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Published: Sat, 01 Apr 2017 11:29:36 -0800

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Montreal Weekend Recommendations: 2017 Edition

Sat, 01 Apr 2017 11:29:36 -0800

Bonjour/Hello! Next weekend we'll be heading up to Montreal and I haven't been in over a decade. So what's cool these days? We're staying on St-Denis near des Pins. We live in Bushwick, if that gives you a sense of our taste for hipster-y things: ramen, cocktails, bookstores, cozy bars that are nice to read in. I spent a summer living in Montreal (in ... sheesh, 1999) and visited for years after, so I know some broad strokes but all my "fun places to visit" are definitely out of date. (Is the Plateau even cool any more?) So what are the chill, local places you love?

Thank you. ❤️❤️❤️

Kleenex. Bandaid. Jello.

Tue, 04 Oct 2016 10:44:46 -0800

Please help me brainstorm cases — in all fields and domains — where a brand name has become highly genericized, as with Kleenex for facial tissue. This is for a school-based project but brainstorm help is not contravening the assignment, I promise.

How can I tell if you'll be reliable and not destory my stuff?

Sun, 10 Apr 2016 08:31:45 -0800

I am interviewing subletters for my apartment this summer. While I have rented it out before fully unfurnished, this time I am looking to let it furnished, with just the most worrisome things stored in a locked closet. Have you done something like this? What are your best tricks / questions / etc. for discerning who would treat things the best? Thanks! All of the people I am talking to are either coming to participate in an art program in which I have participated or have been recommended by friends who have vouched for them not being pigs. But I have a new built-in bed / storage / desk pod thing that I would really like to not be damaged. I can't afford for the place to sit empty all summer, so *someone* needs to live here; I know nothing is perfect, and the pod may be damaged, but I am looking for suggestions to figure out who is least likely to do so. Thanks!

Milan & the Italian Lake District in Winter

Mon, 07 Sep 2015 14:03:40 -0800

Is the Italian Lake District still lovely in winter? I'm back! The rehearsal dinner has been solved and now we are onto the honeymoon. We'll be spending ~3 weeks in Europe in January, and we are flying home from Milan. I wanted to go to Milan because of the Prada Foundation, but I am looking for other cool things to do, too. I know people are down on Milan and winter, but I like winter and industrial cities, so I am still bullish. I also enjoy empty tourist locations.

However, I am not sure about going up to the lakes.

My fiance is from Colorado and we spent last Christmas skiing in the Rockies, so cold mountains are a-ok. We won't, however, have a car. Is it worthwhile to train up & ferry about in the winter?

Thanks, Ask. We will send postcards!

Who to Invite to the Rehearsal Dinner

Sun, 23 Aug 2015 16:43:54 -0800

My fiance and I are having a rehearsal dinner difference of opinion, and we are curious what AskMetafilter thinks. He thinks we should invite all the out-of-towners; I think we should not have them for the dinner but for welcome drinks later that night. All manner of details within. We are getting married in Brooklyn this October. There will be about 45 guests, from all over the US. (We've lived in Los Angeles, San Francisco, Seattle, and Denver, in addition to NYC, so lots of folks are flying in.) If we invite all the wedding party, plus all the out-of-towners, to the rehearsal dinner, it will be two-thirds of the wedding guestlist. We have laid out our positions below for the best of Metafilter's responses. :) Me: * It feels weird to have almost the whole wedding the night before. For the wedding itself, there will just be dinner and toasts and hanging out — no dancing. So basically it is the same thing as the wedding minus the people who have the misfortune of living near us. That seems ... exclusive and jerky and repetitive. * Our parents have never met. The rehearsal dinner will be the first time and, frankly, I'd rather that happen with less of an audience. * I won't be able to pay attention to the out-of-towners *anyways* because I will be focused on my parents. I would rather send my parents off to bed and then go to the bar and pay attention to the young people. * Everyone, from all locations, is invited to the welcome drinks. We already have a plan to see them. If we want to spend more to say thanks, we can just cover the bar bill. * We also planned a farewell brunch. Not a lot of out-of-towners are planning to come, but I feel like if they realllllly needed to see more of us, they could have stayed for that. They will all be flying West, so they could definitely take an evening flight and still make it home in the evening. (I do these flights a lot, so I am not just being optimistic.) * I am concerned I will end up doing a ton more work: sending invite emails, getting RSVPs, etc. We are still trying to elicit a few RSVPs two weeks past the deadline (omg were these people raised by wolves). I freely admit here that I am a worrier and planner and he is less so, but I think acknowledging that I am going to end up taking on all this organization as well is only realistic. * I want to actually talk about the ceremony at dinner — we won't have access to the space to practice, so this will be when we have time to plan how everyone will come out, etc. I'd like to do that without worrying about all the other people. Him: * We're inviting a bunch of people to spend a ton of money on plane tickets and hotel rooms in NYC, we should spend as much time with them as possible. * We see local people much much more often, and I can't imagine any of them feeling snubbed. * Out of town people familiar with the custom that out of town people are invited to the rehearsal dinner might (legitimately?) feel snubbed. * We won't be able to stay out for more than an hour and a half at the bar because we'll have to get up early and we won't want to be hung over. * We won't really see much of out of town friends at the wedding because we'll be wrapped up in the ceremony, cake cutting, toasts, and a seated dinner where we'll inevitably be near families. * Only two pairs of out-of-town-ers have signed up for next day brunch, and one of those pairs isn't sure they can make it because of flights. So brunch will be families and local NYC people. Why not have one day of family + out of town friends, one day of everyone, and one day of family + local friends? * I'm making the reservations and doing the planning for the rehearsal dinner, and I don't think it will be thaaaat much more work. Broadcasting the times and plan won't be much harder, and as long as the reservation is for the max number of people and the restaurant is ok with not 100% showing up (which obviously I'll check), everything should be fine. Overall[...]

