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Updated: 2017-02-02T04:45:50.501-06:00

 



Keep score-- the way it's being done is like havin...

2008-05-04T21:11:00.000-05:00

Keep score-- the way it's being done is like having a purple elephant in the room and nobody talking about it.

I've always wondered-- do they really think those kids don't know the score? They totally know the score. EVERYBODY knows the score.

Karen



You and I are in the wrong part of the world to ha...

2008-05-04T17:51:00.000-05:00

You and I are in the wrong part of the world to hate wind. At least down below the Cap, they are putting up those wind turbines everywhere. It is hard to figure why they didn't think of this earlier. If there is one thing that this place has it's wind.



TE: I'm doing a My Town post on Tarrytown, NY inst...

2008-05-04T11:09:00.000-05:00

TE: I'm doing a My Town post on Tarrytown, NY instead of New Rochelle. It's the home of Washington Irving.

http://josephinedamian.blogspot.com/2008/05/my-town-monday-on-sunnyside-of-street.html

BTW: Blogger would not let me display a post dated blog post! When I set the date tomorrow, it said it would not make it available for viewing until tomoorow. I switched the date back to today's. Let me know if you have the same issue.



I'm not qualified to answer. But I'm going to any...

2008-05-04T07:41:00.000-05:00

I'm not qualified to answer. But I'm going to anyway.

I don't have a problem with kids that young not keeping score. They're learning the fundamentals of the game. That's all.

When they're in 2nd or 3rd grade and still not keeping score THEN I have a problem with it.

I never "let" my kids win at board games because I wanted them to be able to lose gracefully. That and I'm too competitive. But that's another story.

You are right, though. They always know exactly what the score is, don't they?



I try to practice Up (unconditional parenting)- so...

2008-05-03T20:14:00.000-05:00

I try to practice U
p (unconditional parenting)- so keeping score is sort of a tough one. Here's the deal: As long as your kid knows your love for them is not dependent on wether or not they win or lose, then yeah, keep score. I agree with the medal thing. Although when Kate finished pre-k soccer this fall, I will admit it was fun to have a little trophy for her to take home. We explained carefully that it was for "participation". Even if they did win every game. (Shh! Mama couldn't help but keep track).



keeping score should be allowed -- we do our kids ...

2008-05-02T22:10:00.000-05:00

keeping score should be allowed -- we do our kids no favors when we shelter them from the experience of not winning, of being underdogs, of coming from behind, of winning gracefully. you're right. they know and it's a ridiculous psychological game we play. i think it confuses them.



When I first read your rant :) I thought, "Men ar...

2008-05-02T16:23:00.000-05:00

When I first read your rant :) I thought, "Men are so competitive." But when gave your explaination as to why keeping score is important, I began to see your POV. You have a very good argument. I say-- keep score!

Enjoy your weekend!!



I think you should keep score... or they're going ...

2008-05-02T13:53:00.000-05:00

I think you should keep score... or they're going to have a rude awakening when they're older and discover that's the way the world works.



Life is a competition in which you can only do you...

2008-05-02T12:38:00.000-05:00

Life is a competition in which you can only do your best - some you win some you lose ( but hopefully have fun all the same) - sometimes your score isn't good enough but hey it makes you try even harder the next time - scores are necessary numbers & very important to kids.



It's a hot, windy day here in the Texas Panhandle....

2008-05-02T10:37:00.000-05:00

It's a hot, windy day here in the Texas Panhandle. High is expected be in the low 90's and already at noon, the wind is gusting upwards of fifty miles an hour.

Same here, bro. Brush fire weather. Never thought I'd hate the wind till I moved to FL - if the hurricane don't get you, the brush fire will.



In life you win or lose. That's just the way it wo...

2008-05-02T09:28:00.000-05:00

In life you win or lose. That's just the way it works. You work hard to get the promotion, and get awarded accordingly. Everyone in the company doesn't get promoted in the spirit of fairnes. Why does anyone think children do not need to learn this? Are we not raising our children to lead meaninful lives? Should we intead teach them that everything has to be fair, thus intentionally misleading them so that later in life they are confused?
It's like those people who think it's adorable with then 2 year old cusses, and then a couple years later busts their ass when they cuss. You know that poor child is confused and thinking WTF happened?
Wow, I'm rambling this morning - so anyway, that's my opinion! :)



I agree.Keep score.

