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Bluray player in a PC: How do you watch movies?

Tue, 05 Dec 2017 19:56:15 GMT

My experience is don't bother. When I tried, the software was always crashing, or the DRM was throwing a fit, or the video was just badly washed out compared to a regular player.

You can get a stand-alone player for like $40 these days.




Is there anything you can do against dickish college professors?

Tue, 05 Dec 2017 19:52:33 GMT

Go to a less shitty college.

I had a terrible professor that acted like that when I was stuck at a crappy 2 year community college when I started. Things were much better when I transferred to a real college.




Gambling Problem

Fri, 01 Dec 2017 12:52:07 GMT

evilthecat:
Hey.

TBH, I'm really unsure why you would post this here. There are many forums which cater specifically to addiction and gambling addiction in particular, but here's what I know which might help.

Firstly, treating addiction or compulsion therapeutically requires a high degree of motivation. Your son needs to realise that he has a problem and to actively want to make a difference. It's a very stressful process and is unlikely to succeed without active cooperation. If your son is not at that stage yet, then there probably isn't much you can do beyond cutting yourself off as much as possible from the financial and emotional consequences. Sometimes, people need to hit rock bottom before they will acknowledge there is anything wrong.

At the same time, pretty much everyone fails at some point during addiction treatment. Even if your son is extremely motivated, don't expect instant results. If he manages six weeks without gambling and then goes to a casino, try to remember that that is still progress.

Suicidal threats are a terrible thing to have to deal with, but remember that in practice it is very, very hard for someone to kill themselves. Rather than giving in to the threats, try to make the environment safe by staying with your son when possible, ensuring that dangerous objects (knives, guns, medicines, razor blades) are hidden and so forth. If you can't do these things, remember that it is totally appropriate to call emergency services if you believe there is an immediate risk someone may kill themselves. Do not give in to the threats as this may lead to further suicidal threats and risky behaviour.

Just try to add the most popular websites to your blacklist on the home network. most of them you can find out https://csgoroute.com




Is there any way to watch Canadian shows in the US?

Thu, 23 Nov 2017 12:56:50 GMT

There's a lot of episodes on YouTube if that helps.

That's how I watched the first 6 or so seasons of Canada's Worst Driver.

Is that a thing up there? Canada's Worst -------- ?




Is there any way to watch Canadian shows in the US?

Wed, 22 Nov 2017 08:37:20 GMT

I have recently come across Canada's Worst Handyman on Netflix and have been trying get a hold of a related show by the same host: Don't Drive Here.

Bizarrely, there doesn't appear to be any legal way to do so. It's not on Netflix or (apparently) any other legit streaming site. It's not on Google Play. It does exist on iTunes, but only in their Canadian Store and they won't sell it to a US citizen. There's literally a "Buy" button showing an amount that I'm willing to pay, I click the button, and they're suddenly allergic to my money. I'd even be willing to buy DVDs, but that's not on the table. The show aired several years ago, so it's not as though they're stilling mulling over distribution options. They've even gone so far as to take down the official facebook page and the show's page on Discovery Canada's website. I retrieved the latter with the Web Archive, but even when it existed, it didn't point in the direction of any way to watch the show save the now long-past method of tuning in on their cable channel.

Is this a normal frustration to have? I don't normally watch TV or movies online, so I'm not really familiar with this sort of thing. Vendors of software, e-books, and plain old physical objects are eager to take my money and send me things.

I don't really want to wade into the hazardous waters of internet piracy, but I don't see a legit option. Am I missing something?




The latest nVidia Drivers have broken my laptop.

Tue, 14 Nov 2017 10:08:28 GMT

Reboot into safe mode and use the device manager to manually uninstall the drivers. Reboot again to make sure the change takes effect.

Then when you get back into the desktop, go to the nvidia website and download the last driver package that you knew would work, and manually install it. You'll probably need to search the legacy software, but they should still have them: http://www.nvidia.com/Download/Find.aspx?lang=en-us




Russian Literature in Russian

Sat, 11 Nov 2017 02:29:06 GMT

I don't really know many movies sorry; but Solaris is a 1970s Russian scifi that I really enjoyed. (With subtitles) it's more of a psychological drama and is a slow burner, but being dialog heavy might help you?

