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Updated: 2017-11-23T20:03:19.805+08:00


Oh Cowiepig,You sound like you went through a very...


Oh Cowiepig,
You sound like you went through a very tough time! Thank you for sharing here. You should be back to work by now. How is your baby doing now?

I was so determined to bf my bb when I found out t...


I was so determined to bf my bb when I found out that I was pregnant. I read everything about bf and bot all the equipement needed to bf. I even requested for a private room from my employer in for me to express bm when my maternity end. All these hopes dashed when I had to deliver to bb thru an emergency Caer when I was only 7 mths pregnant due to complication. My prematured bb only weigh 1.16 kg and she has to stayed in the hosp for more than 5 weeks. I cried everyday seeing the tiny condition.

The neonatal paed requested for BM on day 1. I was able to express BM but unfortunately I was on heavy medication and my BM was no allowed to be given to my bb. The first 4 days she was given formula but unable to digest any of it. My hubby was afraid that I could not accept the fact that he hide all these information from my. During that time I was still in the ICU ward and I was not awared of all this.

Slowly, my doc reduced my medication dosage and I'm allowed to feed my bb BM but thru feeding tube. I pumped diligently as bb was still in hosp and with enough rest at home, I was able to express enough BM. I would bring my EBM to the hosp everyday so that the nurses could feed her. Slowly, my bb grew to big enough to be taken out from the incubator.

The first day she was out, she was given EBM through the bottle. That's when the horror started. She developed nipple confusion because she was never breastfeeded before. I would spend 5-8 hours daily in the hosp to bf her, but she just dont know how to suck. Everytime it failed, I was asked to give her the bottle instead. The nurses in the NICU told me, once she's older she would learn. Unfortunately, it never happened.

The day I brought my baby home was my happiest day. Unfortunately her constant crying because of colic and reflux has added tremondously stress on me. My BM flow started going down the hill. From 60 ml each pumping session, I only managed to get 10 ml. Then only 2 ml. I started panicked. I read and tried everything I could find from the internet about increasing BM. My friend who is also a lactation consultant came to SG to help me. She tried given me fenugreek, protien, massage, etc.....but nothing help. She even asked me to seek help from my bb paed. I did and was prescribed some hormone pills to increase my BM flow. My BM flow came back on the 3rd day after medication, but my happiness was for short moment only. The day I finished the hormone pills which was the 5th day, my BM flow went back to 2 ml again.

The more I tried to pump, the less milk I would produce. I was so tensed that I look and behave like a zombie. All my family members wanted me to give up on BF. They said I tried too hard that I was only punishing myself. Nowadays, whenever I read about breastfeeding news, my heart ache. Tears would flow......

wmd,Thats just mother nature isn't it? We can't he...


Thats just mother nature isn't it? We can't help it. We always ask ourselves "Did I do the right thing?" not only for breastfeeding but for all other aspects of mothering as well. Breastfeeding was very, very hard for me and everyday I felt like giving up. With my girl, eventually I had to supplement, breastfeed at night and formula during the day. With my son, if he hadn't learned to FINALLY latch on at exactly two months and one day, I would probably have given up. I feel that those mothers who understand the benefits of breastfeeding and have tried their very best (by reading up as much as they can and getting the necessary help and support etc) should not be too hard on themselves. (But of course thats easier said than done.) Its only those who do not have the information through lack of knowledge or support who need the extra push in the form of providing them with the knowledge and advise they need to get started. Its just so sad that so many mothers are not informed enough and shrug away their ability to breastfeed by being told that "they do not have enough milk" etc.

When I see my son suffering from his eczema, I can...


When I see my son suffering from his eczema, I cannot help but wonder what if I had persisted long enough like you to try breastfeeding him. I matter what there will always be this tiny whisper inside me wondering about "what if" or asking myself "why did I give up so quickly"...