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Updated: 2018-04-06T00:22:00.363+08:00


To Ironman regarding your referenced article,there...


To Ironman regarding your referenced article,

there is a difference between homosexuality and child abuse/paedophilia.

It is inherrently flawed to say that homosexual activity is learned after being abused by older gay person. If that is true, then it would also be true that getting abused by a heterosexual will turn a child straight. both these ideas were equally disgusting because paedophilia is child abuse whether it is a hetero/homosexual act!

AND most children abused by gay paedophiles DID NOT turn out to be gay.

It is probably useful to be critical about non-reviewed studies/research carried out as even reviewed i.e. published articles can be very flawed/dodgy (e.g. cloning article by the disgraced Korean professor). The methodological robustness of non-reviewed studies is also of suspect (or otherwise, this would have been sent for publication in peer-reviewed journals). So, if quoted reference needs to be used, it should probably first be from academic journals and definitely not from some dodgy studies carried out by someone (with a Ph.D.)


Thanks Pat for the posting.To all others, everyone...


Thanks Pat for the posting.

To all others, everyone has his/her life to live. How each and everyone choose to live that God-given life, its his/her business. To paraphrase what the writer says, "If you have a problem with my lifestyle, it's your problem. Not mine."

dear Isaac..pls read the article below..wonder who...


dear Isaac..pls read the article below..wonder who is ignorant..What Causes Homosexual Desire and Can It Be Changed?By Paul Cameron, Ph. D.Dr. Cameron is Chariman of the Family Research Institute of Colorado Springs, Colorado USA. Click here for more information about this organization. You may contact him at: Family Research Institute, PO Box 62640, Colorado Springs, CO 80962 USA. Phone number: (303) 681-3113. (No e-mail address.) --------------------------------------------------------------------------------Most of us fail to understand why anyone would want to engage in homosexual activity. To the average person, the very idea is either puzzling or repugnant. Indeed, a recent survey (1) indicated that only 14% of men and 10% of women imagined that such behavior could hold any "possibility of enjoyment."The peculiar nature of homosexual desire has led some people to conclude that this urge must be innate: that a certain number of people are "born that way," that sexual preferences cannot be changed or even ended. What does the best research really indicate? Are homosexual proclivities natural or irresistible?At least three answers seem possible. The first, the answer of tradition, is as follows: homosexual behavior is a bad habit that people fall into because they are sexually permissive and experimental. This view holds rat homosexuals choose their lifestyle as the result of self-indulgence and an unwillingness to play by society rules. The second position is held by a number of psychoanalysts (e.g., Bieber, Socarides). According to them, homosexual behavior is a mental illness, symptomatic of arrested development. They believe that homosexuals have unnatural or perverse desires as a consequence of poor familial relations in childhood or some other trauma. The third view is "biological" and holds that such desires are genetic or hormonal in origin, and that there is no choice involved and no "childhood trauma" necessary.Which of these views is most consistent with the facts? Which tells us the most about homosexual behavior and its origins? The answer seems to be that homosexual behavior is learned. The following seven lines of evidence support such a conclusion.1) No researcher has found provable biological or genitic differences between heterosexuals and homosexuals that weren't caused by their behaviorOccasionally you may read about a scientific study that suggests that homosexuality is an inherited tendency, but such studies have usually been discounted after careful scrutiny or attempts at replication. No one has found a single heredible genetic, hormonal or physical difference between heterosexuals and homosexuals - at least none that is replicable. (9, 12) While the absence of such a discovery doesn't prove at inherited sexual tendencies aren't possible, it suggests that none has been found because none exists.2) People tend to believe that their sexual desires and behaviors are learnedTwo large studies asked homosexual respondents to explain the origins of their desires and behaviors - how they "got that way." The first of these studies was conducted by Kinsey in the 1940s and involved 1700 homosexuals. The second, in 1970, (4) involved 979 homosexuals. Both were conducted prior to the period when the "gay rights" movement started to politicize the issue of homosexual origins. Both reported essentially the same findings: Homosexuals overwhelmingly believed their feelings and behavior were the result of social or environmental influences.In a 1983 study conducted by the Family Research Institute (5) (FRI) involving a random sample of 147 homosexuals, 35% said their sexual desires were hereditary. Interestingly, almost 80% of the 3,400 heterosexuals in the same study said that their preferences and behavior were learned (see Table 1 below).Table 1Reasons For Preferring:homosexuality (1940s and 1970)early homosexual experience(s) with adults and/or peers - 22% homosexual friends/ around homosexuals a lot - 16% poor relationship with mother - 15% unusual deve[...]

To Isaac:Real quick to judge aren't we? Gheeze...G...


To Isaac:

Real quick to judge aren't we? Gheeze...Guess you're so 'straight' you can tell a joke/tease even when one is jammed up your behind...gheeze...

Read between the lines, if you're capable of that...I left loads of clues in my post...gheeze...

Anonymous 11.36 --The writer of Heartbreaks In Sil...


Anonymous 11.36 --

The writer of Heartbreaks In Silence is a friend of mine. The term "breeders" is used by he and his friends (hetero, homo and all) in an endearing, not offensive manner. Hope you don't take offense after reading this.

aiyoh! once tasted the back one wont want front an...


aiyoh! once tasted the back one wont want front anymore !

Dear Patrick,Thank you for this post. I empathise ...


Dear Patrick,

Thank you for this post. I empathise with the writer and hope he has found a lasting peace.

I wish people will just learn to accept the people around them for what they are.

I am indian, my husband chinese. That also seems wrong lah. Nevermind talking about gay or heterosexual! I dunno which would've been worse: to hear we were gay? or to hear we wanted to marry someone from another race!