If you need books Roadside picnic Is the book that STALKER and the metro series are based off. It's very good.
Other than that you've got all the classic literature that's apparently beautiful to read in Russian, Gogol's dead souls is a good start.




Russian Literature in Russian

Fri, 10 Nov 2017 18:09:49 GMT

Hey,

I'm struggling with learning Russian (and I have to learn it) since I'm not very motivated. The trick with other languages I learned was to get some media I'm interested in. Something rather good/big.

I'm not the most humorous guy around, as in I have a very strange taste in humour (love YouTube Poop, don't like modern American late night shows).

I love SciFi. I can bear with socialist and communist propaganda, if the SciFi stuff (for example) is of high quality. I can make do with high fantasy, but then it must be top-notch. I enjoy post-apocalyptic movies, but then the atmosphere must be thick. I was for example a fan of 1984, but nowadays, the theme of love and the lacking visuals (yes, I mean un-excitement-inducing (not saying unexciting on purpous)) make it a bore fest for me once I figured out its other themes.

I know of Stalker (movie), haven't seen it and frankly, I bet it's hard to come by in Germany in the Russian language, I bet. Don't know. Would be just one single movie anyway. I might try out Metro (games and books). But what I'm truely lacking is awesome movies. If it's a good thriller or something like Vertigo, visually stunning, then please let me know.

I would be tremendously grateful.




Suffering from IBS? I've written some thoughts down on dealing with it

Fri, 10 Nov 2017 09:54:43 GMT

IBS is stands for Irritable Bowel Syndrome. It is a global human disorder occurring at high rates in every population of the planet. It is a long term condition of gut that causes episodes of abdominal cramps, bloating and diarrhoea. IBS can affect anyone at any age but it most often first develops in young adults.




Is this relationship common/fine?

Thu, 09 Nov 2017 01:19:50 GMT

2 years is nothing. A good general rule of thumb is 10%. If the age difference is around 10%, it's not creepy. When you get to 20 or 30%, it's more tenuous.




The latest nVidia Drivers have broken my laptop.

Tue, 07 Nov 2017 15:01:38 GMT

Hey man, sorry to hear this. Is there any way you can downgrade the latest drivers? That might fix the issues for you.




Is this relationship common/fine?

Tue, 07 Nov 2017 15:00:40 GMT

Hey man, I think its completely normal to have 2 years difference between 2 of you, completely normal. One thing I would recommend is to keep in mind the legality, you know what I mean. When you like her, there is nothing that should stop you from seeing her.




Placeholder video preventing intended video from playing

Thu, 02 Nov 2017 07:47:49 GMT

Went looking around and found this reddit thread

EliWallace mentions the embed once provided a url that provided a direct url to the video

You can generate this link yourself

First start with http://www.escapistmagazine.com/videos/config/

Go to the video you want to watch on the Escapist and grab the video post number

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/videos/view/zero-punctuation/117153-Zero-Punctuation-Evil-Within-2

In the above case it would be 117153-

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/videos/config/117153-

Then go back to the video player page -> right click the page -> view source -> ctrl+f "hash" -> copy the proceeding mumbled code - in this case a2290a8b9c0b67825c5aacfc24ff0cda

Add it to the url and put at the end

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/videos/config/117153-a2290a8b9c0b67825c5aacfc24ff0cda

As EliWallace said grab the second link for a direct video

Wish I knew a much user friendly solution but ya can't have it all

I'm told to blame Kross




Placeholder video preventing intended video from playing

Thu, 02 Nov 2017 05:57:47 GMT

I've tried it in multiple browsers (including Chrome) and on multiple computers. However, I did just received a message back from someone who used to work for the site. He said i should just wait for my ISP to reassign me a new IP. I've tried just about every day for the past month and nothings doing. Anyway, thanks for the reply.