2008-05-02T07:44:00.000-05:00

I agree.
Keep score.



If the kids are old enough to ask what the score i...

2008-05-02T02:47:00.000-05:00

If the kids are old enough to ask what the score is, they're old enough to know.



I just read your post about soccer. I have two boy...

2008-05-02T02:19:00.000-05:00

I just read your post about soccer. I have two boys, so I can entirely relate to this. I agree with you, but it's a balance. And for the most part, I think it's the parents who get waaaay more competitive than the coaches or the kids.
I think sports teaches you many things, and you said it much more eloquently than I could.
Good on you for coaching!!!!



Travis you mentioned the wind. I hate it too but f...

2008-05-01T19:57:00.000-05:00

Travis you mentioned the wind. I hate it too but finally, after all these years, found something it is good for.

Since when have you been on an airline flight that was ahead of schedule?

Yesterday I came into Amarillo on a flight from Las Vegas and a tail wind blew us into Amarillo 45 minutes early! What a surprise!
BUT still had to wait--my teenager was picking me up and of course is never on time!

My book review is posted for tomorrow.



Keeping score is important. We learn a lot about o...

2008-05-01T18:24:00.000-05:00

Keeping score is important. We learn a lot about ourselves and others by how we/they win, lose, place or draw.



idiots. keep score. even if the adults aren't th...

2008-05-01T16:58:00.000-05:00

idiots. keep score. even if the adults aren't the kiddos know who won.



I had to come back to mention a weird coincidence....

2008-05-01T16:27:00.000-05:00

I had to come back to mention a weird coincidence. I started a book last night by James Reasoner called "Texas Wind," and then I saw your post today. Later when I got toward the end of that book I found the following bit of dialogue:

"Maybe it's the wind."
"The Wind?"
"Yes, this damned Texas Wind. It blows all the time.... It blows all the good things away."

A truly excellent book btw. By a writer down your way.



The Kids know is right on. I believe score should...

2008-05-01T14:07:00.000-05:00

The Kids know is right on. I believe score should be kept for anything like a game between teams. If a team loses they should be taught to lose gracefully and that the loss does not reflect on them as a bad person. Similarly, the winners need to win gracefully and not crow and brag about it. But the score needs to be there. T



Definitely keep score. In life, you don't get a me...

2008-05-01T12:37:00.000-05:00

Definitely keep score. In life, you don't get a medal if you lose and I think its important that kids learn that early on. The grown up world is enough of a shock without having to add this to it as well.

Just like huddlekay said, if you don't know where you did badly you don't have a hope in hell of learning what to improve on.



I'm all for score keeping.. no matter how old. Rea...

2008-05-01T12:12:00.001-05:00

I'm all for score keeping.. no matter how old. Real life.. not coddling.



Thanks for the shout out!!:-)Did you get my email?...

2008-05-01T12:12:00.000-05:00

Thanks for the shout out!!
:-)

Did you get my email? I got one from you, but am worried mine are being directed to a spam filter.



Oh, Travis, don't even get me started this morning...

2008-05-01T09:00:00.000-05:00

Oh, Travis, don't even get me started this morning. This whole shift toward not keeping score - in sports and in grades now - burns me to no end. My nephew's school did away with the honor roll because they didn't want the poorer students to feel bad they weren't on it. Some schools are doing away with valedictorians. I agree some parents are psycho about these things (on both the winning and the losing sides) but competition is necessary. If you never have anything to shoot for - like winning a game, or getting on the honor roll - what's the point of trying?

'Nuff said.



Travis,My grandson (age 5) just started soccer. (Y...

2008-05-01T08:24:00.000-05:00

Travis,

My grandson (age 5) just started soccer. (You knew this would bring out the grandma in me!) they don't keep score but at the end of the first game, my grandson said to his parents. "We lost. They got four goals and we got two."

The next week he called me on the phone to say that his team got three goals and he helped get one of them and, oh yeah, the other team didn't get any.

So I guess the only one's not keeping score are the coaches and parents.

Terrie



Keep Score! I know that in anything in life, wethe...

2008-05-01T08:02:00.000-05:00

Keep Score!

I know that in anything in life, wether at home or at work and definately in my writing, I want to be rewarded-that's always nice-But I want to be rewarded for work that is actually good. If your constantly being told "yes, that's good (or hey you won the game) then there is no drive to do better.

And I believe that there is always room for improvement, no matter who, or how old you are.