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Cracking Up door Joan Komlosy

Sun, 14 Sep 2008 06:24:49 -0400

(image) GreyHead's review: "a vague and inconclusive journal of one woman's problems"

The Godfather's Revenge door Mark Winegardner

Wed, 19 Nov 2008 10:15:33 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "Too many words, not enough plot. "

One False Move door Harlan Coben

Tue, 19 Aug 2008 06:03:30 -0400

(image) GreyHead's review: "crime,"

Sepulchre door Kate Mosse

Sat, 09 Feb 2008 07:26:23 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "A mediocre plot with far too many irrelevant threads. Debussy keeps on popping up for no reason that I could see. The plot itself is based on a fantastical coincidence and the characters are thin sketches without apparent motivation. The wrtiing is peppered with 'clever' references and phrases in French or Occidental that don't really fit (and in one case are just plain wrong). That said, it's not a bad read for a hot summer's day and I kept turning the pages."

The Rainbow Machine: Tales from a Neurolinguist's Journal door Andrew T. Austin

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 04:51:24 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "A fascinating book of amusing and sometimes outrageous vignettes, using NLP language patterns, submodalities and what one might call 'NLP Provocative Therapy'. A delightful collection of stories, thought pieces, and teaching that cast light into what NLP has to offer the field of psychotherapy and psychiatry. If you have an interest in the field, it will give you insights; if you have no interest, then read it just to enjoy the inevitable laughter. Quote from the back cover ghost written by GreyHead"

The Impressionist door Hari Kunzru

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 03:14:28 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "I thoroughly enjoyed the first two-thirds of this book. I thought Kunzru's evocation of early 20th century India and the sketches of the colonial administrators were delightful. In the last third where he got into life at Oxford and beyond the picture he created became more and more sketchy and less and less credible. My sense was that he was desperately trying to close a circle when his story wanted to go off in a different direction. Disappointing."

How to Resolve Conflict in the Workplace door Hoda Lacey

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 05:04:25 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "Hoda clearly knows her subject and has written a good book on it. Whether it merits Gower’s £42.50 price tag is more difficult to decide. Personally, I doubt I’d pay that much unless I was working mainly in conflict resolution. She says that she wrote the book because "conflict has been all around me since I grew up in the Middle East of mixed parentage, culture and religion. . . . I have observed the impact of conflicts at work and the toll it takes on people." The book draws on the work of The Conflict Resolution Network (Hoda manages the UK branch) and on NLP weaving the two together with many models from the more academic approaches to conflict. These academic overtones are doubtless due to the book having been partly inspired by Hoda’s Action Learning Set at Middlesex University (also my current place of study). I’m not clear that they help completely and sometimes I had the sense that there is a thesis and a handbook interwoven. The book is in three parts: ‘The Nature of Conflict’ in which Hoda explores some of the background to the field including learning, making meaning and multiple levels; “The Skills of Conflict Resolution” covers practical tools from the Harvard ‘win-win’ model through familiar NLP tools; lastly “The Tools of Conflict Resolution” explore mapping to gather information and mediation to work towards resolution. If your work or research is in conflict resolution, mediation, or a related field then you’ll find this a treasure trove. If you are a casual reader then you may want to browse a copy in a library before forking out. Gower 2000. Hardback; 209 pages; £42.50"

Wonderful Life: Burgess Shale and the Nature of History (Penguin Science) door Stephen Jay Gould

Thu, 03 Nov 2005 09:07:40 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "Apart from being an outstanding scientific essayist Stephen Jay Gould has also been a strong contributor to the development (and debates) of neo-Darwinistic evolutionary theory. In this book he looks at the way in which his scientific colleagues and predecessors have been prejudiced in their findings from the remarkable fossils of the Burgess Shale by the paradigms in which they lived and worked. (See, in particular, The Iconography of an Expectation). It remains a salutary lesson to all of us in the awareness of what NLP terms filters and the effect they can have. I also find that his arguments for the ‘historical science’ as a sister to ‘scientific method’ had strong reminiscences of the arguments that surround the acceptance of NLP as a psychological model. But that’s too much to explore here and now. "

Consciousness Explained door Daniel C. Dennett

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 02:56:38 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "Mini-review: This is not a book about NLP, and I doubt that the author has ever heard of NLP. Yet his thesis of the ‘mechanism of mind’ and of the how consciousness might work is, in my opinion, another significant piece in the jig-saw that links the NLP model with what might be called ‘more mainstream’ philosophy and, perhaps, ‘psychology’ though this book is definitely in the former class."