Placeholder video preventing intended video from playing

Wed, 01 Nov 2017 08:39:25 GMT

This site let go their Tech Team a while back so no one is in the position to fix this nor will be it seems

I use to get the ad on loop as well using Firefox
Using Chrome though I have yet to see it
This gets reported on frequently but I've yet to see any provided solutions by other users - lots of users report it here
My best advice would be to try other browsers and see what works

The ad can be directly grabbed here - http://video.escapistmagazine.com/mp4_hq/escapist/sales-marketing/5387-3ee7e3af0dfedc5c0cc695fe538a8086.mp4

Also came by a github issue concerning the ad for a video download addon - https://github.com/rg3/youtube-dl/issues/5832




Help with younger sister

Tue, 31 Oct 2017 23:11:53 GMT

RikuoAmero:
Mother has already resigned herself to this, but my real fear is that if this continues, she will with a very high likelihood end up dead sometime within the next year or two, if I wash my hands of her.

I was in this position with my brother a few years back, which is where a lot of my feelings on this are coming from. People can change and they can make incredible progress, but they need to want to change and sometimes that requires hitting rock bottom, whatever rock bottom is for them.

Like, most of the things which might cause her to end up dead aren't going to happen overnight, so while things might get worse (a lot worse) it's likely that survival instinct will kick in and she'll do what it takes to avoid ending up dead. There's a reason I asked straight away about domestic abuse, self-harm and addiction.

If you're worried about her ending up on the streets, that's why it's very important to leave the door open so that if she ever needs help she can ask for it. I don't know about the situation where you live with regard to support for youth homelessness, but assuming your mother wouldn't take her back then your sister definitely meets the criteria for being a vulnerable young person so referrals to a shelter are possible. It's even possible she could be referred to a women's shelter due to your family history and the fact she's in a lot of vulnerable brackets.

But the real danger is that if your relationship with her continues to turn sour, then she might not be willing to talk to you if/when things go bad. That puts you in a really impossible position because on one hand you want to help her now and talk her out of making mistakes, but on the other hand doing so is pushing her away. That's why I think the best thing is to recognise when you need to walk away and when the strain of dealing with this is getting to you. You don't need to cut her off or actively burn any bridges, just be a bit less proactive and wait for her to come to you for help, rather than trying to force her to accept it now.

But I'll freely admit I don't fully understand your situation and I may be reading it through my own life, so obviously trust your instincts first and foremost. Hopefully this is just something to think about.




Placeholder video preventing intended video from playing

Tue, 31 Oct 2017 11:47:31 GMT

I keep getting this advertisement every time I try and watch a video on escapist.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2yVYoITeqc
As I understand, it's because the site thinks I'm a bot or a crawler as explained in the forum post below.
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/538.859572-Escapist-videos-not-playing
It started in April I think and at first it was off and on. Now for the past month or so I?ve not been able to watch any videos on the site. So if there are any escapist worker people reading this, could you perhaps make it so I can view the videos? Thanks.
(a plea from a publisher's club member)




