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I'm continually amazed with your posts! Thank ...

2011-05-31T12:27:28.713-07:00

I'm continually amazed with your posts! Thank you for putting words to my emotions and rampant thoughts.



I'm always making that same choice to walk away, b...

2008-02-26T15:02:00.000-08:00

I'm always making that same choice to walk away, but it feels so wrong to me, too. My only slim hope is that I've planted a seed that maybe someday will change them. And maybe not even that particular person -- maybe that woman you talked to will mention to a friend the "crazy breastfeeding lady" :) who talked to her, and the friend will start researching and breastfeeding in the future.

True story: About 4-5 years ago, I was on a forum (completely nonparenting-related) with a woman who kept recommending (graciously) natural birth, told about her own experiences in a birthing center, etc., and I felt really attacked and started defending epidurals and saying how insane it was to be a martyr, etc., etc. And then I started doing the research myself, and ended up having a natural birth and being an advocate of nonintervention. I really feel like I should track her down and apologize and thank her for planting that seed, you know? But, since I haven't, she's still feeling like it did no good for her to share her experiences and knowledge.

And so it goes. It's frustrating to feel so right and have no one (seemingly) listen. I think I like the Scott Noelle technique of approaching other (mainstream) parents with an openness, and a willingness to have them not change. That way, I don't start out on the defensive or offensive, just a readiness to hear their story, and then maybe they'll be open to hearing mine. This is my goal, but I'm not there yet.



But how, exactly, do you plant a seed without soun...

2008-02-26T07:05:00.000-08:00

But how, exactly, do you plant a seed without sounding judgmental or rude or whatever? I have so much trouble with that! For example, a woman I know through a friend who just had a baby a few weeks ago had ALL the WRONG info about nursing and I kept telling her it was wrong but she didn't even care enough to actually look for answers herself or listen to me and at least check out what I was saying...and it just felt like my options were to tell her it was HER fault that she "couldn't breastfeed" or to just walk away...so I just walked away. But I wish I could find a better way so maybe next time things would go differently for her and her family.