Wheelchairs at the Airport

Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:03:42 -0800

My fiancé just got his appendix removed and now we're flying to his sister's wedding. (It's been an exciting week.) We leave tomorrow from JFK on Jet Blue and I'm look for advice on navigating the airport with a wheelchair. Will they just have one at the curb? Will I be able to push him or will they insist on having an employee? Any good tricks? Things I might not have though of? Thanks!

Alternative Wedding Officiants in New York

Thu, 04 Jun 2015 06:35:41 -0800

I would like a friend to officiate my wedding, but apparently the state and city of New York have a problem with ULC ministers. Do you have any other suggestions for sites, etc., that will minister-ize folks? I don't want to get married at the courthouse before or after; I want the legal part and the social part to be together. I would like for my friend to be the officiant but even more I want to not spend hundreds of dollars for ten minutes' work. (I don't need someone to write the ceremony or help me figure out my vows or anything. I just need someone approved by the state of NY to stand there while we say our vows so it can be legal.)

This is obviously super frustrating and makes me want to just go to Penn where we can self-solemnize except we already told everyone to come to Brooklyn. Help!

NYC & Real Estate, Condo Owner Edition

Fri, 13 Feb 2015 07:18:40 -0800

Repairs gone bad are destroying my hallway, causing mold that may be getting into my unit and I can't get the board or management company to respond. What else can I do? When do I threaten and then undertake legal action? I own a condo in a building in Brooklyn — top floor. In January, the board had our roof deck ripped out because it was leaking underneath and they wanted to repair the roof once and for all. Great. Except they ripped things out, it stormed, and now it rains inside, right outside my unit. This is not a small leak. About two weeks ago, parts of the ceiling came down and they had the construction guys come cover things a bit on the roof itself. (I think; I was out of town but my boyfriend has been here contacting them.) Since then, nothing has happened. Yesterday it snowed and leaking started up again. This morning there was more drywall on the floor and now I can see mold. Seeing as this is about 2" from my door, I assume the mold is also spreading to my unit.

I email and call every day and get no response. I include pictures. I ask for a plan, to know something is going to happen — and nothing. I am not sure what to do. I have thought about starting to put my maintenance in escrow as well as emailing the entire building (since it is their money that will pay for this negligence in the end).

I have not threatened legal action yet but it is merely a matter of time. I don't want to go to war with my building but I don't want mold even more. Help?

Where in NYC should we go for Thanksgiving dim sum?

Sat, 15 Nov 2014 07:08:26 -0800

We would like to have dim sum for Thanksgiving dinner. There will be 4-8 of us. What are your favorite dim sum places in the city? Thank you! We live here and are fine getting around, going wherever. So no limits! (The city would be easier than going out to say, Flushing, but if it were worth it, we'd go.)

St. Louis Light Rail, Airport to Downtown

Wed, 10 Sep 2014 09:11:57 -0800

Would you take the St. Louis Light Rail from the airport to downtown? I am staying in the hotel made from the old train station and flying into STL. I won't have much in the way of baggage. Reviews on the web have been mixed but I can't tell what is "it is scary because there are brown people" and what is a legit criticism. I live in NYC and have lived in SF, so I am public transit functional, but I also don't want to be the only person on a train with a bunch of drunks (if that is even a problem).

If yes, is there anything else I should know / keep in mind?