Help with younger sister

Tue, 31 Oct 2017 05:26:16 GMT

evilthecat:Okay, so let's go through the important things. * Do you have any reason to believe her boyfriend might be coercing her or deliberately trying to isolate her from her friends and family? Not any based on any kind of fact, as I have yet to meet him or talk with him. Any information I have on the guy is completely second hand. I don't know what he and K get up to, as K doesn't talk to anyone. * Has she shown any other signs of dangerous or risk taking behaviour beyond unprotected sex, like self-harm or binging on alcohol/drugs? I have not seen any physical evidence of cutting or of her taking substances. However, I cannot say for certain either way because she just plainly isn't around. If there's no evidence that that's the case then honestly, it doesn't sound that unusual for someone in her position. To effectively move out, do the closest thing to cutting off all contact? I had phases where I didn't talk to anyone...but not for nine months! I'm going to guess that what happened is that she fell out with her mother, Yes, both the mother and K (on the extremely rare chance I get to talk with her) have confirmed this. who brought you into it (which was a shitty thing to do) and now you're lumped in with her mother as just another person trying to control her life. I have already considered this myself. To borrow from debate parlance, while it would be a valid argument, it would not be sound (I hope you know the difference between validity and soundness).However, on the rare occassion I do talk to her, I have stressed as good as I can that I am acting as my own person, that I don't necessarily believe all the things the mother is saying about her (I have bad history with the mother, and K knows this), but that it is very hard for me to take K's side if she shuts me out. Young women often do have unprotected sex. Often, it's not apathy I'm not saying that I think her having unprotected sex is due to apathy. When I mentioned apathy before, it's how I perceive her acting towards me. She shuts me out, doesn't even want me around on her 18th birthday, and whenever I bring up just how little I've seen or talked to her this year (considering we spent 4 years apart)...there's not a sign that she cares. "So what?" is something she's said on more than one occassion. Having to ask for the pill can be an intimidating experience when you're very young and worried about being judged, and a lot of women that age don't feel secure enough to ask their boyfriends to use condoms. Nothing much I can say to this... Basically, it sounds like both you and your mother came in from quite a punitive angle, The mother yes, she's the shouty type...but me? All I did was bring her to my house, sit her down and say (paraphrasing because it was about 9 months ago), in as calm a tone as I can do, that I had talked to the mother on the phone and was it true, and upon confirmation, what precautions she was taking.At that point, that was basically when she started shutting me out.However, I will not deny that it is possible that in her mind, the mother and I are somehow acting in concert on this, that we more or less act the same and thus deserve the same treatment from her. I know it sucks, but sometimes a person has to hit rock bottom before they can see for themselves the harm they're doing to themselves. It's not just the sex that has both the mother and I on edge about her. See...she basically doesn't have an education worth calling such. As I indicated before, she didn't go through what Americans call high school. She dropped out in her first year. Couldn't handle it. As of this moment [...]



Help with younger sister

Mon, 30 Oct 2017 12:24:53 GMT

Okay, so let's go through the important things.

* Do you have any reason to believe her boyfriend might be coercing her or deliberately trying to isolate her from her friends and family?
* Has she shown any other signs of dangerous or risk taking behaviour beyond unprotected sex, like self-harm or binging on alcohol/drugs?

Like, those are the really dangerous things. If there's no evidence that that's the case then honestly, it doesn't sound that unusual for someone in her position. I'm going to guess that what happened is that she fell out with her mother, who brought you into it (which was a shitty thing to do) and now you're lumped in with her mother as just another person trying to control her life.

Young women often do have unprotected sex. Often, it's not apathy so much as the result of cumulative fears and insecurities, which does hint at some possible dangers but ultimately it tends to be a temporary thing which people grow out of. Having to ask for the pill can be an intimidating experience when you're very young and worried about being judged, and a lot of women that age don't feel secure enough to ask their boyfriends to use condoms. Basically, it sounds like both you and your mother came in from quite a punitive angle, which is obviously not what she wants to hear. It's like when someone has addiction problems or is in an abusive relationship, often confronting them directly just makes them dig in because they feel like they're being persecuted. I know it sucks, but sometimes a person has to hit rock bottom before they can see for themselves the harm they're doing to themselves.

So, I'm going to give you the hardest advice, and it's going to make me sound like a dick, but I genuinely do think it's the best thing you can do for everyone. Walk away. Let her know that you'll be there if she wants your help, and then cut yourself off from it. If your sister is not giving you anything good, then you don't need to have a relationship with her right now. It's clearly having a negative impact on you, and it doesn't sound like it's helping her either. You aren't a parent to her, so you're not in any way responsible for her behaviour and you don't have to accept any consequences from it.

It's not entirely selfish either. Put yourself in her position. She's in that weird stage between childhood and adulthood, but in her own mind she's an adult and she's frustrated that people don't treat her like an adult. The issue is, she's not behaving like an adult because she hasn't yet figured out that being an adult means she'll have to deal with the consequences herself. She needs to learn that, and the best way to learn is by realising that other people won't stick around to watch her mess things up.

It's not perfect, but families like yours (and mine) aren't perfect.




How to overcome gambling addiction?

Fri, 27 Oct 2017 13:03:02 GMT

I am not a sport psychiatrist but I think that a study or several performed by an appropriate institution would give great insight on this topic. Marijuana Withdrawal http://www.addictionrehabcenters.com/withdrawal-detox/marijuana-withdrawal-and-detoxification/