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"...That last part, the part I highlighted in...

2014-01-05T10:52:28.621-06:00

"...That last part, the part I highlighted in bold text? I think that's a crucial thing to understand, but I'm not sure children are the ones who most urgently need remedial lessons in it.

"Failing to grasp that someone without language will still have needs, and will use whatever other means of communication they have to try to call other people's attention to their need, underlies a lot of the most abusive, callous treatment of developmentally disabled people by their caregivers.

"Accordingly, I'd love to see a similar empathy-building program for would-be paraprofessionals, special-ed teachers, home health aides, etc..."

Good points!

Also, what if the training was given BOTH to today's would-be paraprofessionals, special-ed teachers, home health aides, etc. AND to today's children (who include the future's would-be paraprofessionals, special-ed teachers, home health aides, etc.)?

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2010-05-31T11:55:15.019-05:00

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I'm no expert, but the little bit of bullying ...

2010-05-29T09:29:35.992-05:00

I'm no expert, but the little bit of bullying I've been able to observe (as someone other than the victim) seems to me to come from a bully who has been previously victimized themself.

Sort of like 'my boss yelled at me so I came home and kicked the dog'. But also, like 'when my Dad wants to feel better he beats me up, so if I beat up someone else I will feel better too.'

Bullying appears to perhaps have some things in common with the dominance/submission dynamic that some people find sexually or emotionally fulfilling ... and many do not enjoy at all.



God, you are brilliant. I am so thrilled to have ...

2010-05-27T10:19:18.131-05:00

God, you are brilliant. I am so thrilled to have found your blog!

The ability to empathize doesn't make a person nicer. So much of bullying, especially girl games, I think, are about exploring and enjoying power. Way, way back at University, I was involved in a relationship that was completely centred around emotional manipulation (thankfully on both sides or I'd hate myself no end). Looking back, I'm horribly embarrassed, but at the time it was like a drug -- how much can I hurt you and still make you love me? Empathy was just used to better examine outcomes.

I have no problem with teaching emotional intelligence in schools, but for bullying, I'd prefer to see more oversight generally and more protection of vulnerable kids.



Good post. I especially liked the last paragraph. ...

2010-05-27T06:33:01.648-05:00

Good post. I especially liked the last paragraph.

This reminds me of some research that was done on the west coast of the US by two marriage counsellors. (Sorry I can't remember their names.)

They hooked couples with a history of domestic violence up to stress measurement devices and monitored them when they had arguments in therapeutic sessions.

They found that 90% of the men who became verbally abusive (and who were physically abusive outside therapy) got more agitated as they got more aggressive: they were aggressive because they were agitated.

But the other 10% actually became calmer - they were pretending to be angry to control the other person, rather than lashing out.

The researchers referred to the two groups as pit bulls and cobras.

Some bullies are like the cobras in they do know exactly what they are doing and are doing it for kicks. Probably many are either ignorant of the harm they do or are upset.

I can see this empathy training preventing pit bull bullying, but as you say here, it's not going to help if people can't see the harm, and it's not going to help with the cobras. Though there's a chance it may prevent some people from becoming cobras. I'm not sure what the critical age range for the transition is, though I know a lot of psychopaths are there by puberty.



OMG, that's so brilliantly said!

2010-05-27T03:05:06.145-05:00

OMG, that's so brilliantly said!