The evolution of cooperation door Robert M Axelrod

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 02:56:25 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "Robert Axelrod is a political scientist who became intrigued with an old problem known as The Prisoner’s Dilemma. (In one example two prisoners are each told that they will get a reward if they tell on the other. If neither confesses, there’s no change; if both tell, then both get another month in jail, if one tells and the other doesn’t then the sentences are lengthened and shortened by three months each.) The prisoner’s dilemma becomes especially interesting when it is repeated so there is a pattern of interaction between the two prisoners. Have a look at the pattern of rewards and work out what you might do? Axelrod had the idea of inviting a range of people from different disciplines to submit their suggestions for ‘winning strategies’. He then set them off to play against each other to see which ones came off best in a long series of repetitions. Surprisingly, the ‘best’ strategy was a very simple one known as ‘tit for tat’, which cooperated until the other side defected when it immediately defected once then continued to cooperate. I won’t spoil the story of why it was so successful or of the translation of this simple idea into the real-world political arena. That is Robert Axelrod’s story and he tells it well. Have a look at this and you may choose to add some of the ideas to your negotiations too."

The Mind's I : Fantasies and Reflections on Self and Soul door Douglas R Hofstadter (Ed)

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 02:54:19 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "From Fluid Concepts and Creative Analogies I was led back to the copy of The Mind’s I that had stood unread (and thought unapproachable) for several years. This composition and arrangement (their words) by Hofstadter and Dennett brings together two of the foremost thinkers and explorers of ideas about consciousness and thus about subjective experience. Whilst Hofstadter, as we have seen, approaches from the perspective of Artificial Intelligence (with added philosophy), Dennett leads from the philosophical perspective (his Consciousness Explained is briefly reviewed here). The book is in six sections: A Sense of Self; Soul Searching; From Hardware to Software; Mind as Program; Created Selves and Free Will; The Inner Eye. Each section has a handful of essays or extracts illuminating the topic of the section followed by brief reflections by one of the two arrangers. The purpose of the book is, I believe, to enlarge the map of thought in this area and gently provoke the testing of assumptions, beliefs and values. In this ambition I think you will find it succeeds and, as an added bonus, many of the selections are quite delightful on their own rights. Good reading for an autumn evening or six."

Staying well with the gentle art of verbal self-defense door Suzette Haden Elgin

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 02:52:30 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "Application again, this time to mental and physical well-being:“Suzette Haden Elgin shows you how her revolutionary system of language behaviour can guide you to better health and help you:Overcome stress-building hostility and develop strong social support networksDefuse tension, minimize conflict, and increase peace of mind.Replace harmful negative thinking with healthful positive thinkingPerceive yourself as someone in control rather than as a victim“In addition, you’ll discover several simple techniques to help you feel in control over painful symptoms. You’ll also see why your body’s natural painkillers are more effective than any pain pill could be.”"

Success With the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense door Suzette Haden Elgin

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 02:52:27 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "Now we shift straight into applications of the basic techniques, though each book is pretty much self-contained and covers the basic material yet again, in this case in a couple of introductory chapters and a short appendix. The framework now changes too: the chapters are less in the form of smooth narrative but split up with scenarios to set the scene, chunks of theory, notes to amplify and work-outs to close. Semantic analysis is introduced ~ how to understand the characteristics that words have attached to them, and how they may differ from person to person. Then we are into Domains ~ areas of life where different linguistic or power rules may apply. Suzette distinguishes: Game, Business/Professional; Time and Space; Public Relations; and Personal. The Game domain is perhaps more typically American than English, I rather think that we have a more pervasive military metaphor here instead of the American Sporting model. The book then looks at the particular use of The Gentle Art in each of these domains. I have no easy way of summarising the content ~ suffice it to say that we all spend so much of our lives in these domains that if you only ever look at one of Suzette’s books then it should probably be this one."

More on the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense door Suzette Haden Elgin

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 02:52:22 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "This volume takes the basic principles of The Gentle Art and, whilst still focused on confrontation, extends them beyond the one-on-one inter-action to other language situations."

