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thank you Po.

2007-01-31T23:26:00.000-05:00

thank you Po.



Generally a great post with some very sound advice...

2007-01-31T15:26:00.000-05:00

Generally a great post with some very sound advice.

The only thing I'd add is to point out that different people work in different ways. You're right that most people are way too hard on themselves, and would be better off taking a positive approach like the one you outline. But some people just really respond best to "tough love" and a harder line - and if a person realizes that a negative approach is sometimes the best way to motivate themselves (and if they can do it in a controlled fashion that doesn't cause them debilitating confidence issues), then that might be the best approach for them. Sometimes people do have serious demons to face, and they use overly positive rationalizations as a way to avoid doing so.



Those of us who believe in a Creator and Sustainer...

2007-01-31T14:07:00.000-05:00

Those of us who believe in a Creator and Sustainer reluctantly give up the notion of control over the circumstances life brings us.

SIL ends her emails with "Let Go & Let God." :)

A Rebbe of mine used to say that I was pretty good with the "sur mera" aspect of things; it was the "aseh tov" I needed to work on. The falling flat part can be frustrating, especially when you keep on falling; babies are a lot more patient about these things than adults (interestingly enough).

The question becomes how to focus on the progress as opposed to the results (or lack thereof) - in addition to avoiding the "I'm okay, I'm progressing" trap when you should really be getting over the hump.

I still remember a conversation with one of my best friends in Israel. I asked - caringly, nicely - if he was "moving too fast" in how he went from going out and having a good time to suddenly learning many hours a day. He looked at me, thought for a second, and responded (also caringly, nicely) "Do you think you're moving too slow?" It was a fair point. Finding that balance is very hard.



:)

2007-01-31T13:46:00.000-05:00

:)