

take for example today. today it was okay to shout very loud in the car and make belching noises.

tomorrow? okay that was a bad example. it's always okay to make belching noises in my car.



Um you SHOULD be an expert. Beautifully written.....

2008-05-29T13:47:00.000-07:00

Um you SHOULD be an expert. Beautifully written...I went into parenting thinking that I wouldn't be one of those emotionally driven parents...but there are days that exhaustion takes over the consistency of it. I figure that is allowed once and awhile. If you like to read, you might like "Peoplemaking" by Virginia Satir. I have never understood why people say: "You/I shouldn't feel like this." I always tell my clients: "Feelings just happen to you. They are like a sneeze or an itch. It's what you do after the feelings happen that matters. Yeah, you may not want to feel angry or scared but that's what has happened. Now you can either react with no thought or can sit and ask yourself: "Why is this scary or why is this making me so angry?" You should be a therapist.



I definitely do a little of the emotional stuff. ...

2008-05-29T12:32:00.000-07:00

I definitely do a little of the emotional stuff. You're so right about how rules help us to navigate life. That was a brilliant analogy and I will bear it in mind. Thanks Corey.



Oh yes, I see a lot of what you have written refle...

2008-05-29T11:07:00.000-07:00

Oh yes, I see a lot of what you have written reflected in our daily life. I can especially relate to letting things slide "just this one time".

I look forward to hearing more!



Wow - you have opened up my eyes. I am so 'that p...

2008-05-29T07:53:00.000-07:00

Wow - you have opened up my eyes. I am so 'that parent'. Poor David. We really need to work on setting rules. When David was born, we treated him like one of us. Now that he is almost 5 (June 11) I can see how we failed when doing that. No bed time. No bed time routine. No morning routine. NOTHING. I am doing much better with Ava. I blamed everything on being a working mom, but I could have done so much better. We told him that kindergarten is much more serious than pre-school and that they require the students to go to bed by 8 and sleep in their own beds all night. I am trying to lay down more rules - wish us luck.
Thanks for your post. It truly hit home.