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Magnetic Matrimony -- My Journey as Part of a Serodiscordant Couple

Magnetic Mama is a 27-year-old psychologist and the uninfected half of a magnetic couple (i.e., her husband is HIV positive). She is not revealing her name in order to protect the confidentiality of her husband who is not open about his status. German by


What They Say Is True: You Do Have to Go There to Come Back

Thu, 2 Dec 2010 19:55:00 GMT

When I was asked to write a wrap-up blog my first thought was: Well that's just silly. It's still aaaages till the end of the year. That clearly shows just how out of touch with time (and maybe a little bit of reality) I have drifted. I returned to South Africa nearly three months ago and it almost feels like I never left. My travels, the experiences and wonderfulnesses I experienced feel a little like a beautiful but distant dream to me now.

I started off in London in January, where I met two people who were both part of magnetic couples. From there I went to Thailand, jungle-trekking and island hopping, via Australia and New Zealand to Argentina. Here I spent a whole month not speaking yet strangely still understanding a whole lot of Spanish, climbing a glacier, snorkeling with sea lions and realizing for the first time that HIV doesn't need to dominate my thoughts, my marriage and my life, too. I whizzed through Peru and Bolivia (lots of colours, amazing food and freedom to let my mind and soul truly rest and wander). I was joined by my siblings for the three-week, 7,500-mile road trip through Canada and the U.S., attempted kite surfing in the Dominican Republic and had my aura cleansed on the same day I was scammed out of an airplane ticket in Mexico. All in all a fantastical, life-changing, thought-provoking and liberating journey.

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Changes in Climate, Altitude, Landscape and Perspective

Mon, 24 May 2010 18:32:00 GMT

It has been a long time since my last entry. I won't apologise, because the past few months have been life-changing, mind-blowing, horizon-expanding and at times refreshingly mundane, but I will try and share with you some of the reasons for my hiatus from this blog and contact in general.

Just to backtrack a little, since the diagnosis of my husband (then still boyfriend) in 2006, there had not been a day I had not thought about HIV in one way or another. Sure, it didn't help that I subsequently took on a job in paediatric HIV clinics, where it was unavoidable, but in general, I kind of had the feeling that it was something I, as a partner and loved-one, needed to face head-on. And for a good while, that was the best thing for me; informing myself, confronting my role in this (or what I thought it was), adjusting, supporting and seeking support.

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Three Countries and Six Weeks Later and a World Has Opened Up

Tue, 2 Mar 2010 21:20:00 GMT

After spending a month travelling around Thailand, without a map, guidebook, plan or clue, not thinking about anything yet pondering everything at the same time, I have now arrived in Sydney, Australia, and am ready to re-join the (virtual) world.

Since my first blog post went out a few weeks ago lots of people have got in touch with me and within the space of 48 hours I literally went from feeling isolated and alone to feeling like one of many who potentially felt the same way. It was such a relief!

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Ready or Not, Here I Go!

Thu, 4 Feb 2010 17:55:00 GMT

A few weeks ago I departed from South Africa and with it left behind (albeit temporarily) my job, my husband and the life I'd been accustomed to over the last 5 years. The reason for this is that I was disembarking for a journey. A trip around the world spanning 10 countries over the period of six months in search of ... well, I still haven't figured that one out for sure.

First of all I know that I needed some time out. The question is just from what?

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Starting My New Adventure

Fri, 29 Jan 2010 19:00:00 GMT


Ok, so this is me, Magnetic Mama, welcome to my blog! I am very excited to join the list of bloggers, and I think I might bring a slightly different perspective to the amazing bunch of people already out there. I am the negative i.e. uninfected half of a HIV magnetic couple. In my eyes (err...ears) 'magnetic' sounds so much more positive than serodiscordant because it implies attraction rather than some kind of clash (that's not to say I don't have any of those with my hubby...)

I am fairly new to this form of communication but I have somehow managed to make a Mini-Mama 'WeeMee', which kind of looks like me *burstwithpride*. The reason I am not showing my actual photo is to protect my husband, who is not open about his status and I don't want to inadvertently disclose it by proxy.

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