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Updated: 2014-08-31T10:56:19.520-05:00

 



True that. It wasn't resolving anything- it was a ...

2008-01-14T12:37:00.000-06:00

True that. It wasn't resolving anything- it was a deluded perception. It was avoidance and repression and that's never goood.

It's such a freedom to just deal with it now! I totally agree.



I think when it comes down to it, I didn't use smo...

2008-01-14T12:29:00.000-06:00

I think when it comes down to it, I didn't use smoking to deal with my anger ... I smoked to remove myself from the situation long enough so that I wouldn't fly off the handle. Now that I'm not smoking and removing myself from the situation, I have to honestly learn how to DEAL with the situation. How to resolve that anger. I don't think that part was ever solved as a smoker, I think I was just deluded about it. I can tell, because when I found other ways to handle the anger, I truely felt better -- so much better that it was a high in itself.



Exactly like a Toddler Brandie. That's an apt disc...

2008-01-14T11:04:00.000-06:00

Exactly like a Toddler Brandie. That's an apt discription.

And what a lesson to teach a toddler - when you get angry smoke.

I do agree - when I adopt an emotional strategy - shutting myself in my room to calm down, going for a walk, prayer, deep breaths - then absolutely I find dealing with the anger easier because I'm DEALING with it rather than stiffling it with smoking.

But, it has taken longer to learn the strategies than I had expected and while I don't think of smoking anymore - sometimes I get very frustrated with not knowing what to do with it.



The first time I had to deal with true, red-hot an...

2008-01-14T09:33:00.000-06:00

The first time I had to deal with true, red-hot anger after quitting, I didn't know what to do with myself! Suddenly I had to relearn how to handle my emotions. I felt like a toddler. I watch my for year old clench her fists together and go "URRRGGGGGGHHHH" ... because she knows no other way to handle her emotions, and that's how I felt that day. Surprisingly, I didn't WANT a smoke when that happened, but I just didn't know how to deal with the anger. I did circumvent it with a walk and talking to a co-worker, and felt 1000 times better afterwards.

Do you find that NOT smoking to deal with anger helps you handle it better?