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Comment on Finding zen on ice by Clint Lalonde

Thu, 19 Oct 2017 16:15:59 +0000

Thanks Colin. Very sorry to hear about your father-in-law. Fully agree with you on the positive power of having kids. Watching them and seeing the joy they take in going through there life brings me a lot of happiness and helps to dispel some of the darkness. My sons knees work much better than mine and I love seeing him in full fly on the soccer pitch.



Comment on Finding zen on ice by Colin

Thu, 19 Oct 2017 02:39:05 +0000

Sorry to hear about your dad, Clint. My father-in-law, once a very outgoing leader with a sharp mind has been declining for a few years. Doctors found evidence of some past strokes that went undetected and have recently diagnosed him with Parkinson's. It's hard to watch, especially for my MiL and wife. That, combined with the fact that I can't run right now with sore knees and an angry piriformis are pretty sure signs that I'm not 20 anymore. On the other side of the coin, my brother became a grandfather yesterday, and my son is getting married next summer. So there's that more positive reminder that I'm not 20 anymore...I guess.






Comment on In a world completely possessed by the human mind by Heather M. Ross

Wed, 20 Sep 2017 17:18:53 +0000

My thoughts are with you and your family as you go through this. Cancer is the stalker in our family. It took my great-grandmother, my grandmother, my aunt, my brother, all too young, and has touched my mom. I've had to stop myself from thinking that every pain or some passing fatigue is something nefarious. If I don't, it will paralyze me and take my life away through the worrying instead of letting me live all the time I have left. Easy to say, not always easy to do.



Comment on In a world completely possessed by the human mind by Clint Lalonde

Tue, 19 Sep 2017 18:56:24 +0000

Thanks Erin. I think I may have to aggressively up my dog walking therapy as a coping strategy. Or at least to keep up with your step counts in the work walking competition :)



Comment on In a world completely possessed by the human mind by Clint Lalonde

Tue, 19 Sep 2017 18:54:27 +0000

Thanks Brian. Coming from someone who has recently gone through a tough period, I take your advice of self-care to heart...especially in a time when it does feel like the wide world is going to shit and existential angst is extracting a larger mental toll.



Comment on In a world completely possessed by the human mind by Erin Beattie

Mon, 18 Sep 2017 17:19:05 +0000

Clint, this is such a beautifully written and raw post - thank you for sharing it with me (and all your other readers). Sending love and strength as you navigate down this very difficult path.



Comment on In a world completely possessed by the human mind by Brian

Sun, 17 Sep 2017 18:11:57 +0000

Clint - I too want to express my sympathy and concern. You share so much so bravely here... it is impossible to capture the depths of pain and uncertainty but credit to you for doing your best to face them. And of course I wish you and your family the best in working through the months and years ahead. I'm wholly unqualified to even speculate on what you report experiencing personally. And our generation is reaching point where bad stuff happens more frequently. But I hope you can find a way to cut some slack for yourself even as you give so much to the people around you. By all means, take your health seriously, but a lot of the troubling symptoms you report about yourself could be triggered by things like stress, lack of sleep, and just feeling overwhelmed by the many things you are expected to handle. It doesn't help when the wider world seems to be going batshit as well. Speaking for myself, after my father's death this past spring I definitely experienced a decline in my ability to function effectively through the summer, and struggled to meet both my professional and personal obligations. I'm doing better now, but am certainly not "over it". There are those weird cycles where being distracted or unsettled result in fuck-ups, and a whole new wave of problems to deal with... (and self-recriminations besides). And sometimes we just aren't good enough at offering understanding to those around us. People who say "I'm so sorry, let me know how I can help" can be saying "what's your problem?" a few weeks later. Of course, those people are likely dealing with their own pains and crises as well. I wish I could find the wisdom to "deal" with the struggles I see so many going through. All I have instead is a sense of helplessness. I've always thought you were a kind and compassionate person, I just hope you have enough of those qualities to spare a little for yourself.



Comment on In a world completely possessed by the human mind by Clint Lalonde

Sun, 17 Sep 2017 15:44:06 +0000

Thanks Alan. In a lot of ways, this post is a result of how I have read and watched you handle, with such great love and respect, the legacy of both your mom and dad. I have loved how you have taken such care to document them both and your feelings as you reconcile their lives with yours. Enjoy the moment with the ones you have. It really is sound advice for a good life. One thing I have noticed is that, as a father, the idea of slipping into this grey are between life and death - that slow decline, scares me more and more as I realize there is so much I want to do be fully capable of doing with my kids. My son and I have a European soccer tour on our bucket list, and my daughter and I both want to see the Eiffel tower. My Dad had, for many years, talked about traveling as his retirement plan & now it is likely too late for him to do that. So, I need to work on making those things happen while I can.



Comment on In a world completely possessed by the human mind by D’Arcy Norman

Sun, 17 Sep 2017 15:34:48 +0000

I talked about this with Janice over breakfast this morning. She told me that I remember the important stuff, and that’s what matters. I’m not sure I agree. Whatever. It’s not like there’s anything that can be done - we play the cards we’re dealt.