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Updated: 2017-06-19T22:25:36.577-07:00

 



Thanks Rebecca!

2017-06-19T22:25:36.577-07:00

Thanks Rebecca!



Here is the link. I quoted from the end of the art...

2017-06-19T21:35:02.720-07:00

Here is the link. I quoted from the end of the article: http://nogreaterjoy.org/articles/abusive-husband/



forgot to tick the notify me box so doing it now. ...

2017-06-18T16:03:42.154-07:00

forgot to tick the notify me box so doing it now.



Hi Rebecca, where did Michael Pearl say that? Can ...

2017-06-18T16:03:12.799-07:00

Hi Rebecca, where did Michael Pearl say that? Can you give me the exact reference, book & page number, URL, or whatever. Thanks!



Please put that paragraph in context. Read the ful...

2015-08-28T09:34:35.187-07:00

Please put that paragraph in context. Read the full article.
http://www.nogreaterjoy.org/articles/marriage-family/husbandwife-relations/article-display/archive/1999/september/01/abusive-husband/

I used to tgink Michael Pearl was crazy. Until I listened to his sermon called ” when forgiveness is a sin”, completelin the context of pediphiles
My father molested his own children and this made since to me. It gave me the freedom to kick him out of my life forever.

Listen to that here:
http://nogreaterjoy.org/shop/when-forgiveness-is-sin-download

Yes I do not aggree with everything he says but he is out to protect children and promote marriage. Thank you for trying to expose false doctrine. My family was apart of one ( Jonathan lindvahl) but Michael pearl is a human being with faults as well as great wisdom



I've written some more on this topic on my new...

2015-04-23T17:12:14.525-07:00

I've written some more on this topic on my new blog: http://rebeccaprewett.com/2015/04/23/the-problem-with-purity-culture-is-not-purity/



Thank you for this! I have three boys and have bee...

2013-05-31T14:59:27.137-07:00

Thank you for this! I have three boys and have been waiting for someone wise to respond to the article. It seems to me that if people are really serious about not wearing something so they won't cause lust they would need to only leave the house wearing baggy clothes that cover every part of their skin.



Great post, wise post, and I appreciate your views...

2013-05-31T11:50:39.117-07:00

Great post, wise post, and I appreciate your views as a mother of many sons! But I must say I will have to bookmark your blog to read later (or maybe through feedly) because I am a coffee addict who is currently giving up coffee, and your background is bringing about thoughts of hauling out my coffeepot again! (I say this lightheartedly but yes I think I did have an actual physical craving a minute ago!) But you should feel free to go right on ahead and enjoy your coffee. :) I get it!



Matthew: I am raising a glass (non-alcoholic) to y...

2013-05-31T08:27:30.291-07:00

Matthew: I am raising a glass (non-alcoholic) to you today. Thank you for pointing out that the crazy doctrine doesn't do men any favors, either.

Also a glass to Rebecca for posting this in the first place. :)



I'm going to weigh in here as a guy who was ra...

2013-05-30T13:35:08.296-07:00

I'm going to weigh in here as a guy who was raised in an ultra-conservative Christian bubble and now live in LA surrounded by Hollywood (minister there).

The ultra-conservative Christian movement takes the responsibility for lust out of the men and blames it on the women. This is both anti-woman and anti-men. It reduces us men to animals who are unable to control our physical urges. It reduces women to sex objects who must cover up as their true worth is in the eyes of a man who will make her his Proverbs 31 woman, provide for her needs, and keep her pregnant (this extreme isn't prevalent everywhere but is out there).

Modesty is cultural and guys will lust no matter what. As men we must learn how to gain self-control over our flesh. There is a picture that I like as it proves a point. Two Arab men are rubbernecking (looking behind them) at two burka clad women who are passing by with their ankles exposed due to their gait. It would take a miniskirt here in LA to get that kind of attention. There are tribes in Africa that remain almost nude except for a strand of beads around the waist. Take those beads off and you will cause a scandal.

Growing up in the ultra-conservative bubble anything that showed cleavage was provocative. Anything that showed off the figure was titillating. It was quite an adjustment going to college where women dressed like normal human beings with short shorts and tank tops. But I reigned in my hormones and controlled my thoughts.

I'm now surrounded by the culture of this world. If I go to a pool party or the beach most of the women will be wearing bikinis. It's what is socially acceptable in this day and age. Since I've broken free from this puritanical/hypocritical culture that I was in as a youth it doesn't bother me. There's no "forbidden" aspect of hanging out at the pool with a group of friends who might be wearing a bikini. Growing up it was treated as if they were topless which just added to the potential for lust. I actually believe that the ultra-conservative movement increases lust by focusing so much on it and by making the women the culprits.

Besides, we are called to engage and transform culture. We are to be the Jews to the Jews and Greeks to Greeks. I shouldn't be able to spot a homeschooled family in public simply by how they dress. Believe me, I can spot them at the beach. Let's engage the hearts and minds of our culture by eliminating the hypocritical ultra-modesty that in fact draws more attention to the ones living it out. Modesty is a heart attitude more than what one wears. A woman can be more provocative in a tankini then another woman in a bikini. It's all about the heart attitude and the spirit in which she is operating.

