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Where mothering, writing, playing, gardening, eating, dreaming, yurt-living, and sustainable mountain-living alchemize into something unexpected and magical.



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Comment on A Rainy Day Inspires Memories by Jose Piascik

Tue, 07 Jun 2011 03:08:43 +0000

Thanks on your marvelous posting! I truly enjoyed reading it, you will be a great author.I will be sure to bookmark your blog and will often come back sometime soon. I want to encourage you continue your great posts, have a nice morning!



Comment on On Alfie Kohn and Unconditional Parenting by shaktimama

Thu, 13 May 2010 22:39:39 +0000

Sarah, I'm going to respond to this at my new blog site :). See you over there. I'm also going to repost your comment at that website ... I hope that's okay with you!



Comment on On Alfie Kohn and Unconditional Parenting by sarah

Thu, 13 May 2010 21:42:17 +0000

It sounds wonderful. May I add a "but" or two? The theory of how to deal with a tantrum is all very fine, but what if your child is screaming himself blue in the face and will NOT tolerate a gentle touch, or the sound of your voice, let alone cuddling in bed reading a book together? I'm absolutely 100% against time out, naughty steps, etc - but I do acknowlege that parenting is really hard and complicated work, and it's rare that you can create a beautiful solution to a difficult problem like a tantrumming toddler. Even when you have sympathy for your child and you know what they need, if you've missed the first revving up of the tantrum it may be too late to do anything but leave them safely (not alone, but not intervened with) to wear themselves out. The best remedy is to ensure it doesn't happen in the first place (as much as possible). This of course requires parents to be constantly creative, energised, cheerful, aware, and on the ball. Hey, no worries! ;-) My other but would be that I firmly believe children need boundaries, few choices in the early years, security, a parent's benevolent authority. The world is a scary place for a little person. For example, I don't think a child instinctively knows what it needs to eat, and I also think when you offer them a choice that can be overwhelming, especially when so much of their energy is going into growing and developing and just learning how to be in the world. I had many beautiful ideas when I came into parenthood, I researched it all deeply - and the reality was that I gave my daughter unconditional love but a sympathetic, benevolent authority. I didn't communicate with her about everything, I didn't ask her input with everything, because she would quickly become overwhelmed. (And she would quickly learn to make everything complicated!) I treated her like a child, as well as an individual. And every year I gave her more choices, more freedom. It's just what worked for us in our real life. The parents I really admire are the ones who say no seldom, but when they do they mean it. And they don't make a big deal of things. If their child has had a tantrum, they don't sit down with them and talk it through afterwards. They say cheerfully, "you were sad, you really wanted that cookie," and then they get on with things. Their children tend to be easy going too. I guess this may be part of what crisis counsellors now recognise - the old "chin up and get on with it" attitude is actually more healthy for people who have been through a trauma rather than having them debrief and wade through all their feelings. People who let their feelings just go actually live longer and are happier. Sorry for the long comment! After ten years in the trenches I have quite a few opinions on this subject ;-)



Comment on I have landed … by sarah

Thu, 13 May 2010 06:44:19 +0000

I have been tempted myself to come over here, as they offer such interesting things - but I've been a wordpress blogger before and I remember how frustrating it was to not be able to alter my template. And my photoblog is on wordpress and sometimes I cant even get the dashboard to open for me. I'm sorry I can't help you with your comments problem. But I will put your new address on my Google Reader :-)



Comment on Hands Create by mamacelle

Wed, 12 May 2010 22:57:23 +0000

Nothing very interesting as far as the comments removed; just my sweetie checking to see whether he could comment on my blog :). I noticed a lot of other blogspots wouldn't let me post comments and were sending me error messages. The first couple of time he couldn't, actually. Dish soap is so easy to make! I used 2 cups of Dr. Bronner's Eucalyptus Castile Soap and 1/2 cup of warm water. You could probably add a little more water and essential oils for fragrance. As for deodorant, I used 5-6 tablespoons of coconut oil, 1/4 cup cornstarch, 1/4 baking powder. I melted the coconut oil on the stovetop ... this made the mixing with cornstarch and baking powder much easier. Experiment until you get the right consistency. It'll harden within half-an-hour or so. The coconut oil is especially cool because it's antibacterial :). Let me know how it works out for you!



Comment on Hands Create by mamacelle

Wed, 12 May 2010 22:48:42 +0000

Sarah, thank you! I'm really not usually so productive, so it feels good now and then to boast when I AM productive ;).



Comment on What I Fell In Love With On Mother’s Day by Juliana Crespo

Wed, 12 May 2010 21:38:52 +0000

Thank you, Sarah! Your days always sound perfect, too :).



Comment on Hands Create by Jennie

Wed, 12 May 2010 15:08:59 +0000

Ooooooh I'm so terrible, I always wonder what I missed when I see comments have been removed...:-PWhat did you use for your deodorant? I made some last year and really love it, but it's just a simple powder deodorant made with corn starch and baking soda and some lavender and neem.I really want to try some dish soap next, care to share that recipe? :-)



Comment on Hands Create by sarah

Wed, 12 May 2010 04:32:27 +0000

Wow, so productive! I'm impressed.



Comment on It’s All Really Shifting Now by Juliana Crespo

Wed, 12 May 2010 04:18:20 +0000

Jennie and Madcap, thank you so much! I have to say I am a little proud of myself for walking away, especially because I do have a tendency to be a wimp sometimes! Jennie, I know what you mean about people really wanting to avoid rocking the boat ... how things change when you have children and your values crystallize!