My point? People will always find ways to find you lacking lah! I like what the writer said: 'it is their problem'. He is so right.

Love cannot be wrong - if no one is hurt in the process.

Breeders?The writer want compassion and understand...



The writer want compassion and understanding and yet, in the same breath, vilify heterosexual relationships. I take offense in that word. Boo hoo for you, and boo hoo for me. Pah!


...the thing is every man fantasize about having s...


...the thing is every man fantasize about having sex through the anus with a woman and that is considered okay...but to fantasize to fuck another man's arse is not right..its the same thing, isn't it?but still i am against gays but i like lesbians..har!har!har!

Dear Ironman, you are so ignorant as to beggar bel...


Dear Ironman, you are so ignorant as to beggar belief. Your 2 cents worth is just that - 2 cents worth. Out of curiosity, you checked out pussies, then you get desires, after which you experiment blah, blah, blah, so you are now addicted to hetero sex? And therefore you should check yourself into some clinic to get rid of that inclination of yours? Idiotic reasoning, is it not?

good stuff pat least those homophobic pricks...


good stuff pat least those homophobic pricks should realize by now ...they shouldnt be afraid of gays ..grow up ...embrace em ...
zull langkawi aka limp wrist ...

If Ironman says being gay is a choice and you say ...


If Ironman says being gay is a choice and you say Ironman is ignorant, then what are you trying to say here? There are millions of gays/lesbians in this world who think that it's normal to live a life of homosexuality. THINK AGAIN!! Would you want your future generation to grow up accepting the fact that homosexuality is FINE and they may eventually make a CHOICE to go HOMO?

Stop the TOKKOK la...Look at yourself in the mirror and see what you have been borned to be.

Ironman,If you think being gay is a choice, you ar...



If you think being gay is a choice, you are ignorant my friend!

thank you :D


thank you :D

i don't agree with gays or lesbian but i have no p...


i don't agree with gays or lesbian but i have no problem with them. In fact some of my colleagues are gay..May God have mercy on their souls...

Beautiful article!I hate how it's not particularly...


Beautiful article!
I hate how it's not particularly safe to "out" yourself in Malaysia.. maybe among friends it's fine (so far, they seem ok with it!) but what happens when the knowledge of your homosexuality reaches people you didn't intend for it to reach? Sometimes it's okay, but other times that's when trouble starts.

If anyone else was around to read daniazz6383's blog while it was still up, I'm sure they can agree to the mass prejudice of Malaysians against gays.

I enjoy reading every part of the story except for...


I enjoy reading every part of the story except for the stroking part and the size comparing part. Haha.

It just got into my mind as disgusting. I am sorry. I try not to discriminate gays but it's pretty difficult to accept 2 sticks complementing one another. hehehe.

Dont mind me guys. It's just "Yucks"! :)

It's a good piece by your friend Pat, but I'm ser...


It's a good piece by your friend Pat, but I'm seriously seeing people relating it to the current political situation is rather crazy.

Keep us entertained Pat keep us further from the political dramas

this is a fun read!i like it.keep it up!!


this is a fun read!i like it.keep it up!!

I also have few gay friends and one will come to ...


I also have few gay friends and one will come to know....they are much more sincere friends you can ever hope to find...totally harmless and ever caring.....if they accept you as a friend.

thanks for posting this piece!To everyone be who u...


thanks for posting this piece!
To everyone be who u r and be proud of it !

Dear Pat...In life it is more important to life yo...


Dear Pat...

In life it is more important to life your life's purpose and to do it without with courage. I am only 19+, but even I know that one's sexual preference does not determine one's character. When a person lives for the betterment of the society and loves his life, he is contributing to the God's beautiful world.

To answer those whose say that it is forbidden in the Holy Books, my dear friends...there are more than enough cruelty, evilness and loneliness in this world that God would accept them for the love most of them spread.

To this person who wrote this piece, you should be proud of yourself. A true man is one who is courageous enough to believe in his cause and to live his life to the fullest.

I also thank you for sharing this with us all " No one else can live my life for me, die my death for me." This were also my dad's words of wisdom.


I like the part on breeders, overpopulated world, ...


I like the part on breeders, overpopulated world, and limited resources. With so many cases of buang bayi and unwanted pregnancies, so many kids ending up in orphanages, I think it is one of nature's own creation to control this problem

I admire the courage, the voice and the desire to be one true self. Homosexual or Heterosexual, it doesn't matter. We've all been looking for the same things and asking the same questions... who are we? why are we here? And guess what... at least this guy knows why he's here ^^

You people have got to watch "Lars and the Real Girl" and you'll understand exactly what it means.

I think it's a beautiful piece!

Dono lah. I have this ambivalence towards homosexu...


Dono lah. I have this ambivalence towards homosexuality. On a personal level, I'm ok with my friends i know who are gay. But do I approve? I can't say wholeheartedly.

I watched Brokeback Mt, was touched by it and called it a sad love story. A Christian friend said this to me: "You see, Hollywood has an agenda. It's to make homosexuality as normal and acceptable as possible."


Thanks for this Patrick. Hope this will enlighten ...


Thanks for this Patrick. Hope this will enlighten the homophobes. I am not sure education or social status has got much to do with homophobic attitude. Anecdotal evidence: Hard wired Tories peers/lords etc. in the UK are no less homophobic than the learned, respected folks in Malaysia quoted in the Bernama piece :). Compared them with my dead granny (bless her), no formal education (I think) and just a peasant mother of 9 children :), I doubt she would spout such hatred (and rubbish) against gay people (compared to these learned `men').