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Updated: 2018-04-23T03:08:37.875-04:00

 



Great post. It's always nice to know you'r...

2010-12-16T11:03:16.914-05:00

Great post. It's always nice to know you're not alone. We've got a 6 month old and I find I focus on her way more than my marriage.

Found you thru Twitter talking about Blissdom today!



OK - this is a post I missed and I hate that I did...

2010-03-23T17:45:41.147-04:00

OK - this is a post I missed and I hate that I did.
I just saw it reposted on twitter and ran over to read. I'm sharing it with Preacher T tonight. We are not married and have only been dating for 4 months... but he IS the love of my life no doubt. (and we will likely marry... sooner than later!)
We recently had our first "disagreement/misunderstanding" We came through it ok - but I know it's because we both understand that there will be issues and we WILL have to WORK to get through them.

I LOVE this post!!!
thanks for sharing :)



Oh hunny I was there to! Those non-sleeping kids, ...

2010-03-19T09:29:14.542-04:00

Oh hunny I was there to! Those non-sleeping kids, and that post baby bod, and the PPD....Love/marriage is work, you need to work at it. Movies make up think it's all easy, if it's love it will be easy don't they? I think true love is hard, that's how you know it's real!



Well, where I am it's technically still Thursd...

2010-03-19T01:31:39.076-04:00

Well, where I am it's technically still Thursday and you did say I could post on Thursday. Haha. Better late than never I suppose.

I want to say thank you because, even though it's incredibly lengthy and I know that like NO ONE is going to read it, I love writing this. :)



I really love this "pour your heart out"...

2010-03-19T00:19:22.582-04:00

I really love this "pour your heart out" idea. I think having an open forum for frank posts about love, marriage, motherhood, etc...will help many women realize perfection isn't something women have to have in order to be successful. I for one am tired of those women who continue to perpetuate the myth that everything is perfect and "I can manage career, marriage, motherhood, friends, yoga, hobbies and blowjobs no problem."

BRAVO Shell!



I just wish we were all more open/honest with each...

2010-03-18T17:02:18.253-04:00

I just wish we were all more open/honest with each other about our marriages and then we all wouldn't feel so alone when we're struggling.

I also agree counseling is THE BEST. we've done it before, and I think we'll be having to do some more again soon. We've been married over 8 years now and I hope we have many more ahead, but unless we keep the communication open, we don't have a chance. Marriage takes work and effort like anything else....

Great post, Shell!



What great participation. It is good to talk about...

2010-03-18T14:52:20.736-04:00

What great participation. It is good to talk about marriages hitting rough points and what it takes to get over them. My husband and I counsel a number of marriages because of our role in church; however, we also have had counseling too.



I LOVE this idea...I am too late for this week. It...

2010-03-18T12:33:28.718-04:00

I LOVE this idea...I am too late for this week. It really spoke to me..

"For Hubs and I, we went from being a spontaneous couple who had a lot of fun to Hubs freaking out over supporting us, a baby who refused to sleep for longer than 2 hours in a row for the first 6 months of his life, and me feeling lost because I no longer had friends around, and I wasn't working any more. And then later, we had a huge move and job stress (no baby for us - we would have been done for)."

That was us 5ish years ago. I became the crap catcher for all the work frustration, and we had just had a major incident with my family. It sucked. We worked through it...we moved and it turned out to be the best thing for us. We'll hit 13 years this year (yikes that makes me sound old). I have told hubby however I will not be the crapcatcher anymore.

I am going to mark my calendar for these posts.



Oh, I love this idea and the fact that you did pou...

2010-03-18T07:08:39.044-04:00

Oh, I love this idea and the fact that you did pour your heart out in this post. When people let their guards down instead of putting on an act, this is when we can really start to connect.
Any married couple that would say they have "the perfect life" no bumps in the road, no blips on the radar...these are the peeps that aren't being truthful. Mostly to themselves. We've all had issues and they've made us stronger in the end!



Oh, I love this idea and the fact that you did pou...

2010-03-18T07:08:27.827-04:00

Oh, I love this idea and the fact that you did pour your heart out in this post. When people let their guards down instead of putting on an act, this is when we can really start to connect.
Any married couple that would say they have "the perfect life" no bumps in the road, no blips on the radar...these are the peeps that aren't being truthful. Mostly to themselves. We've all had issues and they've made us stronger in the end!



I just saw this meme on a few other blogs and I...

2010-03-17T23:14:16.371-04:00

I just saw this meme on a few other blogs and I'm bummed I missed out on the first edition. But I'll link up next week for sure.

Thank you for sharing such a personal experience with us. Marriage is such hard work...Tim and I have had our fair share of difficulties. It's usually me who wants to just throw it all away and give up. He's always convinced me that our marriage is worth putting in the effort, when all is said and done.

