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Being open about your feelings has many benefits a...

2008-04-27T04:22:00.000-06:00

Being open about your feelings has many benefits and (as far as I am aware) no disadvantages.

For example, people who are "an open book" are easier to get on with. You always know where you are with them.

You know how to behave with open people - they'll tell you what pleases them & what doesn't.

Doing nice things for people is more rewarding when they show their appreciation.

You'll always work harder for a boss who lets you know that they appreciate your efforts.

Your body language doesn't lie, so people know at a subconscious level when you're not being honest & frank with them. This makes them mistrust you.

"Genuine" people are always popular. If you're not one of them, your popularity is suffering and your self-esteem is lower as a result. And low self-esteem is common among anxiety sufferers.

So change your ways now - it is just benefits all the way!



I grew up in Mormon culture and was heavily indoct...

2008-04-25T15:07:00.000-06:00

I grew up in Mormon culture and was heavily indoctrinated into the belief that "negative feelings" are not to be expressed -- or only if they're used to support some sort of faith-promoting experience story. I have no problem expressing "positive" emotions but it's very anxiety-inducing to have to talk about anything like fear, anger, disappointment, distrust, sadness or any other thing -- or even, sometimes, to allow myself to acknowledge (even just to myself) that that's really what I'm feeling, and just let the feelings be. I feel a lot of pressure to always be trying to transform those emotions into something positive, something to grow from -- instead of just letting them be what they are. Re-training myself to accept my feelings has helped a lot in terms of being able to stop fighting myself all the time, and that has made it easier to talk with other people about what's really going on with me. But yeah -- withholding emotions is super stressful, and anxiety-producing!



I am the ulimate people pleaser...I have no proble...

2008-04-24T09:01:00.000-06:00

I am the ulimate people pleaser...I have no problem expressing feeling...but they are not usually, truly, mine! :)
Take Care



I'm like that, mostly. I'm shy in general, but ev...

2008-04-23T23:44:00.000-06:00

I'm like that, mostly. I'm shy in general, but even with my family, who I am more open with, I don't like making myself vulnerable or exposed by talking frankly about how I feel.

I can do it online if I never actually meet the people I'm talking to (like in this comment now), but not in person or if I know those people in real life.



I have always had issues with this and it mostly o...

2008-04-23T21:44:00.000-06:00

I have always had issues with this and it mostly occurs with certain people. Specifically 2 family members. I have dreams all the time about telling them how I feel and how they make me feel...just having it out. I wish I could bring myself to do it in real life. This absolutely contributes to my anxiety!



> Is expressing how you feel to > others something...

2008-04-23T20:49:00.000-06:00

> Is expressing how you feel to
> others something you struggle with?

Yes, it is for me.