Yes, I appreciate women who dress modestly. But it's not their fault if I have a problem with lust. There's been times in my life when I've avoided the beach and other times in which I've hung out there a lot. But each of us are answerable to God for our actions. Not the actions of our brothers who lusted because they saw a bit of cleavage or naval.



The best mercy any incestuous pedophile should be ...

2013-03-18T03:05:13.935-07:00

The best mercy any incestuous pedophile should be able to hope for is to die a slow lonely painful death, absolutely unforgiven.

We must sometimes resist the urge of punishing them more directly.



Ummm...the mistake was on purpose. It fits with th...

2012-06-27T20:13:27.335-07:00

Ummm...the mistake was on purpose. It fits with the cartoon.

I must not have taught you to capitalize the seasons because I never make mistakes. Except on purpose...



You made a mistake in your headline. This deeply d...

2012-05-27T15:53:08.100-07:00

You made a mistake in your headline. This deeply disturbs me as you were the one who was responsible for educating me during my K-12 years. I am now calling into question everything that I have ever learned....

Btw, did you teach me that the seasons are supposed to be capitalized? I had always thought they were but recently learned that I wasn't supposed to. I'm trying to remember if the seasons were included on that chart that you made or if I had thrown them in there along with the months of the year.



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2012-04-24T20:46:07.704-07:00

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I know it was months ago, but this is an amazing p...

2012-03-20T21:49:18.418-07:00

I know it was months ago, but this is an amazing post! When you're in the thick of it, there are safe people you can really talk to, and UNSAFE people you should avoid. Usually the unsafe ones are the ones who haven't had their own lives shattered yet. They're so super-pietistic, and "spiritual." -- The safe ones have experienced the storms of life, and aren't so sure about all the steps and clean, tidy answers any more.



Can you cite this source please? I need it for a c...

2012-03-15T06:05:15.006-07:00

Can you cite this source please? I need it for a class and want to make sure that I have correct sources/quotes and not just "hearsay".



Post like this are why I wish you would write here...

2012-02-02T09:28:09.557-08:00

Post like this are why I wish you would write here more often. Thank you, I will be passing this along to friends to share with there daughters. More of Christ + Less of me = True Beauty!
Also, congrats on the grandbaby...let the fun begin!



you are invited to follow my blog

2012-01-14T11:53:04.837-08:00

you are invited to follow my blog



Rebecca, I ran across your blog from a comment you...

2012-01-02T13:47:03.543-08:00

Rebecca, I ran across your blog from a comment you made about intimacy on another site. I like your writing. Isn't it amazing all the things we learn as we begin to focus on God/Jesus and His teachings. Also amazing all the lies we have accepted in the past for accepting "stuff" we thought was biblical. I would like to use your response to intimacy in a book I am writing but would need to know how to credit you. Please respond to me. Thanks and God bless you and your family.



"... to read how you describe your journey&qu...

2011-08-24T03:50:27.239-07:00

"... to read how you describe your journey" - I meant. Sorry.

Monica



Dear Rebecca, I came to visit your site for the f...

2011-08-24T03:49:19.676-07:00

Dear Rebecca,

I came to visit your site for the first time yesterday, from thatmom's. It was fascinating to me to read how your journey, your fall to grace. This interests me greatly. I'm at the beginning of a journey of my own, I think... it's exciting, frightening, but I realize I now approach God in prayer with much more confidence and a feeling of intimacy and assurance... and I appreciate God's grace so much more. I would love to contact you if I may, I'd like to ask you something but I see no e-mail address here. How can I reach you?

Monica



Hello, I do not agree with the previous commentato...

2010-11-23T22:41:41.277-08:00

Hello, I do not agree with the previous commentator - not so simple



I've had that kind of experience before when I...

2010-11-02T11:26:34.062-07:00

I've had that kind of experience before when I was little. Little boys always wanting to be the boss of the game or whatever.

On a completely unrelated note: your blog has the same name as mine.



I can fully understand why you chose to post anony...

2010-10-16T17:44:35.482-07:00

I can fully understand why you chose to post anonymously. I just wish I could contact you and dialogue further.

It baffles me how a mother could want any contact with the person who sexually abused her child, let alone stay married to him. Sadly, many do. Many families react, when sexual abuse is disclosed, by rallying around the perpetrator and ignoring, ostracizing, or verbally attacking the victim. It makes no sense to me.

As someone who suffers from PTSD, I know how difficult that can be. My heart goes out to your partner, and to you. May she find healing as you continue to love and support her.



My parter was sexually abused by her father from a...

2010-10-08T14:56:07.542-07:00

My parter was sexually abused by her father from age 1 - 16. The only reason it stopped is because the mother walked in and saw here hushand having sex with her 16 year old. Even sicker, he had sex with her in front of her little sister (they shared a room). I am not sure what he all did to her. Witnessing is horrible enough.

Anyway....the molester and the mother are still married today. The little sister won't have anything to do with her parents. My partner does see her mother and father on occasion, they live faraway. I don't understand what kind of mother would choose herself, a pedofile and her own children.

I don't understand why my partner keeps contact. But I don't pry either. She has PTSD and I don't want to trigger anything. Still, I don't understand.

Also, there is another sister who was not exposed to the abuse. She lives in town as the molester. She allows her children around him. I like her but I know she has no idea the impact of the abuse on her sister.