It's definitely comforting to know that other couples go through similar things. I wonder why we feel we need to be so strong all the time about something that really shouldn't be so taboo to talk about with true friends.



The only married people who haven't had rough ...

2010-03-17T22:49:08.681-04:00

The only married people who haven't had rough patches are lying or are still on their honeymoons.

I love you for telling it like it is. There is too much bs/paint a pretty picture in the blogosphere and in daily interaction with the Motherbitches.



OH - I would love to pour my heart out - but I can...

2010-03-17T22:04:39.770-04:00

OH - I would love to pour my heart out - but I cannot on my blog - see I feel like I have a blog stalker - she recenlty changed the name of her blog to almost the same as my private one and when I write a post she writes something nearly like it - she is related - somewhat but I barely know her - it is a little freaky.



Marriage is hard. Besides being a mother I have to...

2010-03-17T22:01:41.200-04:00

Marriage is hard. Besides being a mother I have to say that being a wife is hard--these two are so so hard. And, yep, they take work. Sometimes more work than other times, but when we were going through one of our rough patches I had to sit down. And picture my life without him.

And it was awful. I hated even thinking that...and made me start working that much harder to make it work.

Heart you chica. xoxo



I really appreciate this idea! Its so important t...

2010-03-17T21:02:45.773-04:00

I really appreciate this idea! Its so important to have somewhere to release feelings.



My husband and I have definitely lived through som...

2010-03-17T20:54:13.178-04:00

My husband and I have definitely lived through some STRESS together, and learned that if we want this marriage to work we have to fight for it! It isn't a fairytale movie, and we don't always agree....but it is worth it to work thorough those issues to have all the great things!



I love your post. I always say- Breaking up is the...

2010-03-17T20:53:29.768-04:00

I love your post. I always say-
Breaking up is the easy thing to do.
Staying together is the hard thing and it takes hard elbow grease work at times but it is all worth it.

OH and PICK YOUR BATTLES!

I will play next week,the last few weeks have been hectic and I'm working on taking care of a few things so I can have peace.



This is a great post. I've been in your spot ...

2010-03-17T20:38:31.233-04:00

This is a great post.

I've been in your spot where I've looked at other couples and wanted their perfect marriage, when in fact I knew nothing of what their marriage was like behind the scenes.

Marriage does take work and if both halves are willing to put in the effort, marriage can be a wonderful thing. My husband and I have come back from some pretty low places as well.

I don't understand why some women feel the need to always appear strong, when in fact they have demons they are dealing with. I can be one of those women.



First off, Happy Anniversary! And I SO understand ...

2010-03-17T20:09:37.985-04:00

First off, Happy Anniversary! And I SO understand the part about growing the hell up. We waited 6 years to have kids. If we'd had our chicas when we were first married, we'd either be divorced or alcoholics...take your pick!



Pre-marital class made me realize that I should NO...

2010-03-17T19:54:09.598-04:00

Pre-marital class made me realize that I should NOT marry my ex - but it took me a while after that before I finally called off the engagement. So I think those classes really do provide some insight!

Marriage is definetly work. But with some work, a lot of faith, and love it can be strong and totally worth it!

Congrat's on the good turnout for you first Meme! Wish I could've participated! Maybe I will write something insightful tomorrow and link up! ;-)



This was a great idea for a meme...really...seriou...

2010-03-17T19:11:40.773-04:00

This was a great idea for a meme...really...seriously. But I can't add much other than...this is exactly where I am at the moment...the "not knowing if we'll make it" spot.
It sucks...
It's depressing...
and well....that's just about it. Wish I saw this earlier, I would have played along :)



There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Tho...

2010-03-17T18:34:42.868-04:00

There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Those of us who have been with our significant other for more than 5 years realize this. There WILL be ups and downs. I personally don't think it's a healthy relationship if there ISN'T ups and downs!

I had a hard time with my post today. I started and stopped then started over again numerous times so I ended up using part of my post from Sunday... Will try to be original next week!



I think if someone past newlywed says they've ...

2010-03-17T18:12:41.546-04:00

I think if someone past newlywed says they've never had problems, they are probably lying. We had premarital counseling and it helped a lot, but there've still been some bumps in the road. I too, think we're better for it though.



I truly hear what you are saying. Marriage isn...

2010-03-17T17:47:03.205-04:00

I truly hear what you are saying. Marriage isn't easy! It is always a work in progress. My hubby and I are pretty close but we do go through our ups and downs. I know so many friends who have just given up. It's an easy out. But when the next guy comes along it will be the exact same problems and issues.



I would love to respond to this and join in tomorr...

2010-03-17T17:29:29.026-04:00

I would love to respond to this and join in tomorrow instead of today if that's okay? I have waayy too much going on on Wednesdays (at the blog and at home) Haha. But tomorrow is Thursday, which at my blog is TTFY (take time for yourself) Day, where I try to pour my heart out anyways. Haha.