The Last Word on the Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense door Suzette Haden Elgin

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 02:52:17 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "The third volume in the basic trilogy, here we revisit much of the same ground as the first two volumes but at a different level, rather than emergency first aid, where the imperative is to stop the bleeding and make the patient safe, we are now understanding some of what lies behind the basic patterns. Here we are introduced to Syntonics: “a system for putting human beings in touch with one another linguistically so that they are able to communicate with maximum efficiency and effectiveness and satisfaction. It is the science of language harmony.” Perhaps the concept is more familiar in NLP as rapport. More of Satir modes, sensory modes verbal attack patterns and Miller’s Law (“In order to understand what another person is saying, you must assume it is true and try to imagine what it could be true of.”) before we are into the other side of communication with syntonic listening. Language patterns again: nominalisations, presuppositions, Trojan horses, naming, assertion (the three-part “When you x, I feel y, because z.”). Then more on non-verbal communication ~ each time reviewing, re-inforcing and building on the earlier material and offering deeper and richer understanding. A long chapter on “twirks” (the equivalent of making a serious speech wearing a red nose ~ it takes something away from the presentation) followed by thoughts on writing, speeches and on planning communication."

The Gentle Art of Verbal Written Self-Defense : Letters in Response to Triple-F Situations door Suzette Hadin Elgin

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 02:50:49 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "“Ready-to-use model letters to help you to handle delicate situations that result from human flubs, flounderings and frailties.” We are not so used as our American cousins to the practice of letter books from which we can extract the appropriate epistle at the drop of a function key. Never-the-less, there is more than enough material in here to take into our own letters without ever lifting a paragraph directly. The model is to start with a scenario “You’ve made a sexist remark to a visiting V.I.P.”; show a draft letter; analyse the draft paragraph by paragraph, adding in the underlying concepts as they arise; closing with a few more sample letters using addressing the same kind of flub, flounder or frailty. The final ‘bonus’ chapter is on ‘the Gentle Art of crafting a letter as a gift’ ~ in this case a short Christmas story in its own gift wrapping. And, if you do use letters from books, an Appendix has another hundred routine letters samples for you to pick and choose from."

Leadership is an Art door Max De Pree

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 02:42:36 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "Written in 1989 this little book is newly published in the UK. Max De Pree is chairman and CEO of Hermann Miller Inc. (the US furniture manufacturer which brought Charles Eames to your magazines) and the son of the founder. Hermann Miller Inc. has been extraordinarily successful and has operated in a paradigm of leadership and empowerment quite outside the norm for the Western World. The philosophy developed by the Millers is set out here in a chatty home-spun style that never-the-less It also led Peter Drucker to write “… says more about leadership in clearer, more elegant and more convincing language than many of the much longer books …”. I agree."

Businessspeak: Using the Gentle Art of Verbal Persuasion to Get What You Want at Work door Suzette Haden Elgin

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 02:32:53 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "You may remember that back in Rapport 24 I reviewed eight of Suzette’s previous works. She remains an example of the skill of diligently mining her lode and continues to write around the same theme. This book follows the examples of her most recent books on Success, Well-being and Gender and uses the Scenario Analysis model in a business setting. The main difference is that she has taken another shift in the re-frame from ‘Verbal Self-Defense’ to ‘get what you want’. Most of the material is familiar: here are, rapport, rep systems, Satir modes, three-part messages, verbal attack patterns, presuppositions, metaphors, cross-cultural translation, rhetoric and semantic mapping. However, being familiar and being used are not always the same ~ I’m sure that there is in this book, as in the others enough for a year or so’s learning and application. If your field is business, or business related then you might want to choose this point to explore Suzette’s rich understanding "

Flirt Coach door Peta Heskell

Sun, 16 Jul 2006 17:56:01 -0400

(image) GreyHead's review: "I remember Peta Heskell posting in the long defunct Compuserve NLP group around the time of her first NLP training with Richard Bandler. Since then she’s gone on to become a successful writer, trainer and personality – she was the subject of a celebrity interview in The Erotic Review a while back. Her book is well written, very readable, entertaining and informative. And it is basically AITNLP (another introduction to NLP) albeit with a slant towards the ‘Cosmopolitan’ market for sexual empowerment. Delightful, enjoy!"

Gung Ho! Turn On the People in Any Organization door Kenneth Blanchard

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 05:20:47 -0500

(image) GreyHead's review: "This is a good, upbeat book with big print and lots of white spaces. Just what you’d expect from the One Minute Manager writing for the one-hour reader. Still, there’s a nice metaphor (and is it true or is it just a story?). Read about how one man turned around the worst performing factory in the group by paying attention to the people. Nothing to do with NLP, unless you count in the way the book is written and the message it carries"