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Updated: 2011-11-01T10:05:51.746-06:00

 



"It's hard to continue work that no one else seems...

2008-07-29T14:20:00.000-06:00

"It's hard to continue work that no one else seems to find meaningful."

Amen, sister.

Btw, I discovered your blog when I typed "how am I ever going to finish this dissertation?" into Google, and yours was the first that popped up!



Thanks to everyone for your comments and support!

2006-02-11T22:00:00.000-07:00

Thanks to everyone for your comments and support!



Trillwing -- Just a note to say that I followed th...

2006-02-11T11:32:00.000-07:00

Trillwing -- Just a note to say that I followed the link from your recent post on my blog to discover your blog, and that I've just had a lovely procrastination session by reading your archives. I'm delighted to have found your blog!

Re: the dissertation. Yep, the final months are hell, and there seems to be no way around that (or at least none that I've heard of). I think NK is right; time to worry about the job market once you're done with the diss., so I'd put that right out of your head.

I'm feeling guilty for what I'm about to say, but here goes: I'd disagree with articulatedad about dreaming and thinking what you want your life work to mean. Don't get me wrong -- I think it's great life advice! But I don't think that's how people get through the last few months of writing the dissertation. I think those months are all about "put one foot in front of the other" and just slog right on through, accepting the fact that it's ultimately going to be pretty crappy (and then the final result is often not nearly as crappy as you feared!). And since you've got a great family, you're probably not in danger of losing touch with what's really important anyway.



Wow. And here I am, eagerly anticipating that day...

2006-02-11T11:20:00.000-07:00

Wow. And here I am, eagerly anticipating that day when I'm out of the Coursework from Hell and past the comps, so that I can get to work on the dissertation. (I think I've gotten to this place where I think fondly of the days in which I was writing my thesis. Whereas, if you actually read what I was blogging during those days, not so much. And multiply that isolation and that "It took me a month to write ten pages" into a dissertation?)

But I'm sending you hugs, and I hope that this dissertation can just be over with soon, and that you also get a break soon. Go, Trillwing!



Ahhh. I'd say, I'm so sorry you're going through t...

2006-02-11T09:28:00.000-07:00

Ahhh. I'd say, I'm so sorry you're going through this. But, honestly, if you weren't going through this, you wouldn't be writing a dissertation, at least not one that you cared about (despite the stages you reference).

It is hard, damn it. And it is isolating. There's no doubt about it. New Kid on the Hallway is right. Don't think about the job search. Don't worry about the job search. It's irrelevant! Really.

Sure write those applications for jobs or grants or what have you. Send them off, then forget them.

But, take a minute, or an hour, or a weekend. And just stop! Stop writing, stop worrying. Plan a nice date with Mr. Trillwing, whatever it takes. Have dinner, and some wine, and look at the stars. And gaze into his eyes, and talk about where you both want to be in five years or ten. Screw tomorrow. Whether you like it or not, tomorrow will come. (I just posted a special poem just for you, on my blog.)

Don't focus on the dissertation. It's Xeno's paradox writ large. You can't get there if you keep trying to get just one more half done. Let it go. It won't go anywhere. It'll wait there just for you.

The point is, it's not in charge. Here, mom, think of this: my #1 would always hold his pee until he was ready to explode. He wanted to be in control. Then, one day, I explained that he wasn't in control when he did that, the pee was. :)

Don't let the dissertation, or your worries of tomorrow or next year sap you. You're so much more than that. Dream a little. Remember why you are doing this, and what you want your life work to mean. Then, when you're ready, get back to it. The only meanigful deadlines are the ones you impose on yourself.

Your dissertation? It's just a little paper. You'll finish it. And when you look at TCTRTBC, remember, it's okay to throw it out, or most of it, or some of it. Maybe it doesn't need to be there anyway. It can be a book or an article later.

You're good. Just remember to breath (and get hugs -- they're essential).



LOL at Mr. Trillwing's comment!But seriously - yes...

2006-02-11T08:56:00.000-07:00

LOL at Mr. Trillwing's comment!

But seriously - yes, dissertating sucks hugely. I just wanted to say, don't get discouraged by the job market stuff at this point. It's such an amazing crapshoot, and there are so many places that just toss all ABDs out of their application pile, that I don't think you should take this year's experience as representative of your job market destiny.

(And anti-depressants are great!)



I'm always proud of you, honey. You had me at "Arg...

2006-02-11T02:17:00.000-07:00

I'm always proud of you, honey. You had me at "Argh. Argh. Argh."